Please Scroll Down to See Forums Below Okay here goes. I was with my ex girl friend for 3 years. We broke up about a year ago and got back together a few times, but nothing serious. Okay so as of Two weeks ago we got back and it seemed as if we bought really have changed for the better and people "us" apologized for alot of shit we put each other through. Now I really love this girl with all my heart. I just broke up with my current ex to get back with her. So, things have been great like unbelievably awesome. So Tonight after we hung out, she says to me "listen monday night I don't think we are going to hang out" I said okay cool, hanging out with friends? She says " yea, my friend alex" Now I am alittle jealous of a person, but I was like okay, whois alex? "Remember Renata's boss at the store?" I got upset immediately. This alex character "used to like her" he is 30 years old she is 19. Now I completely trust her I mean it. But I feel that going out to whatever you wanna call it, she mentioned dinner, is reserved for the one you are with and not just your guy friend. I mean we have been back together for what, two weeks, and she already is saying how she is going to hangout with her friend alex. Now I see it this way, he is 30 years old, he doesn't know me, I don't know him at all. I have a problem with that. I always have. So I say to her introduce me to him at least, she is like "well I am not ready to introduce you to anyone as my boyfriend yet.". Am I out of control? I am asking for alot? She is like I am not going to change my entire life for you. I need advice here. Remember this is not a trust issue.
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You made a big mistake dumping someone for her. Obviously you guys are on different pages regarding what you think the relationship is. The reason you're feeling so uneasy is because she's prioritized this creepy guy Alex. I know it sucks but keep an eye out, if this happens one or two more times, dump her.
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quez82
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shitty thing is.. she might be testing the waters ... let her test it too many times your fucked ...i would tell her right away that it's not right... if she doesnt like it sorry to say you guys can't be together .... either you settle it now or you go through it and be pissed ... because if she does it once... she will try it again... and the thing is if she's going out with this guy "alex" and tells you he's just a friend ... might have a thing for him he likes her as you said.... and more then likely she knows it .. and if she thinks thats ok .. .well i wouldnt trust her one bit...she's putting herself in bad situations with people who like her and arent just friends...keep it a relationship ... not a friendship...dump her if she doesn't understand because you'll always get pissed at her....
Rex
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Listen to the song Just a friend by Biz Markie. Just messing.
I wouldn't trust that Alex character. And I would be pissed if my gf was going to hang out with some other guy instead of me. Why? I don't trust other guys. Why don't I trust other guys? B/c there are times and situations given to me where I wouldn't trust me. Unless of course she was friends with him before she met you, she can't just trash a friendship. Then add in the factor of them 2 going out alone, and you have a valid point.
I don't trust women at all any more, but thats just me. And I especially don't trust guys I don't know trying to hang out with my girlfriend. I wasn't always like that. Used to be trusting until my ex was always hanging out with guy friends, then when I come home on leave she dumps me. Too many details to post, and I don't want to cramp your post.
Bottom line. If you don't like her going out to dinner with him then say so. Seems to me like she wants all the perks of you as boyfriend, but doesn't want to be tied down.
I wouldn't trust that Alex character. And I would be pissed if my gf was going to hang out with some other guy instead of me. Why? I don't trust other guys. Why don't I trust other guys? B/c there are times and situations given to me where I wouldn't trust me. Unless of course she was friends with him before she met you, she can't just trash a friendship. Then add in the factor of them 2 going out alone, and you have a valid point.
I don't trust women at all any more, but thats just me. And I especially don't trust guys I don't know trying to hang out with my girlfriend. I wasn't always like that. Used to be trusting until my ex was always hanging out with guy friends, then when I come home on leave she dumps me. Too many details to post, and I don't want to cramp your post.
Bottom line. If you don't like her going out to dinner with him then say so. Seems to me like she wants all the perks of you as boyfriend, but doesn't want to be tied down.
She called me at 7:30am after I explained how I felt about it, and why i thought it was wrong, and she left a message on my phone saying " Listen I don't want to fight with you, your right, I will give you a call later from work."
I just hope she see's why it is wrong, and not just saying sorry and that she won't do it because she doesn't want me to be upset. It is just wrong.
I just hope she see's why it is wrong, and not just saying sorry and that she won't do it because she doesn't want me to be upset. It is just wrong.
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anabolicmd
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Why are you cockblocking Alex?
Johnny Gringo
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anabolicmd said:
LMAO!!
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DcupSheepNipples
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Get a Boyfriend instead!
Testosterone boy
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Tell her you would also like to go out with Alex and see what all the excitement is about.
Next issue.
Okay next problem. Do i make it an issue that she even thought about it? i was thinking of telling her listen if you wanna go still hangout and go on dates with these "Friends" then maybe we shouldn't get to serious with each other. Or do I let it go and play it cool. Cause I don't want her doing this behind my back.
