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flexygrl
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Okay, so for those who read the thread about the guy who lost his friend, it's about him.
Before the whole friend incident I was starting to have some trouble with him. Mainly him not calling when he said he would. He would always call but sometimes hours after he said he was going to. Always had an excuse, fell asleep, go caught up....
The night before the whole friend incident we went out. I was angry because that day he had done it yet again, not called when he said he was going too. I explained to him that it's not a control thing. That it actually makes me feel bad and that I don't feel important enough to be remembered. He said that this was not the case. That he liked me a lot but that sometimes he just gets lazy. We went out that night and had a great, romantic dinner and all was well after. He was a perfect gentleman, opened the door, paid, did and said all the right things.
Then the friend incident. I was there for him as much as I could be. The night he came over when he got upset, he said that the worse thing that could happen to him now is if he loses me. We talked and seemed to be on the same page about everything, how much we like each other, how we see ourselves together for a long time...
Well, it's tuesday. Yesterday was the worst with the no calling thing. I called him on my way home. He said he wanted to go out and that he'd call when he got home. Well 7:30 rolled around and nothing. I was pissed. I was waiting on him for an hour. So, I called and was definetely annoyed and we had our first tiff. His excuse, same as usual, he came home and got caught up with his family, etc.
So, I feel bad for being a bitch on wheels about this. But i explained it again to him on Saturday. He knows what I went through with my ex. I told him that i was going to have some trust issue's that i'm working out on my own. But that in order for me to start trusting him, he has to do what he says he's going to do. He said he understod, yet did it again the very next day.
As I write this, I'm realizing I'm an idiot. Boy, this sounds horrible. I know the obvious thing to do here is just let him go, but i really like him. He's great. His family is great.
He took me to his office's holiday party on saturday and introduced me to the whole world. Obviously he's proud of me, so that's not it. He did introduce me as "his friend". But we've only been dating for 3 weeks today and didn't have the "talk" yet.
So...with the whole "he's not into you" movement, I feel that he's probably really just not into me. He may like me physically but maybe he's not ready to settle down. He says he is and when there are any talks of the future HE brings them up, not me...
Oh, and he's always there when I call. Picks up right away or if he misses me always calls back within 5 minutes.
So guys, what do I do? Let it go? Move on?
Okay, so for those who read the thread about the guy who lost his friend, it's about him.
Before the whole friend incident I was starting to have some trouble with him. Mainly him not calling when he said he would. He would always call but sometimes hours after he said he was going to. Always had an excuse, fell asleep, go caught up....
The night before the whole friend incident we went out. I was angry because that day he had done it yet again, not called when he said he was going too. I explained to him that it's not a control thing. That it actually makes me feel bad and that I don't feel important enough to be remembered. He said that this was not the case. That he liked me a lot but that sometimes he just gets lazy. We went out that night and had a great, romantic dinner and all was well after. He was a perfect gentleman, opened the door, paid, did and said all the right things.
Then the friend incident. I was there for him as much as I could be. The night he came over when he got upset, he said that the worse thing that could happen to him now is if he loses me. We talked and seemed to be on the same page about everything, how much we like each other, how we see ourselves together for a long time...
Well, it's tuesday. Yesterday was the worst with the no calling thing. I called him on my way home. He said he wanted to go out and that he'd call when he got home. Well 7:30 rolled around and nothing. I was pissed. I was waiting on him for an hour. So, I called and was definetely annoyed and we had our first tiff. His excuse, same as usual, he came home and got caught up with his family, etc.
So, I feel bad for being a bitch on wheels about this. But i explained it again to him on Saturday. He knows what I went through with my ex. I told him that i was going to have some trust issue's that i'm working out on my own. But that in order for me to start trusting him, he has to do what he says he's going to do. He said he understod, yet did it again the very next day.
As I write this, I'm realizing I'm an idiot. Boy, this sounds horrible. I know the obvious thing to do here is just let him go, but i really like him. He's great. His family is great.
He took me to his office's holiday party on saturday and introduced me to the whole world. Obviously he's proud of me, so that's not it. He did introduce me as "his friend". But we've only been dating for 3 weeks today and didn't have the "talk" yet.
So...with the whole "he's not into you" movement, I feel that he's probably really just not into me. He may like me physically but maybe he's not ready to settle down. He says he is and when there are any talks of the future HE brings them up, not me...
Oh, and he's always there when I call. Picks up right away or if he misses me always calls back within 5 minutes.
So guys, what do I do? Let it go? Move on?
, You sound like a nice person. But, guys hate to be harrassed about making calls. If he called as much as meantime suggested (6-7 times a day) you would be posting how you are dropping a needy guy. 
