My sister is so mean......

[blueta2]

My oldest sister is an angry, mean person. If she didn't have two kids, I would have cut myself off from her YEARS ago.
I baked them an apple crumble today, drove the 30 mins to get it to them and not even a thank you.

Everytime I leave there, I feel "toxic". I was in bed 30 mins ago and can't sleep because I feel so disturbed!

Anyone have a family member that they HAVE to put up with?

 

[myway]

My mother. Seriously. She's been great,lately, prolly because of the baby. The entire rest of my life------> worst anxiety EVER when thinkin' about going to visit.
I get along fine with my dad but my mom is scary.

 

[blueta2]

My mother. Seriously. She's been great,lately, prolly because of the baby. The entire rest of my life------> worst anxiety EVER when thinkin' about going to visit.
I get along fine with my dad but my mom is scary.

Isn't it the worst?!
We can't pick our families but we should be able to ;-)

How can one be mean to a family member? My sister degrades me ALL the time.

 

[Spartacus]

My oldest sister is an angry, mean person. If she didn't have two kids, I would have cut myself off from her YEARS ago.
I baked them an apple crumble today, drove the 30 mins to get it to them and not even a thank you.

Everytime I leave there, I feel "toxic". I was in bed 30 mins ago and can't sleep because I feel so disturbed!

Anyone have a family member that they HAVE to put up with?

certainly the children enjoyed the whatever apple cake
that's enough

 

[all the whey]

Isn't it the worst?!
We can't pick our families but we should be able to ;-)

How can one be mean to a family member? My sister degrades me ALL the time.

Is she jealous of you for some reason?

 

[Spartacus]

"From what we get, we can make a living; what we give, however, makes a life."
-Arthur Ashe

 

[blueta2]

certainly the children enjoyed the whatever apple cake
that's enough

yeah they did, but she can still say "thanks for driving out and baking this for us"

My nephew says to me "Mom is always such a bitch"
Imagine her son saying it.
Oddly, my sister has a good heart and would die for me, but she is so rude and cruel when she talks to me. Like a bi polar thing.
Yes she has a lot to deal with in her life, but man, be KIND!

 

[blueta2]

"From what we get, we can make a living; what we give, however, makes a life."
-Arthur Ashe

tennis player?

I love to give, but at some point, enough is enough.

 

[Spartacus]

I just ate 4 bananas as noone bakes for me

 

[all the whey]

certainly the children enjoyed the whatever apple cake
that's enough

Yeah.

My family gets pissed if someone doesn't say thank you 10 times.

I would have told bluta to get that shit out of here. I don't want my kids fat like her.

 

[superqt4u2nv]

Honestly no for the most part my close family is amazing my mother is close to a saint I am blessed. I do have some aunts on my mothers side that I wonder how they were spawn by the same parents because they are soooo different from my mom.

 

[blueta2]

Is she jealous of you for some reason?

I think she has issue with the fact that I don't have the same responsibilities as her.
She has kids, I don't
She is heavy, I'm not
She has no freedom, I do

etc.....

No matter what job I ever did in life she would say "Jen, get a real job"
Huh! What is a real job. Frig!
Tonight she is talking out loud and says "I hate these people who eat healthy, they make me sick"
She knows I've been sick and she'll say stuff like "You have it so easy"
Or when I was working out all the time "Well some of us have REAL lives and cannot work out"
And tonight she called a friend of mine who is bi polar a dummy with no IQ

Shit like that. Hurtful stuff.

 

[blueta2]

Yeah.

My family gets pissed if someone doesn't say thank you 10 times.

I would have told bluta to get that shit out of here. I don't want my kids fat like her.

I made it sugar free cause my nephew is ADD ;-)
I just wanted ONE thanks

 

[blueta2]

Honestly no for the most part my close family is amazing my mother is close to a saint I am blessed. I do have some aunts on my mothers side that I wonder how they were spawn by the same parents because they are soooo different from my mom.

right on <---- TO term...haha!

yeah my aunts are insane. Would accuse my Dad of stealing from them. My Dad gave them all jobs....weird. They all live in TO now and we never speak to them
Toxic ppl SUCK!

