Ladies: Question about orgasms...

[mrplunkey]

Ladies, I need some help here with a quick question:

Is it fair to say that once you've been with a guy for a while, and you have a reliable way to get a good orgasm, that you'd prefer to stick with that method for day-to-day sex?

For example... let's say you have a reliable routine -- a certain amount of oral stimulation, followed by a specific position or two. That combination always seems to do the trick. For regular sexual situations, do you prefer to stick to the tried-and-true approach or does something different sound better?

 

[kish]

I'm no lady but I'd say it's better to mix it up. Jam a thumb in her butt n surprise her every once in a while, be creative in the sack. It keeps em interested. This thread reminded me of the movie "This Boys Life" with De Niro. "it's either on your side or from the back, this is my house" lol

 

[the-short-one]

Ladies, I need some help here with a quick question:

Is it fair to say that once you've been with a guy for a while, and you have a reliable way to get a good orgasm, that you'd prefer to stick with that method for day-to-day sex?

For example... let's say you have a reliable routine -- a certain amount of oral stimulation, followed by a specific position or two. That combination always seems to do the trick. For regular sexual situations, do you prefer to stick to the tried-and-true approach or does something different sound better?

If said woman has difficulty achieving orgasm any other way, you don't have to change the WAY you do it. Change the place, the time. Catch her by surprise.

Speaking from personal experience - if you do the same thing, the same way , in the same place, at the same time - well that's just boring. It becomes mechanical after a while, and even though she might still orgasm, it's not as exciting as it used to be.

And who knows? Something new might be just what she needs. Ya never know till ya try.

 

[feisty11975]

New positions are always better because they are "new & exciting"!!! Why stick with same ole same ole? Bring some excitement into the bedroom, living room, kitchen, etc...!!!

 

[jenscats5]

If said woman has difficulty achieving orgasm any other way, you don't have to change the WAY you do it. Change the place, the time. Catch her by surprise.

Speaking from personal experience - if you do the same thing, the same way , in the same place, at the same time - well that's just boring. It becomes mechanical after a while, and even though she might still orgasm, it's not as exciting as it used to be.

And who knows? Something new might be just what she needs. Ya never know till ya try.

Exactly!!

 

[mrplunkey]

If said woman has difficulty achieving orgasm any other way, you don't have to change the WAY you do it. Change the place, the time. Catch her by surprise.

Speaking from personal experience - if you do the same thing, the same way , in the same place, at the same time - well that's just boring. It becomes mechanical after a while, and even though she might still orgasm, it's not as exciting as it used to be.

And who knows? Something new might be just what she needs. Ya never know till ya try.

Ok, then let me be more specific... I understand changing the place, the time, dinner before, candles, rose petals, champaigne, etc. etc. That's all good.

Given that those things mentioned above are varied, what about the specific sequence and/or positions? For example, if you have a limited number of options for orgasm (ie. oral only or cowgirl only), do you still enjoy investing in trying to make other positions work? Once you have a good sequence (i.e. oral, missionary, then orgasm in cowgirl) is it better to stick to it or try other things routinely?

 

[feisty11975]

Ok, then let me be more specific... I understand changing the place, the time, dinner before, candles, rose petals, champaigne, etc. etc. That's all good.

Given that those things mentioned above are varied, what about the specific sequence and/or positions? For example, if you have a limited number of options for orgasm (ie. oral only or cowgirl only), do you still enjoy investing in trying to make other positions work? Once you have a good sequence (i.e. oral, missionary, then orgasm in cowgirl) is it better to stick to it or try other things routinely?

See Post #4

 

[mrplunkey]

See Post #4

New positions, given that you can orgasm in them? Or is it worthwhile to "play" even if it's not an orgasm-producing position?

I'm trying to not get too nosey here, but if the girl can orgasm in lots of positions in any sequence, then my question isn't valid

P.S. thanks for the responses -- good stuff!

 

[the-short-one]

another thought -

if she's not freaked out by you bringing a vibrator into the mix, then bring one. women who have difficulty achieving orgasm find it easier with a vibrator. some women can't orgasm at all without them.

it would efinitely spice things up in the bedroom.

BTW - she probably won't get off with the vibrator vibrating inside her. direct clitoral stimulation with it will almost certainly do the trick.

 

[feisty11975]

New positions, given that you can orgasm in them? Or is it worthwhile to "play" even if it's not an orgasm-producing position?

I'm trying to not get too nosey here, but if the girl can orgasm in lots of positions in any sequence, then my question isn't valid

P.S. thanks for the responses -- good stuff!

ok lemme splain something to you!! You do not have to orgasm in each and every position to enjoy being with your SO!!! Just the togetherness, the closeness is exciting! There is no way that someone can orgasm in each and every position! It just cannot happen. As long as both are enjoying each other, why not explore and try new things? I consider myself very tri-sexual! I will try anything once, well sometimes twice...If I like it then I continue, if not, well then, it hurt nothing to try!!

