Life Without Boundaries

[revexrevex]

Is anyone else on here fascinated by the unknown, but quickly gets tired/bored from it once they acquire/understand that unknown. I am not simply talking about material possessions, but friends, situations in life and new ideas.

A few years ago, I was extremely fascinated by an incredible range of things. The reasons why people go to the gym religiously, the spontaneous reactions by people in spontaneous situations, the way people form relationships and friends, acquire new things or for instance travel all around the world without any structure in their lives.

Lately, I have found myself indifferent to many things that use to excite me as a teenager. I recently finished college and started working at a very good job. I am training as a powerlifter/strongman and love it with passion. I often find myself in situations which would peak my interest a few years back if they were looked at from an external perspective. HOwever I shut myself out from any surprises and just interpret life as if "it was suppose to happen"

I miss the feeling of being excited like a little kid when I saw some jacked guy, because I thought that one day I would look like him. I use to get excited by the prospect of meeting dozens of incredibly hot girls that will be all over me and that will do my every wish. I use to be a very logical person, would often get surprised if something in life happened outside of logic. However it is as if a defensive mechanism clicked in my head, a kind of reaction formation that changed my whole perspective in life as I morphed from a child into an adult and quickly lost the excitement I once had.

 

[gonelifting]

Great post bro. Simple answer. Life has many phases.

Long answer, I`m too tired now. But good post.

Maybe that`s why I don`t go outside/interact with anyone. lol

 

[sinjinsmythe33]

aka maturity. for some it goes hand in hand with responsibilty. you are pretty contemplative for someone who takes off their shoes for farmers walks and tire flips.

 

[revexrevex]

I was hoping the two of you would reply, because you are older and have a lot more experience on these things. The most annoying aspect of this is the social interaction aspect. When I meet someone new, I HAVE TO get to know them. I need to know what makes them think the way they think, the way they talk, WHY they go to the gym or WHY the laugh at certain things. Basically that person becomes my role model.... for a total of probably 3 days. After that I lose all the interest I ever had since I figured that person out.

Another variable that has changed for me is the way I keep track of my life. Few years ago I was afraid for life to get too fast, because I always liked to think through things, analyze everything (even at times when I was suppose to relax and just have fun). For instance when I was 18 - 19, I would often walk into a night club... and while all the people danced and had good time, I would just stand in the corner and think to myself "The only thing that these people are really doing is just swinging their arms and legs in a room full of other people with loud noices coming from the loud speakers". I always had to think in terms of LOGIC, see things the way they suppose to be.... I refused to submit to the gluttony of my own imagination and enjoyment.

But now I find the tables switched. My life is a roller coaster and I dont even stop to look around at whats going on. I simply lost care for things, and became much more relaxed, comfortable, and in a way... ignorant. So in a way, you lose something, and you gain something for it. Maybe it was just a first step of coming into the adulthood.

 

[CollegeKid2]

were you by any chance OCD rev? sorta sounds like you were, but surpassed it as you got older.

 

[sinjinsmythe33]

never view anyone as a role model, you are better off at looking at them as a mentor. you can have multiple mentors, one for your career, one for your social life. the training board has a plethora of individuals with alot of experience to futher your lifting strongman aspirations. most of the people who i grew up with are more successful than me, in the conventional sense. my brotehr is a very successful physician/musician; another guy who was nearly homeless six years ago, addicted to alcohol, coke and roids (serioulsy) will graduate from harvard law next year. honestly i am envious, but my bro's wife has cancer and she is thirty, the other guy has to deal with the addictions for the rest of his life. the roller coaster is part of the game, you have to manage the obstacles and enjoy the simple pleasures, whether its a book, your training, family et al.

 

[revexrevex]

were you by any chance OCD rev? sorta sounds like you were, but surpassed it as you got older.

