Question for husbands and fathers

[The_Ghost]

How many of you came from broken homes where your father was the one who wrecked the marriage and becuase of what you saw and experienced, has it made you a better husband or father?

 

[Gambino]

is that you in your ava bor?

 

[The_Ghost]

is that you in your ava bor?

yup

 

[HumorMe]

Not me. My parents were married for 45 years until he died last year.

He was an excellent father who valued his family as his greatest asset. I have tried to pattern my abilities after him.

 

[Gambino]

Looking goog dawg

 

[The_Ghost]

Not me. My parents were married for 45 years until he died last year.

He was an excellent father who valued his family as his greatest asset. I have tried to pattern my abilities after him.

Excellent to hear bro!!!


My father is in my life and has many great qualities and loves his kids but there are also things that I will never respect and he knows it.

 

[Buddy_Christ]

my mother wrecked the marrige. my dad busted his ass to finish raising the 4 of us. he did the best he could considering how much shit we pulled that he has no clue about.

i've relied on my dad's way of raising us for the most part. works good.

 

[BrothaBill]

is that you in your ava bor?

Yeah, is that you BD in the avi, are you pinching a loaf in the backyard again, just curious.

 

[HumorMe]

Excellent to hear bro!!!


My father is in my life and has many great qualities and loves his kids but there are also things that I will never respect and he knows it.

The main thing is that he is in your life. As long as he knows where you stand then it is good.

 

[The_Ghost]

Yeah, is that you BD in the avi, are you pinching a loaf in the backyard again, just curious.

LOL yea taht is me, I am walking up a steep hill and the camera is at the top of the hill which is why I look like that.

 

[The_Ghost]

The main thing is that he is in your life. As long as he knows where you stand then it is good.

I agree and know that, we have an excellent relationshipe.

The reason for my question is are other people in the same situation that I came from conscious about not making the same mistakes their father did as they saw the ramifications of the mistakes daily growing up.

Don't get me wrong, I had a fantastice childhood and wouldn't change a thing, I am just well aware of the hurt and pain my mother went through while trying ot put on a brave face for us kids.

 

[BrothaBill]

LOL yea taht is me, I am walking up a steep hill and the camera is at the top of the hill which is why I look like that.

Ok, it makes sense now. Just looks kinda funny with the angle and all, seems like a slight strain as well with the chin up slightly LOL. Otherwise, lookin good maing.

 

[HumorMe]

I agree and know that, we have an excellent relationshipe.

The reason for my question is are other people in the same situation that I came from conscious about not making the same mistakes their father did as they saw the ramifications of the mistakes daily growing up.

Don't get me wrong, I had a fantastice childhood and wouldn't change a thing, I am just well aware of the hurt and pain my mother went through while trying ot put on a brave face for us kids.

I know what you are talking about. The thing with my father is that he gave it his all when it came to raising us and I could never thank him enough even though I did on a regular basis.

When I got married we waited five years before having kids. We had our own hobbies and we enjoyed them to the hilt. When my first daughter came along I still enjoyed my hobbies while my wife tended to motherhood.

I found myself falling into the rural trap(my town is small and countrified) of the woman takes care of everything and the man can do as he pleases.

My second daughter was born and I guess reality slapped me in the face although it should have earlier. I stopped all of my activities and became a father to my kids. I have never regretted it since. They are the most important things in my life as well as my wife.

Going to be my oldest daughters softball coach this year. I have never coached a team before and I am nevous as hell although I would never let on to it. Raising kids is and will be the hardest and most rewarding experience a person will do in their lifetime if they so elect.

Kids are awesome and being a father is equally as awesome.

 

[The_Ghost]

Ok, it makes sense now. Just looks kinda funny with the angle and all, seems like a slight strain as well with the chin up slightly LOL. Otherwise, lookin good maing.

Slight strain!!! Its a steep hill and I had about a dozen beers in me, it was a BIG strain LOL

Thanks bro!

 

[The_Ghost]

I know what you are talking about. The thing with my father is that he gave it his all when it came to raising us and I could never thank him enough even though I did on a regular basis.

When I got married we waited five years before having kids. We had our own hobbies and we enjoyed them to the hilt. When my first daughter came along I still enjoyed my hobbies while my wife tended to motherhood.

I found myself falling into the rural trap(my town is small and countrified) of the woman takes care of everything and the man can do as he pleases.

My second daughter was born and I guess reality slapped me in the face although it should have earlier. I stopped all of my activities and became a father to my kids. I have never regretted it since. They are the most important things in my life as well as my wife.

Going to be my oldest daughters softball coach this year. I have never coached a team before and I am nevous as hell although I would never let on to it. Raising kids is and will be the hardest and most rewarding experience a person will do in their lifetime if they so elect.

Kids are awesome and being a father is equally as awesome.

That is excellent bro!!

I think that is why me moving to their city is going to be the best thing for all of us. I have been on my own since 19, have tons of friends here and have lived a life that has been very hard and fast. By getting out of here and to a new place, I will be better dedicated to my family and it won't be such a hard adjustment as it would be here with all my normal activities waiting for me.

 

[HumorMe]

That is excellent bro!!

I think that is why me moving to their city is going to be the best thing for all of us. I have been on my own since 19, have tons of friends here and have lived a life that has been very hard and fast. By getting out of here and to a new place, I will be better dedicated to my family and it won't be such a hard adjustment as it would be here with all my normal activities waiting for me.

It's good that you realize that although I know leaving will probably be hard. It will be tough for a while but it will get easier. I wish you the best of luck and hope happiness will permeate your family.

Good luck.

 

[EnderJE]

How many of you came from broken homes where your father was the one who wrecked the marriage and becuase of what you saw and experienced, has it made you a better husband or father?

Not me. My father was the one who always tried to make sure that everything turned out alright and pushed us to do better then him.

 

[BrandonXJ]

My family is straight out of 'Leave it to Beaver', everyone is friggin happy and my mom bakes crap incessently and my dad comes home and reads the paper and it drives me nuts..

but given the alternative, I suppose it's not all that bad.

 

[Rex]

If I'm half the father to my kids that mine is to me then I'll be damn happy with myself.