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No...you can't be. No matter how much you try...if you are sweet inside...you can't change it.
If you ever do...both you and everyone around you will be at a great loss...
B True
If you ever do...both you and everyone around you will be at a great loss...
B True
Im done being the "nice guy"
I will not let any new person I meet (girl) know the real me, what they get is this shell who doesn't give a shit about them
Im done with the thought of a relationship
anything henceforth involving women, at least for a good while, and myself..will be purely physicla, I will tell them that, i will not lead them on, but if they get attached anyways, its not my fucking problem
I will not let any new person I meet (girl) know the real me, what they get is this shell who doesn't give a shit about them
Im done with the thought of a relationship
anything henceforth involving women, at least for a good while, and myself..will be purely physicla, I will tell them that, i will not lead them on, but if they get attached anyways, its not my fucking problem
so I don't sound too much of an uncaring zombie, no I will treat my friends and people who are already on the inside any diferant, they will continue to see who i really am, but the rest of the world, screw them, way I see it, they are not worth my time...I will not allow myself this pain anymore I will not be left feeling an empty hatefull heartsick person again, at least not for a long time
jennifer BFL chick
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Not to sound too "Its just a phase" but, it most likely is---
most people go through this several times in their life---and at your age its very common
If you want girls only for the physical aspects, that's fine, but just make sure that's all you really want
most people go through this several times in their life---and at your age its very common
If you want girls only for the physical aspects, that's fine, but just make sure that's all you really want
Man...this post kills me inside... 
B True
B True
as far as m concerned, women are not worth my fucking time emotionally, the only thing the've been good at is hurting me, as far as Im concerned, they aren't worthy to know the real me, they aren't worthy enough to have me give a damn about them...physical is the only thing Ill have anything to do with
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Citruscide
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Finally, you've seen the light.
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well the only one that truly knows all the details is Frackal
as of now, my spirit is crushed, I feel empty, pretty haateful, and I damn sure am not the same as I was 2 hours ago, this was the last straw... Im nto allowing th epart of me that cares to emerge again for as long as I can prevent it, its a very long story, its very complicated, it goes back months, but Im hurting inside and Im just not at this point strong enough to even risk it again
as of now, my spirit is crushed, I feel empty, pretty haateful, and I damn sure am not the same as I was 2 hours ago, this was the last straw... Im nto allowing th epart of me that cares to emerge again for as long as I can prevent it, its a very long story, its very complicated, it goes back months, but Im hurting inside and Im just not at this point strong enough to even risk it again
SofaGeorge
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Austin, everybody gets their heart fed to them... and it's a sad sad thing to see the guys who are my age that never bounced back.
strangebrew
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congratulations, now you'll get all the pussy 
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Frackal
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Citruscide said:
Basically....
Anyway bro like we've said, you need to take some time and play the jerk, being as nice as you are isnt getting you very far right now.
big_bad_buff
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Austin316 said:
who the hell cares LOL...if you dont care you wouldnt post this right? but you put this thread up to get people to reply, meaning you want advice or some shit but you dont want to ask for it, so to sum it all up, you still care buddy, and you always will SO SUCK IT DOWN BRO!!!!!!!!!!!
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Frackal
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starfish said:
jennifer BFL chick
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care bears care
jennifer BFL chick
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Re: Re: Im done caring
big_bad_buff said:
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Citruscide
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Austin,
Being nice is ok... but don't be the "nice guy"... the expression nice-guy's finish last was made for a reason..
I've preached to you, and Frackal has your ear... so I'm sure you'll do the right thing.
C-ditty
Being nice is ok... but don't be the "nice guy"... the expression nice-guy's finish last was made for a reason..
I've preached to you, and Frackal has your ear... so I'm sure you'll do the right thing.
C-ditty
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Warik
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Austin, the goal here is to be yourself but to be selfish.
It's OK to be a nice guy, but it's NOT OK to be a nice guy and get walked on for it.
Be nice until people start taking advantage, then lose them. You will know when you've found the right woman when you can be nice without being walked on. Those who CAN'T let you be nice to them without walking on you do not deserve your kindness.