Everyone has their demons growing up. Death of the close ones, abcense of the people to care for you, and lack of friends greatly affect one's personality. Here in America, doctors are quick to diagnose people with obsessive compulsive, bipolar, depression, and other psychological deseases..... while it may well be just a normal psychological trait... but that is in the eye of beholder to decide... so you may very well be right.

 

[sconoscuito]

well you will probobly think this is stupid but this is what happens to me..

I was born in europe but lived last 4 years here in US, well after about 2-3 months of living here I went nuts cause everyday was the same... my first year was my sophmore year in hs and basically my day consisted of school from 7am to 3pm followed by a basketball practice till 6pm.. I was going crazy cause really every single day was the same but slowly I started getting used to it... then I moved to another city and pretty much everything was the same except that one the weekends I would go out and drink with other kids and that made my life different somehow a little bit better(I would obviusly do some other stuff sometimes but mostly on the weekends I went out and kicked it with other kids) anyway now Im in college and its pretty much the same thing, i'm like a machine and know that if I want to survive I need to do this, that and thats it...

I came to a conclusion that this is gonna be my life even after I graduated from college and get a job... except that this time its gonna be work-workout-and maybe play some recreational basketball and have a drink or two at the restoraunt...
I think it is stress that is causing this knowing that everyday is gonna be the same so you stop expceting something amazing to happen, the things you've seen before are getting old and you arent amazed by them anymore...

now last Year I went to europe and I had never had a better feeling in my life, I seriusly felt like a little child again, it was pretty damn amazing. The thing with europe is that theres sooo much more culture, every country you go to you see something else and learn something new... spain, germany, italy, england are all so different..
so my suggestion would be go travel somewhere but some people hate that I guess... maybe try to do hobby you used to loved to do when you were a kid ... other then that you have a choice to work hard for rest of your life and hoping to retire one day with enaugh money to finish your life...

 

[revexrevex]

never view anyone as a role model, you are better off at looking at them as a mentor. you can have multiple mentors, one for your career, one for your social life. the training board has a plethora of individuals with alot of experience to futher your lifting strongman aspirations. most of the people who i grew up with are more successful than me, in the conventional sense. my brotehr is a very successful physician/musician; another guy who was nearly homeless six years ago, addicted to alcohol, coke and roids (serioulsy) will graduate from harvard law next year. honestly i am envious, but my bro's wife has cancer and she is thirty, the other guy has to deal with the addictions for the rest of his life. the roller coaster is part of the game, you have to manage the obstacles and enjoy the simple pleasures, whether its a book, your training, family et al.

Just when you think your own life is fucked up, you hear about other people,.. and your life becomes just a speckle in the sand. So is enjoying simple pleasures the key to life... the point of living?I just see emptyness ahead... just blank future..

I thought I was a set person. I thought I had concrete beliefs engraved in my brain, ethics, morals, set models of behaviors, standard reactions to everything..... but now all of that just went into the dumpster... you are so right about roller coasters

 

[Lift Chief]

You haven't found the balance between living in the moment and a contemplative existence.

You can and should understand, say, the foolishness of the entire club/bar scene... but that doesn't necessarily mean you can't enjoy it.

You can contemplate and understand what appears to you to be the true nature of things and yet still live in the moment. In my opinion that's the best way to go.

 

[revexrevex]

Hey, I see you are from Yugoslavia? I came here from Ukraine when I was 12, and you precisely described my line of thoughts. How come people in Eastern Europe never thought "what ist he purpose to life" Maybe they were so pre-occupied with their work and getting drunk, and carrying for their families, and trying to get food on the table that they simply had no time for this? America is just so socially industrial in a sense that you work 5 days a week, and maybe go out on a friday night... for the rest of your life.


You completely follow what I am saying. I have something inside me that I just simply cant describe in words.

[quoote]I think it is stress that is causing this knowing that everyday is gonna be the same so you stop expceting something amazing to happen, the things you've seen before are getting old and you arent amazed by them anymore...[/quote]

This is exactly what is happening bro.

well you will probobly think this is stupid but this is what happens to me..

