Never Done This Before... Anyone got any advice?

[ThePolishHammer]

Hey, I just got out of my first serious relationship with a chick, it lasted for about two years, i started dating her when i was 17. Now that things are over, Im feeling a bit weird. Out of place, and pretty bumbed out. And Im not really sure what to do about it. I figured just goin out and hittin on some chicks would do the trick. but thats harder to get myself to do then it usually is. I've got no energy, and I think if i tried to put any sort of life into a conversation itd be sickly transparent and really obvious that Im pretty down right now. I really dont know what to do right now, im hopin itll pass with time. Anybody have any suggestions on how to get over this, and get some orientation?

 

[pauly]

Go out with friends that know how to pick up girls, have many drunken nights with them and the girls you pick up from the bar........only time will heal your pain my son.

 

[Mattavelli]

time and cocaine..lots and lots of cocaine..maybe a few syringes of heroin too. that may help.

 

[Jimsbbc]

Fuck that. just get on a cycle and workout every day. It will help clear your head.

 

[hardrock]

I know exactly what you mean. I have been dating this girl for about 5 years, and about 9 months ago we broke up for 6 months. During that time I figured it was like riding a bike, and that you never forget how to pick up ladies. Not true. I had no game whatsoever. I actually felt shy and very selfconcious.

Pauly's right, go out with some smooth, good looking friends, and pick up some bar flys. Maybe, just maybe you'll find one there to fill the void. I doubt it, but you'll probably have fun lookin and testing 'em out.

 

[gwl9dta4]

Seriously dude, time is the only thing that will help. You now have to reflect and learn from what happened, i know it sucks and hurts and all but it's something you will have to go through in growing up to be a man. Nothing will fix your pain but time. You will survive and come out stronger with a much better sense of self and a new outlook on future relationships.

Better times are ahead.

 

[Jimsbbc]

I have had ones like that where it took me a year to get over it and to start dating again. What a waste of time. Don't do that what ever you do.

 

[strider364]

Seriously dude, time is the only thing that will help. You now have to reflect and learn from what happened, i know it sucks and hurts and all but it's something you will have to go through in growing up to be a man. Nothing will fix your pain but time. You will survive and come out stronger with a much better sense of self and a new outlook on future relationships.

Better times are ahead.

That is about as solid adivce as your gonna get! Get back on that horse cowboy, have fun, enjoy single life.

 

[SofaGeorge]

The world is full of interesting people. Lick your wounds for as little a time as you can. Then get out there and live fully.

Relationships come and go. People come and go. Jobs come and go.

The only thing in my life that is constant is going to the gym and my ability to enjoy the world around me.

 

[Bikini Mod]

You are young and I know it hurts, but go out with friends, hit the gym and enjoy yourself. It takes a little time, but you'll get back into the swing of things...

 

[Y_lifter]

Why worry about getting back into a relationship right away?
Think about doing things for hammer for a change...

Do something you have always wanted to do, but didn't when you felt tied down with the relationship.

Get yourself in order first, and then you can get back into a relationship.

Take a trip, Learn a new skill or sport, get over one before getting involved with another woman or she will see right through it and not like it..

 

[notoriousQQ]

No need to rush in to anything or try to expedite the healing process. Time not only will heal the wound but will help add clarity and insight to your current situation. It's a growth process, just focus on learning more about yourself and what you want in life and what type of person you want to be with from this situation and move forward.

 

[augastes_stiranko]

Another reason I stopped being in serious relationships.

 

[ThePolishHammer]

Hey Thanks alot for the advice and comments everyone. It really helped alot.

 

[TEXgrl]

just get out, have fun, hang out with friends, don't worry about meeting someone, i always met someone when i wasn't even looking. good luck!

 

[PolishHammer1977]

Hold your head high brother.
People are shit.

 

[augastes_stiranko]

GO OUT DANCING !!!!! The best and funnest way to meet new people while having a lot of fun. That's what I do when I get depressed. Works wonders.