People with a loved one that has passed...

[superqt4u2nv]

how often do you visit there grave? Do you feel a connection to them there?

 

[rsnoble-im-back]

1x year and yes.

 

[WODIN]

Never.

 

[HumorMe]

My father died unexpectantly in March and I visit his grave quite often. In fact, I just got back about 30 minutes ago. I place a poinsettia plant on his grave because he loved Christmas time and the different plants he would display during this time.

If I have a problem I am dealing with, I will visit his grave and talk to him about it. Very personal time I spend there and I feel it helps me tremendously.

 

[Dakotah]

nope havent been therre since the funeral - i have breakdowns otherwise.

 

[Ulcasterdropout]

birthdays

 

[bdog527]

My dad passed in late August and I have only been to his grave a few times. It's just too hard for me right now and everytime I go I am just overwhelmed with emotion. I need to go though, and face it. The more I go the better probably.
Maybe I'll go this afternoon.

 

[Mr. dB]

I've never been to the gravesite where my mom and my brother are buried, even though I drive by it several times a year.

 

[Lady Viking]

once a year

 

[jaded]

Twice a year.

 

[big4life]

I visit my father's grave often. I'll also change out the silk flowers several times a year. I visit a special lady friend's grave once a year. I feel closer to them when I go to places that we went to together, or do things that we did together.

 

[jenscats5]

how often do you visit there grave? Do you feel a connection to them there?

I never visit where my parents are buried cuz I don't know where they are buried...... My dad died on Xmas eve & my sister never bothered to tell me or of the funeral/burial arrangements & changed her phone #'s so I couldn't get in touch with her.....my dad had also had my mom's ashes in the house so I never found out what happened to them....

 

[c-sharp minor]

It's hard, emotionally still, to visit my last g/f's gravesite, but I do try and make it out there whenever possible.

I haven't been by in a couple of months, but will probably make a jaunt out there on Christmas.

 

[The_Ghost]

once a year

 

[H_T_]

Our family plot is in the middle of the ghetto, i fucking hate it there, a lot of low-lives around. My parents grew up in that nieghborhood 50 years ago, now it's a slum. I don't go there much, it's hard to give proper attention there. i have a big picture of my dad over the entertainment center in the living room, i guess it's my way of still ttrying to share something with him, not a day goes by without me thinking of him.

 

[bran987]

Qt

 

[Carmen]

my dad dies a year ago this month. I've never been to his grave and don't know where it is.
Visiting a grave site would be for you, not for the dead. If you want to set aside some time to think about the person, just do that in your own space or whenever the feeling hits you. I find that whenever i have a problem, i miss my dad- i could tell him anything and he'd make me laugh, so those are the times i miss him the most- when i wish i could tell him something.

 

[CFZB]

Never.

i tried to feel a connection when they were here though.

 

[CFZB]

Tidal waves don't beg forgiveness
Crashed and on their way
Father he enjoyed collisions; others walked away
A snowflake falls in may.
And the doors are open now as the bells are ringing out
Cause the man of the hour is taking his final bow
Goodbye for now.

Nature has its own religion; gospel from the land
Father ruled by long division, young men they pretend
Old men comprehend.

And the sky breaks at dawn; shedding light upon this town
They'll all come ‘round
Cause the man of the hour is taking his final bow
G'bye for now.

And the road
The old man paved
The broken seems along the way
The rusted signs, left just for me
He was guiding me, love, his own way
Now the man of the hour is taking his final bow
As the curtain comes down
I feel that this is just g'bye for now.

Pearl Jam

(just seemed to fit the thread.)

 

[biteme]

how often do you visit there grave? Do you feel a connection to them there?

When I first visited my granny's grave nearly 15 years after her death, a miracle occured. I'd get ridiculed about it here, so I won't talk about it.

 

[CFZB]

When I first visited my granny's grave nearly 15 years after her death, a miracle occured. I'd get ridiculed about it here, so I won't talk about it.

they are gay.Funny how it works that way.

 

[superqt4u2nv]

The 9 year anniversary of my fathers passing is coming up and got me thinking. I have only been to his grave a handful of times I honestly don't remember when the last visit was. I don't feel an emotional connection to him there at all.

 

[obiwan9962]

being of chinese (partial) descent we have ancestors day
a day (a holiday in the orient) that we visit the sites of our ancestors

not easy for my because most of mine are divided between canton, china county claire, ireland and westmoreland parish, jamaica

and both my parents died in the states
my da 9 years ago
and my mum and granme last year
miss my mum fiercely
but she and granme will be forever in my heart
and shape who and what i am forever


love ya Q
take care
pm me if you ever need a friend

 

[theoak01]

Ive been to my greatgrandfather's grave once other then the funeral,and that was last year,I had a freakin anxiety attack and had to leave,I wish I could visit more often because he gave so much to move my grandfather and his family over from ireland,I really respect that