 

[Spartacus]

the jolly ole fat man is a myth

 

[blueta2]

I just ate 4 bananas as noone bakes for me

Hell, I bake and cook for everyone

I made 4 apple crumbles and I brought some to my neighbors would shoveled my walk today. I always cook soups for them
I cook for my family and friends and by the way, no one cooks for me
Can you tell I'm having a pity party tonight

I'm hurt man

 

[superqt4u2nv]

Hell, I bake and cook for everyone

I made 4 apple crumbles and I brought some to my neighbors would shoveled my walk today. I always cook soups for them
I cook for my family and friends and by the way, no one cooks for me
Can you tell I'm having a pity party tonight

I'm hurt man

Aww don't let no one bring you down I love cooking for people too.

 

[all the whey]

I think she has issue with the fact that I don't have the same responsibilities as her.
She has kids, I don't
She is heavy, I'm not
She has no freedom, I do

etc.....

No matter what job I ever did in life she would say "Jen, get a real job"
Huh! What is a real job. Frig!
Tonight she is talking out loud and says "I hate these people who eat healthy, they make me sick"
She knows I've been sick and she'll say stuff like "You have it so easy"
Or when I was working out all the time "Well some of us have REAL lives and cannot work out"
And tonight she called a friend of mine who is bi polar a dummy with no IQ

Shit like that. Hurtful stuff.

Most over weight people make the same comments.

She is jealous. And, that is how she copes with it.


I know it makes me feel better about myself to make fun of you.

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[blueta2]

Aww don't let no one bring you down I love cooking for people too.

You're right, I shouldn't, but its constant.
I decided tonight, I'm done doing nice for ppl that don't appreciate it

 

[myway]

I think she has issue with the fact that I don't have the same responsibilities as her.
She has kids, I don't
She is heavy, I'm not
She has no freedom, I do

etc.....

No matter what job I ever did in life she would say "Jen, get a real job"
Huh! What is a real job. Frig!
Tonight she is talking out loud and says "I hate these people who eat healthy, they make me sick"
She knows I've been sick and she'll say stuff like "You have it so easy"
Or when I was working out all the time "Well some of us have REAL lives and cannot work out"
And tonight she called a friend of mine who is bi polar a dummy with no IQ

Shit like that. Hurtful stuff.

It sounds like she is really complaining about herself.
Sounds just like my mom.

 

[blueta2]

Most over weight people make the same comments.

She is jealous. And, that is how she copes with it.


I know it makes me feel better about myself to make fun of you.

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LOL......Yeah but you do it out of wuv.


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[needtogetarmy]

My family and in-laws are all great. My wife is the one that gets on my nerves lol

 

[blueta2]

My family and in-laws are all great. My wife is the one that gets on my nerves lol

divorce her and be my lap cat

 

[Spartacus]

Hell, I bake and cook for everyone

I made 4 apple crumbles and I brought some to my neighbors would shoveled my walk today. I always cook soups for them
I cook for my family and friends and by the way, no one cooks for me
Can you tell I'm having a pity party tonight

I'm hurt man

expose your legs and wear heels in the kitchen and I'll fuck you good

 

[GUARDIAN]

mother very mean & controlling

 

[SaladFork]

My oldest sister is an angry, mean person. If she didn't have two kids, I would have cut myself off from her YEARS ago.
I baked them an apple crumble today, drove the 30 mins to get it to them and not even a thank you.

Everytime I leave there, I feel "toxic". I was in bed 30 mins ago and can't sleep because I feel so disturbed!

Anyone have a family member that they HAVE to put up with?

Nope haven't talked to my Mom, Dad or both my sisters in almost ten years. Best thing I have ever done, they did nothing but cause drama.

 

[all the whey]

mother very mean & controlling

Is that why you juice?

 

[GUARDIAN]

Is that why you juice?

who knows. shit she has actually helped with cycles.

i like to think it is bc i really fell in love with arnold & bb at an early age and some little part of me thought i could get there.

 

[all the whey]

who knows. shit she has actually helped with cycles.

i like to think it is bc i really fell in love with arnold & bb at an early age and some little part of me thought i could get there.

Just messing with you.

You ever compete?

You ever go to the Arnold Classic?