 

[the-short-one]

ok lemme splain something to you!! You do not have to orgasm in each and every position to enjoy being with your SO!!! Just the togetherness, the closeness is exciting! There is no way that someone can orgasm in each and every position! It just cannot happen. As long as both are enjoying each other, why not explore and try new things? I consider myself very tri-sexual! I will try anything once, well sometimes twice...If I like it then I continue, if not, well then, it hurt nothing to try!!

so true.

 

[mrplunkey]

Well... let me give a little more info and you guys can see what i'm noodling over.

Let me compare two extremes -- women I have direct experience with.

One was limited... orgasmed in oral and cowgirl only. And even then, in a very specific sequence. Also, she was a one-shotter... one orgasm then no interest in even pursuing another. So if you slipped-up and she came with oral, we didn't even try the cowgirl position that night.

Now the other one was the other extreme... orgasmed with oral, missionary, doggie, cowgirl, reverse cowgirl, from the side, legs over my shoulders, etc. etc. Very multiorgasmic too.

As for me, I actually go in phases. I'll go for 2-3 months where I can't get enough doggie. Then, for some reason, doggie won't be as appealing and I'll want more missionary. Then... sure enough, 2-3 months later, oral seems to be my big turn-on.

With both women, when it comes to satisfying them, I've found myself settling into "routines" for our day-to-day sex. For example, with the multiorgasmic girl, it was oral x 2 orgasms, missionary for 1 or 2 orgasms, doggie for 2 orgasms, then I'd come.

With the other woman, it was oral, brief missionary, cowgirl, missionary (for me, because she was rough on my dick -- not a good rider), cowgirl, missionary, cowgirl -- and she'd orgasm on the 2, 3 or 4th cowgirl.

So here is my theory (and it's just a THEORY):

Women can settle into "proven" methods of orgasm because they are predictable and reliable and familiar. It isn't that they are bored or boring, it's just that they enjoy the reliability that comes with using a proven technique.

Of course, the countertheory is that I'm just really bad to get into sexual ruts with my partner and lack the creativity to break these ruts on a regular basis!

 

[feisty11975]

another thought -

if she's not freaked out by you bringing a vibrator into the mix, then bring one. women who have difficulty achieving orgasm find it easier with a vibrator. some women can't orgasm at all without them.

it would efinitely spice things up in the bedroom.

BTW - she probably won't get off with the vibrator vibrating inside her. direct clitoral stimulation with it will almost certainly do the trick.

I have never used a vibrator during intercourse. I was married to a very boring person for a very long time. It is now time to play!! lol

 

[the-short-one]

Well... let me give a little more info and you guys can see what i'm noodling over.

Let me compare two extremes -- women I have direct experience with.

One was limited... orgasmed in oral and cowgirl only. And even then, in a very specific sequence. Also, she was a one-shotter... one orgasm then no interest in even pursuing another. So if you slipped-up and she came with oral, we didn't even try the cowgirl position that night.

Now the other one was the other extreme... orgasmed with oral, missionary, doggie, cowgirl, reverse cowgirl, from the side, legs over my shoulders, etc. etc. Very multiorgasmic too.

As for me, I actually go in phases. I'll go for 2-3 months where I can't get enough doggie. Then, for some reason, doggie won't be as appealing and I'll want more missionary. Then... sure enough, 2-3 months later, oral seems to be my big turn-on.

With both women, when it comes to satisfying them, I've found myself settling into "routines" for our day-to-day sex. For example, with the multiorgasmic girl, it was oral x 2 orgasms, missionary for 1 or 2 orgasms, doggie for 2 orgasms, then I'd come.

With the other woman, it was oral, brief missionary, cowgirl, missionary (for me, because she was rough on my dick -- not a good rider), cowgirl, missionary, cowgirl -- and she'd orgasm on the 2, 3 or 4th cowgirl.

So here is my theory (and it's just a THEORY):

Women can settle into "proven" methods of orgasm because they are predictable and reliable and familiar. It isn't that they are bored or boring, it's just that they enjoy the reliability that comes with using a proven technique.

Of course, the countertheory is that I'm just really bad to get into sexual ruts with my partner and lack the creativity to break these ruts on a regular basis!

here's the thing. all women are different when it comes to sex/orgasms. but the popular consensus here is that it gets boring doing the same old thing.

 

[feisty11975]

Well... let me give a little more info and you guys can see what i'm noodling over.

Let me compare two extremes -- women I have direct experience with.

One was limited... orgasmed in oral and cowgirl only. And even then, in a very specific sequence. Also, she was a one-shotter... one orgasm then no interest in even pursuing another. So if you slipped-up and she came with oral, we didn't even try the cowgirl position that night.

Now the other one was the other extreme... orgasmed with oral, missionary, doggie, cowgirl, reverse cowgirl, from the side, legs over my shoulders, etc. etc. Very multiorgasmic too.

