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Psychological question ADHD?

big_bad_buff

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I was seeing a chick for a few weeks that was basically a quack job.

Symptoms

She was pretty slutty, the way she dressed talked etc, but now that she met me she has been dressing more classy, and trying to act like a better person, like I’m a Christian, now she is going to church and buying all these Jesus nick nacks, fish license plates, Christian magazines to impress me or show me that she wants the same thing, which is really weird.

she is clingy, not just to me but like people she just meets and starts hanging out with, she automatically thinks their her best friends…..she hugs people she works with and customers that she really doesn’t know that well at all (she doesn’t know were to draw the line on being overly friendly and just friendly) people flirt with her and she thinks they’re just being nice, I don’t know if it’s being naive or just plane dumb

She tells me people are her close friends, but after talking to the people they’re kind of clueless of being "close” friends

It’s like she is in her own little world where she perceives things differently.

She would tell me the same stories or things that happened to her 2 to 3 times a week, only small details would change each time, like the reasons behind the story etc.

For instance she told me that she didn’t like something because “this” happened in her past, but then a week later she didn’t like the same thing because of “this” (something else) happened in her life. Like little things don’t match up.

Every time we would talk it ended up we would talk about her, like the few stories that happened in her life that she already told me 2 or 3 times before

She told me she has HD Hyperactivity Disorder and I’m not too sure what all is involved with it. She has also told me growing up her mom would somewhat favor her brother but neglect her. Are these clues to anything besides nut job?
 
she is searching to belong and be wanted....it will be an undertaking on your part. i would move cautiously and from a distance if you are still interested...these people play scenerios over and over in their minds to make sense out of what is before them...the live in great fear of rejection and being alone....it is sad, but they are longing for reasoning....
 
yeah it sounds like a dependency disorder. They cling to people for fear of losing them. Afraid of rejection and feel helpless and depressed and my have suicidal thoughts. This sounds about right since she tries to change who she is so that you'll accept her.
 
Keep a journal if you want to be a good person and help her out, show her what she is doing and confront her. Or, you good be just a POS christian and dump her.
On one hand you can help her learn what you see, on the other hand, you can just claim to be a Christian without going through the motions

She obviously digs you
 
borderline personality disorder

People with BPD often have highly unstable patterns of social relationships. While they can develop intense but stormy attachments, their attitudes towards family, friends, and loved ones may suddenly shift from idealization (great admiration and love) to devaluation (intense anger and dislike). Thus, they may form an immediate attachment and idealize the other person, but when a slight separation or conflict occurs, they switch unexpectedly to the other extreme and angrily accuse the other person of not caring for them at all. Even with family members, individuals with BPD are highly sensitive to rejection, reacting with anger and distress to such mild separations as a vacation, a business trip, or a sudden change in plans. These fears of abandonment seem to be related to difficulties feeling emotionally connected to important persons when they are physically absent, leaving the individual with BPD feeling lost and perhaps worthless. Suicide threats and attempts may occur along with anger at perceived abandonment and disappointments.

People with BPD exhibit other impulsive behaviors, such as excessive spending, binge eating and risky sex. BPD often occurs together with other psychiatric problems, particularly bipolar disorder, depression, anxiety disorders, substance abuse, and other personality disorders.
http://www.nimh.nih.gov/publicat/bpd.cfm

jk. but it sounds funny to diagnose her.
 
well i broke up with her a month or so into it, i personally couldnt handle it. but we talk, and i know she wants to be with me still, i just know i cant help her and be in a relatioship with her, it wont work. i do want to help her, she is a very sweet carring person with a huge heart. everyone says dont get involved, but if i dont help her, who will?