 

[GUARDIAN]

Just messing with you.

You ever compete?

You ever go to the Arnold Classic?

i wanted to this year but i wont be in shape for the contest i wanted to enter. so i will try next year. i will have the size in time but it wont give me enuf weeks to diet properly.

i went one year and got tickets for xmas for this years show. it is a blast. it is hilarious to see some of those fitness models late at night or early in the morning at the hotel. u cant recognize them without their pancake batter on their face.

 

[Smurfy]

My oldest sister is an angry, mean person. If she didn't have two kids, I would have cut myself off from her YEARS ago.
I baked them an apple crumble today, drove the 30 mins to get it to them and not even a thank you.

Everytime I leave there, I feel "toxic". I was in bed 30 mins ago and can't sleep because I feel so disturbed!

Anyone have a family member that they HAVE to put up with?

why do you HAVE to put up with her? why did you HAVE to bake for her and then deliver it to her? was it a required family function? honestly, if it's a toxic feeling you get, then limit your interations. it's simple.

 

[Smurfy]

yeah they did, but she can still say "thanks for driving out and baking this for us"

My nephew says to me "Mom is always such a bitch"
Imagine her son saying it.
Oddly, my sister has a good heart and would die for me, but she is so rude and cruel when she talks to me. Like a bi polar thing.
Yes she has a lot to deal with in her life, but man, be KIND!

she must be insecure!

 

[sigourney_beaver]

smurf she's doing it for the children

or as I grew up with 2 sisters
the sister that stayed thin would bake and cook for others while she stayed hungry

 

[all the whey]

i wanted to this year but i wont be in shape for the contest i wanted to enter. so i will try next year. i will have the size in time but it wont give me enuf weeks to diet properly.

i went one year and got tickets for xmas for this years show. it is a blast. it is hilarious to see some of those fitness models late at night or early in the morning at the hotel. u cant recognize them without their pancake batter on their face.

Good luck.


I went last year. I try to go as much as I can. I don't think I am going this year though.

 

[biteme]

I think she has issue with the fact that I don't have the same responsibilities as her.
She has kids, I don't
She is heavy, I'm not
She has no freedom, I do

etc.....

No matter what job I ever did in life she would say "Jen, get a real job"
Huh! What is a real job. Frig!
Tonight she is talking out loud and says "I hate these people who eat healthy, they make me sick"
She knows I've been sick and she'll say stuff like "You have it so easy"
Or when I was working out all the time "Well some of us have REAL lives and cannot work out"
And tonight she called a friend of mine who is bi polar a dummy with no IQ

Shit like that. Hurtful stuff.

Bitches. They're a dime a dozen.

 

[biteme]

Nope haven't talked to my Mom, Dad or both my sisters in almost ten years. Best thing I have ever done, they did nothing but cause drama.

I could never do that, but kudos to you for being that strong.

 

[puddlemonkey]

Coincidence that all the meanies named in this thread are female? I THINK NOT!

 

[BIGBUCK$]

My oldest sister is an angry, mean person. If she didn't have two kids, I would have cut myself off from her YEARS ago.
I baked them an apple crumble today, drove the 30 mins to get it to them and not even a thank you.

Everytime I leave there, I feel "toxic". I was in bed 30 mins ago and can't sleep because I feel so disturbed!

Anyone have a family member that they HAVE to put up with?

what exactly is apple crumble?

 

[binö]

pics of this mean fatty

 

[Bikini Mod]

My oldest sister is an angry, mean person. If she didn't have two kids, I would have cut myself off from her YEARS ago.
I baked them an apple crumble today, drove the 30 mins to get it to them and not even a thank you.

Everytime I leave there, I feel "toxic". I was in bed 30 mins ago and can't sleep because I feel so disturbed!

Anyone have a family member that they HAVE to put up with?

There are ZERO family members that I HAVE to put up with. My sister and her family are the only blood relations I have any real interaction with in addition, of course to my children.

I still remember when my sister and I cut off the toxic members of our family. It was the hardest thing we ever did when we first did it. But when it was done a calm came over us when we realized that the earth did NOT "swallow us whole" and surprise, surprise our lives went on FOR THE BETTER.

