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Our character is not defined by our circumstances...
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Werd said:but by how WE CHOOSE to react to them.
Very fitting to issues I'm dealing with..
The Bigdawg said:
Happy endings sugar
Werd
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Not happy endings....
But rather... happy BEGINNINGS. Remember guys, when one door closes another one will open. If you dont find an open door. Then jump through the window. If you cant find a window then knock the wall down, jump over it or keep following along the wall until there is a way to the other side.
Life is not about the end result... it is about the journey.
Be well.
But rather... happy BEGINNINGS. Remember guys, when one door closes another one will open. If you dont find an open door. Then jump through the window. If you cant find a window then knock the wall down, jump over it or keep following along the wall until there is a way to the other side.
Life is not about the end result... it is about the journey.
Be well.
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Ulcasterdropout
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Some reactions are instinctual.
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Ulcasterdropout
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Hypothetically - I walk up to you and your kids on the street one day and I put a gun to your daughter's head...Werd said:
do you have a choice?
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Ulcasterdropout
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Nah, I adore Werd. I'm just trying to make a point gently, by using a not so gentle example.DIVISION said:^^^we live by the gun, so we die by the gun as a kid.......
UlcasterCripSet, I think you need to plot, plan and strategize this shit on the real, y0!
DIV
Sometimes, free will can go out the fucking window.
I wish I wasn't such a pessimist.
lucidblue
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Smurfy said:
I agree, sometimes we create our own circumstances.
Our character is definitely not defined by our circumstances. I agree that it's in how we react to them. It's also in how you treat others (do you treat them as you would want to be treated?), whether you respect people around you, how you act, etc. Do you lie, cheat, steal, go after things that aren't yours? Or are you honest, trustworthy, fair, caring, considerate? These are things that define character.
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patsfan1379
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always forgive... never forget...
what goes around comes around.
what goes around comes around.
Werd
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Ulcasterdropout said:
No, I humbly disagree with intelligent non-ebonic lingo.
Someone holds a gun to my child's head. How I choose to react is totally on me. Do I get hysterical and scream and carry on? Do I try like a motherfucker to remain calm and THINK.... "How can I best get my child out of that situation?" Even though that situation was thrust upon the parent (meaning they did not ask for it) that parent still ultimately decides what they will do next.
It is not about making the right or wrong choice. Even Mr Division is an excellent Monday morning quaterback I'd imagine. It is about continuing to TRY to do the right thing.
Regardless of what one thinks, that child will ALWAYS forgive you when you screw up (in restrospect we all can say I shoulda, woulda, coulda). But the number of days when they make excuses for why mommy or daddy chose to stop trying will eventually end.
If you screw up it's ok. Mistakes are our greatest teachers. But it is NOT OK to just give up...
As I said before - it is not the circumstances that define our character.
And yes, many of our circumstances ARE by our own design. Still, isn't our character ultimately defined by what we choose to do next?
IE - someone develops a drug habit and loses their job and custody of their child. Do they just give up when it is suddenly all gone? Certainly no one held that person down and forced them to do drugs. One can only argue that THEIR parents or lack of opportunity or whatever screwed them up just so much. Ultimately they will be the ones to decide, "What next?" Do they suck it up, seek out the help they need and get clean and start over from scratch and claw to get their life and child back?.... or do they just give in after failing for the umpteenth time?
WerdWerd said:but by how WE CHOOSE to react to them.
OMG I miss you girl hope all is well.
DIVISION said:^^^That's truly bangin' Lil' girl.
Baby Yasmina........if you play your cards right, everythang's gonna be alright......If you play your cards right, tonight will be the night.....
DIV
my redolent DIVISION
you are such a poet
and you damn well know it
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DIVISION said:Reticent, Redolent, but not Redundant....
Why do I have so many enemies, where do they come from, who do they run from?
DIV
I am positive ...in fact I am 100% sure you are not redundant DIV. Do you contribute much to this world??
Stop crying...noone hates you
"Mistakes are our greatest teachers."
Yes, but sadly, not everyone pays attention in class. OT, but worth saying.
Yes, but sadly, not everyone pays attention in class. OT, but worth saying.
Werd
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Pamela said:
This thread wasn't about me at all, but was meant for a dear friend who has found themselves in the midst of some harsh reality. Some of that reality I can relate to. Just wanted that person to be able to get some more support without that person having to ask for it. That individual has a great support system already, but one can never have too much... can they?
Pamela your words though have touched me personally.
THANK YOU
Though I dont have control over many of the forces that have impact on me I certainly need to learn how to better deal with MY frustration over these forces.
And SuperQT - I miss you guys too, but I have to be honest. My days and nights are full with the kids. We are getting on, just US. I am taking this small window of time now for us to figure OURSELVES out better.
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