Please Scroll Down to See Forums Below I recently met a girl and got to know then I began to really like her but now she has revealed to me that she has herpes. We have not had sex but my Question is do I have a high chance of getting the herpes from here if I use a condom? and also what about oral sex will I catch the herpes that way too? some one please tell me what to do!
is it worth herpes?
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Your_Moms_Kneepads
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What knd of reply is this. Your grammar and post make little sense excpet for the first line or two.Weam said:
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She's NOT worth it
She's not worth it. If you get herpes you'll likely lose alot of great women.big411 said:
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Puc
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The chances of getting herpes when she is not broken out are very slim. with a condom, miniscule.
Also, some people have herpes for the better part of there lives and never have a breakout, not one symptom. Certain peoples immune systems are more susceptible to others.
I will tell you this, too, that herpes is easy to deal with.
Want to know why it hasn't been cured yet? Because it is such a minor nuisance that researches spend there time working on other diseases...(yes, that is opinion, for fucks sake)
Puc
Also, some people have herpes for the better part of there lives and never have a breakout, not one symptom. Certain peoples immune systems are more susceptible to others.
I will tell you this, too, that herpes is easy to deal with.
Want to know why it hasn't been cured yet? Because it is such a minor nuisance that researches spend there time working on other diseases...(yes, that is opinion, for fucks sake)
Puc
Steelheart
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If you love her dont worry about it.
Would you date a woman who gets a cole sore? Its almost the same thing.
Would you date a woman who gets a cole sore? Its almost the same thing.
there are 2 kinds of herpes...herpes I and herpes II....the latter is more severe and genital related..Herpes I is like a cold sore which many people have and only appears if they are tired, run down or too much sun.....you should find out what kind...there are antibody tests for it...
2legit2quit
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Also ask her how often she has outbreaks. A very good friend of mine got herpes from a one night stand, but his case is very mild. He has outbreaks only two or three times a year which is fairly easy to deal with. However, my sister said she knows a girl who has outbreaks at least once a month, sometimes twice a month! That to me would be pretty tough to deal with. But hey, if you lover her, maybe you'd be willing to put up with it.
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There is a chance that you won't get it from having sex with her as long as your protected and she is not "active".
HOWEVER, there is something to consider.....If you do get it, it will be your obligation to tell every partner in the future that you have it before you have sex with them. Chances are, if it's a new girl, there is a chance that she won't want to be with you! This is something you will have to consider for the rest of your life.
If you do get it, and you break out, you will wish to god that you never had sex with that girl. You will feel like HELL. Think about it.....any time something seems a little off down there, you freak out.....and are SOOO happy when it turns out to be nothing!
I give the girl A LOT of credit for letting you know first! You gotta respect that! At the same time, maybe it is a real issue and she breaks out on a regular basis.
In any case, play it safe! And maybe don't rush into anything. See how the relationship goes.
After all, you have probably been having sex for years....it's only now that you want to start having it with someone else.
There is a chance that you won't get it from having sex with her as long as your protected and she is not "active".
HOWEVER, there is something to consider.....If you do get it, it will be your obligation to tell every partner in the future that you have it before you have sex with them. Chances are, if it's a new girl, there is a chance that she won't want to be with you! This is something you will have to consider for the rest of your life.
If you do get it, and you break out, you will wish to god that you never had sex with that girl. You will feel like HELL. Think about it.....any time something seems a little off down there, you freak out.....and are SOOO happy when it turns out to be nothing!
I give the girl A LOT of credit for letting you know first! You gotta respect that! At the same time, maybe it is a real issue and she breaks out on a regular basis.
In any case, play it safe! And maybe don't rush into anything. See how the relationship goes.
After all, you have probably been having sex for years....it's only now that you want to start having it with someone else.
Herpes is a pretty nasty disease. Its treatable, but not cureable. That means if you have it, you will have it forever (assuming current medical technology) but you can take medication to reduce herpies outbreaks. After reading your question, I can advice you of two things. Some of the people mgiht disagree, but this is what I would do.