-Warik
It's OK to be a nice guy, but it's NOT OK to be a nice guy and get walked on for it.
Be nice until people start taking advantage, then lose them. You will know when you've found the right woman when you can be nice without being walked on. Those who CAN'T let you be nice to them without walking on you do not deserve your kindness.
-Warik
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Frackal
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Yes.
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Frackal
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Yes. Austin, like I said, recall penny...hot as fuck, but the second she started screwing with me, I dropped her.
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HighIntensity
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actually the key is to be confident in yourself, have your own persona, goals, have a plan in life...
then if you meet a girl/women she is an extension or addition to your own independence ie. a compliment. As you are to her. Never try to box her up or take away what she was before you, and always remember who you were before her, and who youll be after her.
Sincerely Yours
the Egoless Poster
then if you meet a girl/women she is an extension or addition to your own independence ie. a compliment. As you are to her. Never try to box her up or take away what she was before you, and always remember who you were before her, and who youll be after her.
Sincerely Yours
the Egoless Poster
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Frackal
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no that wasnt my point, im saying that is how you should be towards girls in the future, kate is an exception.
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dballer
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Austin316 said:
where all of the above is true.. what B Fold said is true.. once you are a nice guy, you will not change. No matter how hard you try.
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BronzedGoddess
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You set yourself up for this one. You don't have to wear your heart on you sleeve to be a nice guy. And you surely don't have to be clingy and want a relationship to be a nice guy. You seem to push and analyze everything too much. You are young and the girls you meet are young. They probably don't want a serious relationship or commitment, just want to have fun................sorry.
I had a VERY VERY sweet ex-boyfriend, but in all his sweetness he smothered me. There's a fine line......
I had a VERY VERY sweet ex-boyfriend, but in all his sweetness he smothered me. There's a fine line......
I want to add something insightfull here because I know exactly where you're coming from, but it really has all been said. That "nice" part of you is in reality you. You can't erase you from the picture my man. Your personality is yours and is what makes you unique. You can't completely envelope someone with your giving and caring nature. Eventually it becomes a sufficating annoyance to the other person and they want to simply be freed. I can't count the number of times I've told myself I no longer care about the feelings, emotions, perceptions, or needs of girls I have/will meet. I can't count the number of times I;ve thought "that's it, this is strictly physical and I'm now simp,y going to use women for my own personal agenda". Every time it fails...miserably. It's not me. I am caring and very pasionate. I do want far more than a sexual encounter. Why? I have thought endlessly about this. I still have no valid explanation for myself. If I was a "player" then I'd imagine I would be able to avoid much of the pain in my life(heart). But the reality is I'm not. Though I may try to shake my personality off of me in hopes of becoming numb to the pain, it only causes more internal conflict because I know it just isn't the way I'm meant to be. I have learned not to be smothering. I have learned not to take every word, gesture, and place in time so personally. You can find something of a happy medium where your needs are met by something of a stuborn and selfishness on your part, but you will never loose the caring and passionate persona that resides within you.
The Darkness
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Beezers is right, its part of your soul, like the foundation of your personality. You will talk about shaking it off but you never will.
HI is right, you have to learn to be like he says, dont make girls your one world, have your own and stick to it, do your own thing and make sure you mould your own life aswell.
Dont make anything in life your one worldly posession because once you lose it your entire world will collapse around your being.
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HI is right, you have to learn to be like he says, dont make girls your one world, have your own and stick to it, do your own thing and make sure you mould your own life aswell.
Dont make anything in life your one worldly posession because once you lose it your entire world will collapse around your being.
zzz
68GT350
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Dude, you know I love you like a brother...
1. NEVER refer to yourself as "sweet."
2. Bronzed Goddess and WODIN have the best advice. Heed it.
3. Let Citruscide be your guide!
4. Take it all in stride. There's plenty more where that came from but only one of you, you campus model.
Be strong, my friend. The sun will shine again.
1. NEVER refer to yourself as "sweet."
2. Bronzed Goddess and WODIN have the best advice. Heed it.
3. Let Citruscide be your guide!
4. Take it all in stride. There's plenty more where that came from but only one of you, you campus model.
Be strong, my friend. The sun will shine again.
gettinlarger
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Austin316 said:
I felt like that for like ... 2 years man. It sucks. Don't let it happen.