 

[SoKlueles]

Honestly no for the most part my close family is amazing my mother is close to a saint I am blessed. I do have some aunts on my mothers side that I wonder how they were spawn by the same parents because they are soooo different from my mom.

MEEEEEEEE TOO
my parents are THE best ever, i think they were adopted or something because my moms sister is mean and my dads whole family are asswipes and crazies

 

[blueta2]

mother very mean & controlling

Do you ever see her?

 

[blueta2]

Nope haven't talked to my Mom, Dad or both my sisters in almost ten years. Best thing I have ever done, they did nothing but cause drama.

A strength I wish I had........lucky you

 

[blueta2]

why do you HAVE to put up with her? why did you HAVE to bake for her and then deliver it to her? was it a required family function? honestly, if it's a toxic feeling you get, then limit your interations. it's simple.

I guess I don't have to, but if I want to see the kids, I need to see her.
My niece is in wheelchair so it's not like I can take her out. I need to see her at the house.
I didn't bake for her, I was making a bunch of apple crumbles and was bringing one to my Mom and thought I would bake one for the kids.

I limit myself a lot. I've not seen them since xmas, but I like seeing the kids.

I swear, I barely slept all night. I'm so disturbed by the dysfunction with my sister.

 

[blueta2]

she must be insecure!

that and very unhappy. I never saw a person more unhappy. It BREAKS my heart b/c I love her

 

[blueta2]

what exactly is apple crumble?

baked apples with an oatmeal topping. It's really yummy and a healthier dessert than most.
http://i31.tinypic.com/21kk0lz.jpg

 

[blueta2]

pics of this mean fatty

Her in the middle, with my neice and my Mom
http://tinypic.com/view.php?pic=98vrit&s=3

 

[blueta2]

There are ZERO family members that I HAVE to put up with. My sister and her family are the only blood relations I have any real interaction with in addition, of course to my children.

I still remember when my sister and I cut off the toxic members of our family. It was the hardest thing we ever did when we first did it. But when it was done a calm came over us when we realized that the earth did NOT "swallow us whole" and surprise, surprise our lives went on FOR THE BETTER.

When she was preggies with my nephew 17 yrs ago, I did cut her off. I finally told her I was not going to accept her verbal abuse.

Then my nephew was born and since I wanted to see him, I had to talk to her again.

Since I have spoke with her about her "abuse" and she would stop for a bit. This past summer I went over, sat on her deck and we got tipsy and I spoke to her again. She apologized and was good for a while.
She talks to everyone pretty abusively so I don't take it too personally, but still hurts

 

[binö]

Her in the middle, with my neice and my Mom
http://tinypic.com/view.php?pic=98vrit&s=3

mom looks like anymom, usa
clean, smaart looking...proly can be pissy if she wants to.
sis looks kinda mean for sure, proly was hott at some point in her life and could possibly still be.

 

[blueta2]

mom looks like anymom, usa
clean, smaart looking...proly can be pissy if she wants to.
sis looks kinda mean for sure, proly was hott at some point in her life and could possibly still be.

anymom usa......hahah! My mom is the best

Yeah she does look angry. She was a hottie and yes can still be. She's 47 and looks not bad

 

[blueta2]

Here's my Mom on her old motorcycle. She was a bad ass ;-)


http://i27.tinypic.com/rh1oxu.jpg

 

[GUARDIAN]

Do you ever see her?

yeah but not that often. we live in the same town. my sis is in NC and dad is in a nursing home so it is really easy to avoid her. i think it was just before thanksgiving when i saw her last.

 

[binö]

Here's my Mom on her old motorcycle. She was a bad ass ;-)


http://i27.tinypic.com/rh1oxu.jpg

motochics-easy
same with cig smoking chics

 

[Bikini Mod]

When she was preggies with my nephew 17 yrs ago, I did cut her off. I finally told her I was not going to accept her verbal abuse.

Then my nephew was born and since I wanted to see him, I had to talk to her again.