I was born in europe but lived last 4 years here in US, well after about 2-3 months of living here I went nuts cause everyday was the same... my first year was my sophmore year in hs and basically my day consisted of school from 7am to 3pm followed by a basketball practice till 6pm.. I was going crazy cause really every single day was the same but slowly I started getting used to it... then I moved to another city and pretty much everything was the same except that one the weekends I would go out and drink with other kids and that made my life different somehow a little bit better(I would obviusly do some other stuff sometimes but mostly on the weekends I went out and kicked it with other kids) anyway now Im in college and its pretty much the same thing, i'm like a machine and know that if I want to survive I need to do this, that and thats it...

I came to a conclusion that this is gonna be my life even after I graduated from college and get a job... except that this time its gonna be work-workout-and maybe play some recreational basketball and have a drink or two at the restoraunt...
I think it is stress that is causing this knowing that everyday is gonna be the same so you stop expceting something amazing to happen, the things you've seen before are getting old and you arent amazed by them anymore...

now last Year I went to europe and I had never had a better feeling in my life, I seriusly felt like a little child again, it was pretty damn amazing. The thing with europe is that theres sooo much more culture, every country you go to you see something else and learn something new... spain, germany, italy, england are all so different..
so my suggestion would be go travel somewhere but some people hate that I guess... maybe try to do hobby you used to loved to do when you were a kid ... other then that you have a choice to work hard for rest of your life and hoping to retire one day with enaugh money to finish your life...

 

[revexrevex]

You haven't found the balance between living in the moment and a contemplative existence.

You can and should understand, say, the foolishness of the entire club/bar scene... but that doesn't necessarily mean you can't enjoy it.

You can contemplate and understand what appears to you to be the true nature of things and yet still live in the moment. In my opinion that's the best way to go.

Very wise words from a physically weak man. Im joking bro... I also feel that this is the best to go.... but one thing is to understand the theory,,,, and another is to put it into practice.... and sometimes your become your own enemy.

 

[sinjinsmythe33]

i think the key is to find something you like to do and be passionate about it. it is a good idea to travel, meet different people, learn about different cultures if for no other reason to experience something different. it doesnt mean you have to turn your back on your women, friends, basketball, or strongman or whatever. perspective usually comes after mucho mistakes. do your best not to care what the masses of people will think of your life and acheivements.

 

[saint808]

life can have a way of kicking you in the groin and making you stop trying to achieve your dreams... and at the same time dreams can change. I have different goals in life now than i did a mere year ago.

 

[gonelifting]

Do you have a girlfriend rexex? I know the answer to that, NO.

Get one bro.

Your post about watching people and saying to yourself "they`re just moving their arms around" IS EXACTLY HOW I LOOK AT THINGS. bro you`re scaring me. lol I thought I was the only one... lol

Going to bed. Good luck bro.

 

[sconoscuito]

it cant really be described unless you are from there and know what life over there is all about...

to me it seems like US is build like a machine and in order for it to work people need to perform good(as if they are parts of the machine), if you dont then you end up somewhere on the street(you're a defect, useless and you're a no one) now since you are part of machine you only got one function pretty much, work and rest at times thats about it...

when I was in europe to me every girl was diffeerent, here its like eehhhh she has a better ass so maybe I should go talk to her and not her friend that has bigger boobs... personality most of the time is all the same, some are little nicer some are little meaner... it takes about 5 minutes to figure out an average american person and thats it you cant get any further with them...

here friend is just a friend, girlfriend is just a girlfriend... for some people their little baby is looked at as an object and not as a child, so if mother and father cant "afford" to have a child their not going to, they may choose abbortion instead... things like that.. life here is too simple and americans that lived their whole life here wont understand it cause they havent been outside of here and if they have they dont understand the other side.. and thats not a bad thing its just the life is built u know..