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Warik
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Jetisin said:
Damn English professors... =) OK OK - "Be nice unless someone takes advantage of you."
Does unless work? =)
-Warik
3 things:
1. Treat other people with respect
2. Follow your dreams
3. Stand for something in your life. Albeit honour, loyalty,
honest whatever....
As I have said before, for 100 women that will treat you with respect, there are 100 that will USE YOU, and MANIPULATE
YOU to their advantage.
This however, also goes for women in relation to men. It invariably cuts both ways.
Personally, I learned that the hard way.
I'm 24 btw.
Suck it up and file away this perticular instance as a lesson.
Fonz
1. Treat other people with respect
2. Follow your dreams
3. Stand for something in your life. Albeit honour, loyalty,
honest whatever....
As I have said before, for 100 women that will treat you with respect, there are 100 that will USE YOU, and MANIPULATE
YOU to their advantage.
This however, also goes for women in relation to men. It invariably cuts both ways.
Personally, I learned that the hard way.
I'm 24 btw.
Suck it up and file away this perticular instance as a lesson.
Fonz
first, off, i did not smother...Im fine, the point where I do flip out and demand shit is after the fact...Usually Im the one thats always supporting them, making them feel good, they tell me how sweet I am, how much they want this and tha, then out of NOWHERE, its over and Im blindsided by that...this isn't just one particular instance, this is a continuing cycle, Ive not had ONE!!! not ONE! thing EVER go how I would like when it comes to this subject, I do not know ANYTHING about the good aspects one gets from being involved with someone, I know only what its like to get fucked over time and time again, if I even had just one good experiance, if I knew I did have a feeling I once had to look forward to again, I may still have use for this concept known as hope..but no, I had far better luck in my previous stint where I went after just a physical relationship, and thats what Ill go to now, and thats where Ill stay,...THis fucking FEELING, is NOT worht going through again any time soon in the off hand chance Ill finally be rewarded....and for fucks sake if I hear one more girl say to me, Oh your soo sweet, I can't believe you don't have a gf" Im going to LOSE IT!! Fuck relationships, fuck caring, and fuck people! who I am/was, for now, he can go to hell
fistfullofsteel
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long story short. a very pretty italian-irish girl that i was digging bigtime because she had the a great personality passed me over for some skinny punk ass of some spanish descent. everything was going good and then she tells me that she has known him for a while and wants to give it a go with him because she has feeling for the punk suddenly. i get the dick up the ass, for what? being a gentleman and caring. bitch gave me speeches out the ass how her last two bf's cheated on her and it's the nice guys who are the biggest back stabbers and she doesn't want to get hurt anymore. so i didn't give her the old ffos "i don't give a shit about you, you're just a piece of ass attitude" and i got dealt with like i was the bitch.
in conclusion, i feel your pain. i'll have a pint in your honor this weekend.
in conclusion, i feel your pain. i'll have a pint in your honor this weekend.
Austin316 said:
Austin, sounds like you have a problem with being lonely.
You do not HAVE to be in a relationship for your life to be good.
What you need to do now is focus on what you want to do in
life and stay away from the dating scene altogether.
Life is not just about women. There are far more important things in life. Friends, family,health and career being the most prominent four.
If you constantly obsess about finding the right woman, it will never happen.
Immerse yourself in something for a couple of months. Reflect
on what your problems are and find possible solutions to them.
You have a brain. Use it.
Also, wearing your heart on your sleeve when meeting people
is a recipe for disaster. I used to have that problem. I tended(Still do to some degree) to care too much for the people close
to me. Even though this will probably get me flamed, it is always wise to think first before listening to your heart at our age.
We are just not adept nor wise enough to distinguish a facetious
person from a non-facetious one. i.e. You can never look into someone's heart.
Anyways, take care and good luck
Fonz
vinylgroover
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Austin,
Cut the bullshit. You have so much to look forward to. You're young, healthy, smart, educated........ Unless you quit this neverending quest for the 'perfect' girlfriend you'll run yourself into the ground. Take a tip from what Fonz said and get some perspective in your life.
