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[fit1]

Do any of you out there have husbands that are out of town a lot for work or...guys, are you out of town a lot?

The reason I'm asking is because my b/f has a great opportunity to make some great money selling...but he'd be gone to Michigan and other places for 2-3 weeks at a time and then he'd come home for 4-5 days...I could always go with him and be with him all the time as it is now, but I can't bring myself to move out of Texas away from my family...isn't gonna' happen. I'm assuming if he's makin' that much money, we can afford to fly my up there for a few days or so when he's not down here...I just don't know how well I'll like seeing him for only a week and then not see him again for 2-3 more....I want him to take this opportunity because right now he does not like where he's working and he doesn't make GREAT money at it...We're talkin' a difference between 40,000 a year to 100,000 a year...?????

So, if anyone has a situation like this, I'd love to hear about it and any input ya' have... Would be much appreciated...

fit1

 

[AziaReign]

Ugh....Michigan...............Michigan sucks ass! (I live there)

 

[The Shadow]

Fit1 - I believe two people can make any situation work...

 

[Raina]

I think if you really love someone, than distance isn't an issue. If anything, it makes you appreciate the time you have together more.

 

[frorider6]

Fit1 - I believe two people can make any situation work...

and one should be willing to make sacrifices for true love.

 

[WODIN]

and one should be willing to make sacrifices for true love.

Especially with goats blood!

 

[vixenbabe]

I can relate to this thread....

My hubby's job can take him away from home for weeks, and at times, months ! Thank God his company pays for weekend visits for those long hauls.

To be honest, I think it's made us closer in many ways. We realize that we miss each other's company. I find that I miss his little annoying traits as well I, of course , am perfect so he misses my perfection..lol

It can work....has worked for us at least.Space can bring you closer,maybe the reason we have stayed 2-gether for sooo long..who knows!

If anyone is thinking about the trust factor. Not an issue with me or with him. We trust and respect one another enough not to ruin a good thing. Nothing in this world is worth the loss of a great marriage or relationship. HARD TO COME BY THESE DAYS!

Good luck!

 

[fit1]

Those thoughts have crossed my mind...I agree Raina...it may make the time we do get to see each other even that much more special...
I do know that I'm not going to discourage the idea...it's an awesome opportunity for him and I don't really want him to miss out on it...

 

[fit1]

Vixen...
Yea...the trust thing would be unquestioned...I would never do anything to hurt him and he's actually the first guy I can say I truly trust...so that wouldn't be an issue either...

 

[THeMaCHinE]

If you value your relationship with him and you're not willing to go with him most of the time, then it probably isn't a good idea. You are talking about him being gone weeks at a time. It is highly, highly unprobably that you'd be able to maintain the "connection," the intamacy that only face-to-face alone time, walks in the park, dinners out, cuddling on the couch, etc., can provide.

Not saying that it can't work. It's my belief, based on the experiences of hundreds of couples, that the odds would be severely stacked against you. You don't even have the tentative tie of marriage to bind you at this time.

If you really want him to have the opportunity, and you want what's best for your relationship, go with him.

P.S. I used to work a job that took me away from home for weeks at a time. And it was very, very hard on my relationship with my wife.

If you want more information about the necessisty of spending face-to-face time with your mate, click on the link in my sig. There's a ton of great info there. The time discussion is also included within those discussions.