Is a relationship doomed without a chase?

[concordsize]

Basically I think I have found out that women only want to play games. Every time I make an honest attempt to call and set up dates the relationship takes a dump. I am the type of guy who if I say I am going to do something I do it. I don’t say im going to call you tomorrow and not call.
-Ladies what’s the word? When you are dating a guy do you want to hear from him or not I just don’t get it.

 

[nycgirl]

Question: What is the age range of these ladies?

Yes, I do want to hear from the man I'm interested in. If I want to contact him, I will.

 

[saint808]

i'd say most relationships are doomed either way... but i am pretty bitter right now.

 

[Raina]

I don't think so. I think games are stupid. They're a way to make life more complicated than it needs to be and fuck with other people for no reason.

 

[KillahBee]

99% of girls are like that (and probably 99% of doods). Keep plugging along and you'll find one that is real. They are few and far between, but they are out there.

 

[starfish]

Men play just as many games as women can...You are right it gets very old. I only like to play Pictionary and Uno.

 

[nycgirl]

99% of girls are like that (and probably 99% of doods). Keep plugging along and you'll find one that is real. They are few and far between, but they are out there.

Agreed.

 

[nutsnack]

are you dating 17-18 year olds?

 

[bullett]

Question: What is the age range of these ladies?

Yes, I do want to hear from the man I'm interested in. If I want to contact him, I will.

Is THIS why you haven't called me back???

 

[flexygrl]

Basically I think I have found out that women only want to play games. Every time I make an honest attempt to call and set up dates the relationship takes a dump. I am the type of guy who if I say I am going to do something I do it. I don’t say im going to call you tomorrow and not call.
-Ladies what’s the word? When you are dating a guy do you want to hear from him or not I just don’t get it.

So not true. You know the book, "he's just not into you?", well the same applies to woman.

Most of us girls do like a little bit of a chase. We will try to make ourselves seem unavailable to you, but if we like you, we will go out on dates with you and stick to the plans.

If we don't or are unsure about you, we may commit to plans but cancel latter or even avoid making plans all together.

How often do you call girls? It should be one call only to make the date. You don't need to call to confirm and if she didn't pick up all you need to do is leave a message. If she likes you enough, she will call you back.

I hope that helps.

 

[Raina]

The whole "chase" thing makes me think of when people overthink how long they should wait to call someone. Ummm...if someone gives you their # there's probably a reason. If I gave mine to someone and they didn't call me for 4 days I'd think "you're not that into me and I'm not going to waste my time".

What is the point of starting relationships with games and mind fucks and anything other than 100% honesty? It just puzzles me. Take risks. Be yourself. If you're interested in someone, tell them. Worst case scenario they don't feel the same, best case scenario you have an awesome relationship.

I have read so much of this "game" nonsense lately. I think it applies to so many parts of life outside of romantic relationships too. Why don't people believe in just being raw and open and honest anymore without the creation of drama?

 

[concordsize]

Great responses!!! Yes the girl is young actually 4 years younger than me and im 24 so you can figure it out lol….
-Things were going great she was real into me and from the first night she came over she cuddled next to me and we made out that same night. All of a sudden several days later she stoped returning my phone calls. We had plans to have dinner this past Tuesday night so I called her that afternoon left a message and never got a call back, then I called the next night and got her machine again to invite her out to dinner with some friends bla bla bla. Well no call back, so now I say fuck it! If she cant tell me what the deal is then im done. I have pride and I am not the type to keep calling ya know.
-This all leads me to believe that she is wanting more of fight because up to this point we have communicated great, daily calls to catch up on the day and everything.

 

[Delinquent]

I'll start with an optimistic point of view and state that maybe something bad happened to her which is causing her to not return your calls. Even though I would hope nothing bad happened to her, it may be the case

More pessimistic/realistic view especially considering the age and the times we live in: she found someone else.

I'd try to contact a friend of hers if you know any. If not, I'd go to her house to make sure she is ok. Some may think that stalker like but shit if everything was going well and she just stopped responding, I'd be a little worried for her. If it turns out she found someone else, well, find someone else preferably a little older and more mature

 

[nutsnack]

me and my girlfriend play games.. i love uno.. she loves monopoly..