Ask Code and Bo Cephus what they look forward to.
You need to get some perspective and a sense of proportion in your life real quick.
Good luck, i wish you well.
Cut the bullshit. You have so much to look forward to. You're young, healthy, smart, educated........ Unless you quit this neverending quest for the 'perfect' girlfriend you'll run yourself into the ground. Take a tip from what Fonz said and get some perspective in your life.
Ask Code and Bo Cephus what they look forward to.
You need to get some perspective and a sense of proportion in your life real quick.
Good luck, i wish you well.
If the worse thing that happens in your life is some girl taking advantage of you or dumping you, then you should consider yourself blessed.
Try watching the woman that you care for, more than life itself, slowly die. Holding her hand while she goes through unimaginable pain, and she squeezes your hand so hard that it would bring tears to your eyes. The only reason that it doesn't bring tears to your eyes is because there is no room for them. Tears are already pouring down your face, for her pain. That will break your heart.
I'm not saying that you should not feel bad, but it is part of living, and if you are lucky, you will never have to experience what I or others have been through.
Life is way too short to go through it bitter and mad. Get out and have fun while you can.
Try watching the woman that you care for, more than life itself, slowly die. Holding her hand while she goes through unimaginable pain, and she squeezes your hand so hard that it would bring tears to your eyes. The only reason that it doesn't bring tears to your eyes is because there is no room for them. Tears are already pouring down your face, for her pain. That will break your heart.
I'm not saying that you should not feel bad, but it is part of living, and if you are lucky, you will never have to experience what I or others have been through.
Life is way too short to go through it bitter and mad. Get out and have fun while you can.
fistfullofsteel
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big4life said:
Alex Cross
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strangebrew said:congratulations, now you'll get all the pussy
NO SHIT~~! That's how it works brotha!
But in all honesty. I feel your pain man. I had a girl for over 2 years, and when we broke up, I was in all my glory. Girls all over, didn't care about shit... But after so long, I started missing the emotional bond I had with her, and I feel like I will never find that again.. It is tough as hell bro.... I can't tell you it gets better, even though it does, cause im not there myself...... Every girl I get close to I end up pushing away cause I am scared to feel the pain I did with my X girlfriend.. And whenever I do feel like I care for someone, it seems to go downhill... So I say the same;
Fuck the feelings!
But remember brotha, Easier said than done. . . . . .
A/C
i was going through the same thing recently, not as extreme but i felt just as shitty i'm sure.
tonight my ex-gf (we broke up because i moved away for school but still talk alot) and i got in an argument and i ended up hanging up on her and telling myself i wasn't going to call her anymore.
of course, 2 minutes later i picked up the phone to call her back and as i searched through my phone book for her name there was another girls number whom i met a month ago. i know i could have feelings for her but i wasn't sure if it was mutual so i never pursued it. i called her up and we're going to eat, hockey game, and to a bar thursday night.
after i hung up the phone i realized i hadn't felt that good for a while. she's not as hot as my ex, she's not even as kind, but she doesn't make me feel miserable, and i'm enjoying that.
i'm starting to learn not to take words and gestures for more than they are. if a girl/guy wants you to know they care about you you'll know it. you can't reflect on something she said and convince yourself it meant more than it seems. that doesn't seem like much of a realization but learning that while we're young will help for years to come.
you can't resist what you can't have, and once you have it you don't want it. it's sad to say but it's a truth in life. if a girl knows she has you wrapped around her finger she won't want you. if she doesn't think you're interested she'll be on your nuts like stink on shit.
tonight my ex-gf (we broke up because i moved away for school but still talk alot) and i got in an argument and i ended up hanging up on her and telling myself i wasn't going to call her anymore.
of course, 2 minutes later i picked up the phone to call her back and as i searched through my phone book for her name there was another girls number whom i met a month ago. i know i could have feelings for her but i wasn't sure if it was mutual so i never pursued it. i called her up and we're going to eat, hockey game, and to a bar thursday night.
after i hung up the phone i realized i hadn't felt that good for a while. she's not as hot as my ex, she's not even as kind, but she doesn't make me feel miserable, and i'm enjoying that.
i'm starting to learn not to take words and gestures for more than they are. if a girl/guy wants you to know they care about you you'll know it. you can't reflect on something she said and convince yourself it meant more than it seems. that doesn't seem like much of a realization but learning that while we're young will help for years to come.
you can't resist what you can't have, and once you have it you don't want it. it's sad to say but it's a truth in life. if a girl knows she has you wrapped around her finger she won't want you. if she doesn't think you're interested she'll be on your nuts like stink on shit.