Okay next problem. Do i make it an issue that she even thought about it? i was thinking of telling her listen if you wanna go still hangout and go on dates with these "Friends" then maybe we shouldn't get to serious with each other. Or do I let it go and play it cool. Cause I don't want her doing this behind my back.
casavant
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She's a shithead for not taking your feelings into account and for doing something with such obviously romantic undertones (with an older guy who has a hard on for her, no less)- especially so soon after the two of you got back together and, apologies and all, are still going to be on somewhat shaky ground. She's also a shithead for putting herself in a situation where it would be so easy for her to screw up.
This is bullshit man. Pure and simple. Offer her a good drop-kick in the ass on her way out the door to her "dinner with a friend".
This is bullshit man. Pure and simple. Offer her a good drop-kick in the ass on her way out the door to her "dinner with a friend".
I say that you lose nothing by just waiting right now, but I'd start slowing divesting your feelings from her... something about this doesn't seem right. You can always wait to see what she does in the near future.
But just the fact that you're entertaining the idea of dumping her probably means you should. After all, you could be in a different relationship in which breaking up is the last thing you'd want.
But just the fact that you're entertaining the idea of dumping her probably means you should. After all, you could be in a different relationship in which breaking up is the last thing you'd want.
Since you're probably as young as she is, do yourself a favor and try to enjoy your life while you can. You are "loving her with all your heart" and she is obviously not feeling the same way about you. What do you think is the reason that she is going out with Alex?
Hang out with the fellas when you can, concentrate on school if you're in, and talk to some other prospects. If it gets back serious and it's meant to be, you will not hear shit like she's going out with Alex.
But, seriously AnabolicMD has got a point. Why cockblock on Alex? If that's what she wants to do, then she's going to do it. Whether or not you put up with it, isn't whether or not you are going to scold her, but whether or not you're going to stay in the house waiting for her to tell you when she's ready to spend time with you.
Stay away from questions like, would you introduce us. You don't have any reason to meet funky ass Alex.
Don't let a female or anybody else have so much control over your emotions.
If you can't find any fellas to kick it go out by yourself. When you see a female you like say...hey bitch, how much for... no wait, wait, wait, sorry... say "hey bring your sexy ass over her so I can talk to you for a minute." Then, in your own style, tell her how you are attracted to her and you want to hang out.
Or you can stay being emotionally attached and sit at home thinking what the older, more mature, Alex can sweet talk her into doing.
No flame. This is for your own good. Love will come okay. Patience.
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Hang out with the fellas when you can, concentrate on school if you're in, and talk to some other prospects. If it gets back serious and it's meant to be, you will not hear shit like she's going out with Alex.
But, seriously AnabolicMD has got a point. Why cockblock on Alex? If that's what she wants to do, then she's going to do it. Whether or not you put up with it, isn't whether or not you are going to scold her, but whether or not you're going to stay in the house waiting for her to tell you when she's ready to spend time with you.
Stay away from questions like, would you introduce us. You don't have any reason to meet funky ass Alex.
Don't let a female or anybody else have so much control over your emotions.
If you can't find any fellas to kick it go out by yourself. When you see a female you like say...hey bitch, how much for... no wait, wait, wait, sorry... say "hey bring your sexy ass over her so I can talk to you for a minute." Then, in your own style, tell her how you are attracted to her and you want to hang out.
Or you can stay being emotionally attached and sit at home thinking what the older, more mature, Alex can sweet talk her into doing.
No flame. This is for your own good. Love will come okay. Patience.
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SUPERDIMI said:
I am actually alittle older then she is and not your average 21 year old. As far as her not loving me as much because she wanted to hang out with Alex, well I don't know about that.
True if she wants to hangout with him she will. Cockblocking alex? This is my girlfriend were talking about here. Not some girl I am seeing and Alex really isn't my friend. I actually spend alot of time with her, I don't sit around and wait for her when she goes to hang out with her friends. She has her life with her friends and I have mine.
I have all the reason in the world to meet Alex. If he just sees her as friend like he says he does, which I have my doubts about, He atleast knows that she has a boyfriend and if friendship isn't the case then he won't wanna hangout with her, I mean maybe he still will thinking who gives a fuck about john but believe me I trust my girlfriend and I know nothing will happen or atleast she won't be the one to try something. If he did, she won't hang out with him. That is how she is.
I feel that she is the one I want to be with. I have had my share of other girls in the past and they just don't do it for me. Very hard to find someone who is sincere and serious.
Update to the story though, she spoke to me the following day and understood how I felt, She agreed that dinner is for her boyfriend and not her guy friend. She kept assuring me that she just saw him nothing more then a friend, and he saw her as just a friend. She didn't hangout with him, but he did come by the house even though she left a message on his phone not to come by and she called me and told me he did, I wasn't happy but she was honest with me I kinda flipped out but we spoke about it and she didn't do anything wrong.
Thank you all for your help.