BrothaBill said:
Keep a journal if you want to be a good person and help her out, show her what she is doing and confront her. Or, you good be just a POS christian and dump her.
On one hand you can help her learn what you see, on the other hand, you can just claim to be a Christian without going through the motions

She obviously digs you
 
lol, yeah, i dont think it's my position to help her personally, maybe just point her in the right direction, in a very nice way......i work with her lol

JayC9 said:
forget it, you ain't gonna be able to fix or change anything, once a quack always a quack, run
 
big_bad_buff said:
well i broke up with her a month or so into it, i personally couldnt handle it. but we talk, and i know she wants to be with me still, i just know i cant help her and be in a relatioship with her, it wont work. i do want to help her, she is a very sweet carring person with a huge heart. everyone says dont get involved, but if i dont help her, who will?


YOU you big Jughead!! Help her out and marry her, she needs you and you need a woman who cares about you. Do you think some with it together girl is going to worship you. NO, it takes work on both sides.

If you blow this, you will be single for the rest of your life, mark my words!!
 
From the fact that you're noticing all her faults, it doesn't sound like you like her too much. I don't see this relationship going very far. It sounds like she does have some symptoms of ADHD, as well as some coping issues (with reality). If you were into her, you wouldn't be noticing the bad stuff bro, trust me.
 
man, i'm not dating her,i BROKE UP WITH HER......i told her i broke up with her because i'm not wanting a relationship right now which is true, but the main reasons are the ones that i listed.....i'm just wondering how i can help her, or tell her what she has or what not, so she can get help, and not just ignore it like everyone else has
 
often ADHD is associated with bipolar disorder or depression.. sounds to me like she mite of been a bite bipolar.. and worst off sounds like she was doing nothing to treat either...

Some of the behaviour you describes sounds like she was acting out...

I dunno i have ADHD and i am nothing like that except hyper and slightly self involved.. but i don't tell the same stories over and over again.. that's a little over the top..My assumption is that she didn't tell you the full story.. when ppl start dating someone they often don't tell them the full story for fear of rejection.... Her telling you she had ADHd migyt of been a step into letting you knoe she had a few more prolbems.. What you describe was more than ADHD... in In my opinion and personal experience.
 
*MissFit* said:
often ADHD is associated with bipolar disorder or depression.. sounds to me like she mite of been a bite bipolar.. and worst off sounds like she was doing nothing to treat either...

Some of the behaviour you describes sounds like she was acting out...

I dunno i have ADHD and i am nothing like that except hyper and slightly self involved.. but i don't tell the same stories over and over again.. that's a little over the top..My assumption is that she didn't tell you the full story.. when ppl start dating someone they often don't tell them the full story for fear of rejection.... Her telling you she had ADHd migyt of been a step into letting you knoe she had a few more prolbems.. What you describe was more than ADHD... in In my opinion and personal experience.

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U sound like u have dealt with this before cupcake
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awittyusername said:
Just sounds like an average chick to me.

Stick to pron my friend.
ur evil
 
to a lot of degree's your right we try to over think things.. and in some respects it does seem rather odd for a girl to give up her what one would consider a psychlogical default right from the get go...

When ever things don't work everyone tends to over analyze.. what did she or he do wrong.. what could of been done differently.. instead of fuck.. it just didnt work.. or why is it when ever ppl break up is one always deemed as a freakin nut..

Maybe both ppl just suck:P


Anyhow my point is this.. have a nice day :)




awittyusername said:
Just sounds like an average chick to me.

Stick to pron my friend.
 
Question.. i understand you see a lot wrong wtih her.. but does she see anything wrong with her self?

Because until she sees a problem.. not much can be done.. u can't help someone who doesn't want help

:)
big_bad_buff said:
man, i'm not dating her,i BROKE UP WITH HER......i told her i broke up with her because i'm not wanting a relationship right now which is true, but the main reasons are the ones that i listed.....i'm just wondering how i can help her, or tell her what she has or what not, so she can get help, and not just ignore it like everyone else has
 
*MissFit* said:
Question.. i understand you see a lot wrong wtih her.. but does she see anything wrong with her self?

Because until she sees a problem.. not much can be done.. u can't help someone who doesn't want help

:)

people like that never see the problem and never will. no amount of showing her will work, and my guess is, it will eventually backfire.
get out while you can..
 
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