1) Abstain from having any type of Sexual Activity with her, Especially ORAL. You can get herpes spread to the mouth, and believe me it looks pretty nasty. You shoudl really do a search for STD pictures to get a better clue.
So I would not advice Oral sex.
2) I would also not advice you to have sex with her, even with a condom. Yes, I realize the condom is pretty safe, but there is always a chance it could break. Believe it or not, condoms are not as reliable as the media makes you belief. I am sure more then 70% of the people here have used a condom, ended up breaking during intercourse. Even if the condom doesnt break, Herpes is highly infectious, meaning it isnt that hard to catch it.
Seriously, its great that you love this girl, and well if you love her, then you may just want to risk your life, and your future. Keep in mind, if you dont end up together, and if you catch this wonderful disease you will probalby be in a LOT of pain, both physically and emotionally. Lets face it society doenst look to highly on those with STD's, specially those who are interested, or WERE interested in going out with you. Side NOTE: Because of all these problems, there are actual dating sites for people that have herpes. This is due to the fact that those who are infected with herpes find it hard to ever DATE non-std infected people again and are forced to find their own "kind".
Leave the women and find another if sex is a major issue for you. I would, but then again... i can be a jerk. If you love her, and want to take the risk go ahead, but remember the risk you are taking, and make sure you are absolutly shore you want to jump the wire.
Hindustan
1) Abstain from having any type of Sexual Activity with her, Especially ORAL. You can get herpes spread to the mouth, and believe me it looks pretty nasty. You shoudl really do a search for STD pictures to get a better clue.
So I would not advice Oral sex.
2) I would also not advice you to have sex with her, even with a condom. Yes, I realize the condom is pretty safe, but there is always a chance it could break. Believe it or not, condoms are not as reliable as the media makes you belief. I am sure more then 70% of the people here have used a condom, ended up breaking during intercourse. Even if the condom doesnt break, Herpes is highly infectious, meaning it isnt that hard to catch it.
Seriously, its great that you love this girl, and well if you love her, then you may just want to risk your life, and your future. Keep in mind, if you dont end up together, and if you catch this wonderful disease you will probalby be in a LOT of pain, both physically and emotionally. Lets face it society doenst look to highly on those with STD's, specially those who are interested, or WERE interested in going out with you. Side NOTE: Because of all these problems, there are actual dating sites for people that have herpes. This is due to the fact that those who are infected with herpes find it hard to ever DATE non-std infected people again and are forced to find their own "kind".
Leave the women and find another if sex is a major issue for you. I would, but then again... i can be a jerk. If you love her, and want to take the risk go ahead, but remember the risk you are taking, and make sure you are absolutly shore you want to jump the wire.
Hindustan
macrophage69alpha
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americans ages 16-45
over 75% of americans carry HSV 1 (oral herpes)
over 25% of americans carry HSV 2 (genital Herpes)
over 80% of americans carry HPV (genital warts)- there is some evidence that HPV is carried in the DNA (heriditary)- it is a retrovirus. But then again it may be that it is just SUPER infectious.
All I can say is at least she is honest- many people are not.
Though actually most people have no idea that they are infected.
herpes is VERY difficult to pass from woman to man (when not active-ie outbreak) 1 in 20 chance with regular sexual intercourse-WITHOUT a CONDOM. This is because of viral shedding
however, the other way is like 80%-90%- because of the nature of the female anatomy and the aforementioned viral shedding.
peace
over 75% of americans carry HSV 1 (oral herpes)
over 25% of americans carry HSV 2 (genital Herpes)
over 80% of americans carry HPV (genital warts)- there is some evidence that HPV is carried in the DNA (heriditary)- it is a retrovirus. But then again it may be that it is just SUPER infectious.
All I can say is at least she is honest- many people are not.
Though actually most people have no idea that they are infected.
herpes is VERY difficult to pass from woman to man (when not active-ie outbreak) 1 in 20 chance with regular sexual intercourse-WITHOUT a CONDOM. This is because of viral shedding
however, the other way is like 80%-90%- because of the nature of the female anatomy and the aforementioned viral shedding.
peace
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