Since I have spoke with her about her "abuse" and she would stop for a bit. This past summer I went over, sat on her deck and we got tipsy and I spoke to her again. She apologized and was good for a while.
She talks to everyone pretty abusively so I don't take it too personally, but still hurts

I understand about wanting to be in your nephew's life. My brother has a son that is one month younger than my third. Our children have never met and I had only met his son once when he was little while my mother was watching him.

If your sister can control herself in your presence then I can see wanting to maintain some sort of relationship, however, if she is the way she is with everybody then that is ON HER.

I do understand what you mean about not taking her personally, but believe me when I tell you - YOU SHOULD.

NO ONE is allowed to speak to me in an abusive fashion, I don't care who they are. However, if I am percieving them as being verbally abusive (sometimes it is only my perception as admittedly I am ubersensitive from life long abuse) I tell that person immediately and we talk it out.... that is only if I care for them. If I don't really give a fat rat's ass about that person I simply remove myself from the situation.

NO ONE should ever tolerate being treated poorly.

 

[blueta2]

motochics-easy
same with cig smoking chics

she smoked also, but was not easy. A Virgin when she married my Dad who stalked her until she finally agreed to date him....haha!

 

[Bikini Mod]

she smoked also, but was not easy. A Virgin when she married my Dad who stalked her until she finally agreed to date him....haha!

I just saw the pic - HOW FREAKING COOL! The Old Grump recognized the bike as an old triumph... he had a couple of those himself back in the day.

Your mom seems like a pretty neat broad (I say that with the utmost respect) .

 

[blueta2]

Bm, I would never tolate it from a friend or coworker of anyone, but with my sis I just almost shut up when she "goes off".
I just try to keep the peace in order to see the kids.
And I have confronted her a few times to no avail. She is just too wound up.

If I had the energy, I would take her out for supper and talk to her one on one.
I have not the energy or the drive anymore.
Between my illness and all the needy people in my life, I'm spent.

 

[Bikini Mod]

Bm, I would never tolate it from a friend or coworker of anyone, but with my sis I just almost shut up when she "goes off".
I just try to keep the peace in order to see the kids.
And I have confronted her a few times to no avail. She is just too wound up.

If I had the energy, I would take her out for supper and talk to her one on one.
I have not the energy or the drive anymore.
Between my illness and all the needy people in my life, I'm spent.

Then TAKE CARE OF YOU.

 

[blueta2]

I just saw the pic - HOW FREAKING COOL! The Old Grump recognized the bike as an old triumph... he had a couple of those himself back in the day.

Your mom seems like a pretty neat broad (I say that with the utmost respect) .

Oh was it, I would have to ask her if it was a Triumph.
Yeah my Mom was a cool lady. She had one of the hardest lives of anyone I Kknow and she crawled out of the rubble to make a good life.
That's why I respect your strength

Still to this day, she will cook for me and take care of me. Man I love that woman.
I'm not 1/10 of how great she is

 

[all the whey]

she smoked also, but was not easy. A Virgin when she married my Dad who stalked her until she finally agreed to date him....haha!

LMAO @ virgin!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Spartacus]

motochics-easy
same with cig smoking chics

cig smoking chics (esp. marlboro reds) drinking in a bar early week
are about the easy hits possible

find a spot on a tuesday night with some traffic
find the 2 girls smoking
in by 10

 

[blueta2]

I think she hit her head........She just called to thank me for the crumble and for the clothes I bought for my niece. She also said she would do my taxes for me this year.

Hmmmmm, maybe it's a trick

 

[ceo]

I think she hit her head........She just called to thank me for the crumble and for the clothes I bought for my niece. She also said she would do my taxes for me this year.

Hmmmmm, maybe it's a trick

maybe she reads this board!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Spartacus]

tats=easy too

 

[calveless wonder]

momma dukes...love her to death, but she's a trainwreck.

no sense of responsiblity, terrible with money, runs away from all her problems, has no sense of time management(or consideration for other peoples time) and can be completely irrational.
ADHD symptoms...(where i got mine, but i learned to cope with mine better)
She's actually a great, charismatic, fun, mom but she's never really grown up.
She's always willing to help the fam, but her flaws can be just as bad as much a burden as her good qualities and she makes no effort to change.


doesn't help that my dad is the COMPLETE opposite. Conservative, tight with money even though he has alot, very analytical with everything.