As for me, I actually go in phases. I'll go for 2-3 months where I can't get enough doggie. Then, for some reason, doggie won't be as appealing and I'll want more missionary. Then... sure enough, 2-3 months later, oral seems to be my big turn-on.

With both women, when it comes to satisfying them, I've found myself settling into "routines" for our day-to-day sex. For example, with the multiorgasmic girl, it was oral x 2 orgasms, missionary for 1 or 2 orgasms, doggie for 2 orgasms, then I'd come.

With the other woman, it was oral, brief missionary, cowgirl, missionary (for me, because she was rough on my dick -- not a good rider), cowgirl, missionary, cowgirl -- and she'd orgasm on the 2, 3 or 4th cowgirl.

So here is my theory (and it's just a THEORY):

Women can settle into "proven" methods of orgasm because they are predictable and reliable and familiar. It isn't that they are bored or boring, it's just that they enjoy the reliability that comes with using a proven technique.

Of course, the countertheory is that I'm just really bad to get into sexual ruts with my partner and lack the creativity to break these ruts on a regular basis!

I am going to repeat this one more time

ITS NOT ALL ABOUT ORGASMS!!!

 

[StickFigure]

ok lemme splain something to you!! You do not have to orgasm in each and every position to enjoy being with your SO!!! Just the togetherness, the closeness is exciting! There is no way that someone can orgasm in each and every position! It just cannot happen. As long as both are enjoying each other, why not explore and try new things? I consider myself very tri-sexual! I will try anything once, well sometimes twice...If I like it then I continue, if not, well then, it hurt nothing to try!!

I sure am willing to test this one out!

 

[feisty11975]

I sure am willing to test this one out!

Well so am I!! I just don't think it is possible. Maybe the first couple times being together but it just can't happen everytime. If it does then we are going to have to retire cause I won't let you out of the bedroom

 

[StickFigure]

Well so am I!! I just don't think it is possible. Maybe the first couple times being together but it just can't happen everytime. If it does then we are going to have to retire cause I won't let you out of the bedroom

we'll see!

 

[feisty11975]

we'll see!

Hey I am totally willing to try!! It sure will be fun!!

 

[the-short-one]

how ironic that i am over here giving advice on sex while at the same time venting in another thread about how i don't have any.

 

[feisty11975]

how ironic that i am over here giving advice on sex while at the same time venting in another thread about how i don't have any.

its ok hun...I won't get any till April and it has been quite a while since the last time but I still remember what I like and how I like it!

 

[the-short-one]

its ok hun...I won't get any till April and it has been quite a while since the last time but I still remember what I like and how I like it!

i'd karma you again if i could.

 

[feisty11975]

i'd karma you again if i could.

Yeah I am all out too for today but I will make sure I hit you tomorrow when I recharge...

 

[kish]

Hike the thumb it always works.

 

[mrplunkey]

So concensus thus far...

1) It's not about orgasms... spending time in a position that does not directly contribute to an orgasm is not only "no big deal" but is also considered a pleasurable part of sexual relations.

2) Women want a "mix it up" approach, where not only the timing, venue and circumstances of sex vary -- they also want variations in the order and variety of positions.

Does that pretty-much sum it up?

 

[feisty11975]

So concensus thus far...

1) It's not about orgasms... spending time in a position that does not directly contribute to an orgasm is not only "no big deal" but is also considered a pleasurable part of sexual relations.

2) Women want a "mix it up" approach, where not only the timing, venue and circumstances of sex vary -- they also want variations in the order and variety of positions.

Does that pretty-much sum it up?

My dear sir...you are now ready for the world. hehehe


I think that about covers it all!!!

 

[kish]

I still say jam a thumb in her butt

 

[Raina]

Mix things up please. Part of sex is mental and the same old routine does nothing to stimulate the mind.

 

[pintoca]

its ok hun...I won't get any till April and it has been quite a while since the last time but I still remember what I like and how I like it!

good memory you have going there...

 

[Gymgurl]

Let me see if I have this question right....

If I need to get off due to time, kids,other things....then yes I have standard way that I can do that fast....his mouth certian position.....if I can take my time we try all kinds of different things some work for me some dont...some work for him some don't....a great one was I sat on him backwards and while he was inside me I leanded forward so he had a show the whole time.....that one worked for both of us lol

 

[Whiskey]

The park. There are so many places to have fun in the park it isn't funny... then again, out park is open 24 hours and no crime in out town. It might not work in Compton

Whiskey

 

[jenscats5]

OK - let's see....

There is a "certain" way to get things done that works & is reliable....soooooo - it would make sense to use that method at times....

However, each time we have sex - I for one, don't have to cum each time....I do derive a certain amount of pleasure by pleasing HIM and making him cum.....plus he may not cum each time and I will - so it works both ways....

BUT - there IS something to be said in discovering new "spots" of pleasure and figuring out new ways to get each other off....