I dont know, call me crazy but thats just the way it is

 

[revexrevex]

I completely agree. Life is a lot more liberal here because of so much more freedom to do things. But freedom also leads to stagnation and boredom.

it cant really be described unless you are from there and know what life over there is all about...

to me it seems like US is build like a machine and in order for it to work people need to perform good(as if they are parts of the machine), if you dont then you end up somewhere on the street(you're a defect, useless and you're a no one) now since you are part of machine you only got one function pretty much, work and rest at times thats about it...

when I was in europe to me every girl was diffeerent, here its like eehhhh she has a better ass so maybe I should go talk to her and not her friend that has bigger boobs... personality most of the time is all the same, some are little nicer some are little meaner... it takes about 5 minutes to figure out an average american person and thats it you cant get any further with them...

here friend is just a friend, girlfriend is just a girlfriend... for some people their little baby is looked at as an object and not as a child, so if mother and father cant "afford" to have a child their not going to, they may choose abbortion instead... things like that.. life here is too simply and americans that lived their whole life here wont understand it cause they havent been outside of here and if they have they dont understand the other side.. and thats not a bad thing its just the life is built u know..

I dont know, call me crazy but thats just the way it is

 

[sconoscuito]

yea I dont know freedom or no freedom over there I feel like a human being

here I just feel like a dog whos being trained or something... go to school, play basketball come home eat, go to sleep... same everyday...well you go out of course but again thats just part of your life...

fuck this thread makes me wanna go back where I belong, or more like back to when I was 14 years old still living in europe

 

[sinjinsmythe33]

are you playing college ball?

 

[sconoscuito]

rright now yea but I didnt play last year cause I got a bloodclot in my shoulder so the comeback is kinda rough..

 

[Smurfy]

Bagels

 

[Smurfy]

Rev needs someone he can share his thoughts and his feelings with. he needs the companionship of a sexy yet intellectual woman. i picture someone very pretty, not over the top, yet extremely bright, maybe even more inetllligent than himself. that would work for him.

 

[revexrevex]

Women are losers

 

[sinjinsmythe33]

women = a distant second to football

 

[Fuck_Hope]

i was kinda like that a lil bit ago. im 21 btw. kinda like youve figured it all out or someting. i just got into geopolitics and back into videogames. theres always a constant supply of new things.

i dont know if getting a woman is the answer. personally, i dont think there is one. the best thing you can do is try to hold on to, or regain some of the magic of youth. be inquisitive. explore. dont let your age dictate who you are. im fine with nerding out over shit, and i dont appologize. use your expirience for perspective and problem solving. goal setting. otherwise, fuck it.

i was readin an old playboy interview with chris matthews, and he said he was interviewing some older guy dying from emphysema. he asked him what he wanted most right then. his answer? interest.

ive accepted ill never be the best looking guy in the room, or the most popular. throwing that shit off, ive found i always find stuff to get into.

your transitioning. make the most of it, cause fighting it is futile.

 

[collegiateLifter]

Hey, I see you are from Yugoslavia? I came here from Ukraine when I was 12, and you precisely described my line of thoughts. How come people in Eastern Europe never thought "what ist he purpose to life" Maybe they were so pre-occupied with their work and getting drunk, and carrying for their families, and trying to get food on the table that they simply had no time for this? America is just so socially industrial in a sense that you work 5 days a week, and maybe go out on a friday night... for the rest of your life.


You completely follow what I am saying. I have something inside me that I just simply cant describe in words.

Have you ever read Candide ? Your sentiments seem a lot in line with the conclusion of it.

I think I know what you're saying, thinking there's got to be something more in life but I certainly don't have the answer to that.

 

[revexrevex]

Voltaire? Yea that guy was a pessimist - realist

 

[Naeem]

A girl isnt the answer. The problems they present are fun, for a while, then you realize how to beat em and get what you want out of it (pussy) and its back to step 1.

I dont know what the solution is either. Life just kinda seems to boil down to sex and money. Just work on mastering both and youll be "happy" as people like us could possibly be.