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I have several married friends....and it seems like so many of them are unhappy. I look at them and think if that is what marriage is like then I'm not missing anything. They just seem to have "settled". There is no passion in there life....they are dead and just dont know it. How can that be enough......
And what makes it worse is when they have kids. Even if they do decide that they want out....how do they know what is the right thing to do. Do they stay together "for the kids".....or do they try to better their life by once again pursuing happiness?
I guess this is all sparked by the fact that I recently had lunch with a married female friend of mine. She has a beautiful set of twins by her husband. They are 3 years old. And she has talked to me so many times about how much she wants "out". But she is worried how it will adversly affect her children. She is an amazing mother if you ever saw her with them...and I have no doubt that she would sacrifice the rest of her life to keep mommy and daddy together. But is that the right thing for her to do.....raising your children in a enviroment where the parents dont love each other....wouldnt that be worse than moving on and finding a happy home?
My question is especially for people, women in particular, that have been through this. How do you know when it is time to leave. What can you do to ensure your childrens future.....stay or go? What do you do to make yourself strong enough to move on.
I know that when my parents divorced I was 8 and my brother was 3....he doesnt remember any of it...and I remember everything. I told her that I thought it was something better done sooner rather than later.
Just lookin for advice for my friend...
And what makes it worse is when they have kids. Even if they do decide that they want out....how do they know what is the right thing to do. Do they stay together "for the kids".....or do they try to better their life by once again pursuing happiness?
I guess this is all sparked by the fact that I recently had lunch with a married female friend of mine. She has a beautiful set of twins by her husband. They are 3 years old. And she has talked to me so many times about how much she wants "out". But she is worried how it will adversly affect her children. She is an amazing mother if you ever saw her with them...and I have no doubt that she would sacrifice the rest of her life to keep mommy and daddy together. But is that the right thing for her to do.....raising your children in a enviroment where the parents dont love each other....wouldnt that be worse than moving on and finding a happy home?
My question is especially for people, women in particular, that have been through this. How do you know when it is time to leave. What can you do to ensure your childrens future.....stay or go? What do you do to make yourself strong enough to move on.
I know that when my parents divorced I was 8 and my brother was 3....he doesnt remember any of it...and I remember everything. I told her that I thought it was something better done sooner rather than later.
Just lookin for advice for my friend...