68GT350
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Dude, you knew this girl for how long and you're reacting this way?!
You need to learn how to take rejection better before taking on dating again. Face it, rejection is a part of life...get used to it. I know it sucks but throwing a major hissy-fit every time a girl tells you to take flying leap is gonna be the death of you.
Learn how to say and feel "ok, well go fuck yourself" to the girl and the situation. Why would you want to be with someone who doesn't share your feelings anyways? Trust me, you're better off and she's the one who's losing out. Find solace in that.
You have lots of growing to do, young one.
You need to learn how to take rejection better before taking on dating again. Face it, rejection is a part of life...get used to it. I know it sucks but throwing a major hissy-fit every time a girl tells you to take flying leap is gonna be the death of you.
Learn how to say and feel "ok, well go fuck yourself" to the girl and the situation. Why would you want to be with someone who doesn't share your feelings anyways? Trust me, you're better off and she's the one who's losing out. Find solace in that.
You have lots of growing to do, young one.
fallenangel
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I wake up every day feeling like you austin mate but today i've decided to start a new regime, i have my health, i'm fit, educated have family and friends i love i'm trying to think differently. My problem is i feel i need a girlfriend to convince me of my own self worth, plus i need sex *LOL*.
The problem with that is when i'm with a girl i'm clingy because i feel i need them and have low self esteem.
I've given up on girls and if something happens with one then OK but if not i've got all the things listed above
The problem with that is when i'm with a girl i'm clingy because i feel i need them and have low self esteem.
I've given up on girls and if something happens with one then OK but if not i've got all the things listed above
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dballer
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you need to read some Rollins books. Either "Eye Scream" or "The First Five"
Alex Cross
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mylife said:
Very, very true.... I always used to analyze every little thing and wonder what it meant.. But then I realized that stuff can drive you nucking futs! You gotta just relax and take it as it comes.. Like mylife said, if they care for you, you'll know. And if you don't, usually they make it clear eventually without all the crazy ass wondering.....Keep your head up man
A/C
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dballer
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I hate the world that I think hates me
Pnch holes in the wall you know that hurts me
Feel dark and cold alone it burns me
Wish someone would come and touch me
Walkin' alone in the prison yard
Seein' eyes that seem to see me so hard
Crawlin' like a snake right back in to my room
Feelin' like a dead man rolling around in my tomb
There's nothin like finding someone when you're lonely
Makes you feel so...
Walk in to a crowded room I start to freeze
Words fall short now turns to what it's time to leave
Never happy, never sad, iron face
Can't stop lookin' I keep walkin' from place to place
There's nothin like finding someone when you're lonely
Makes you wanna be so all alone
Hear no sounds they seem to keep me sane
Knife in eyes and point me at my prey
Reachin' out of my soul it's senseless
Reachin' out of my mind it's useless
I feel the mute frustration when I see your eyes
Mute is a way but Isolation it hurts to try
I reach out my hand - it turns to stone
I get up, walk out the door, I'm better off alone
Pnch holes in the wall you know that hurts me
Feel dark and cold alone it burns me
Wish someone would come and touch me
Walkin' alone in the prison yard
Seein' eyes that seem to see me so hard
Crawlin' like a snake right back in to my room
Feelin' like a dead man rolling around in my tomb
There's nothin like finding someone when you're lonely
Makes you feel so...
Walk in to a crowded room I start to freeze
Words fall short now turns to what it's time to leave
Never happy, never sad, iron face
Can't stop lookin' I keep walkin' from place to place
There's nothin like finding someone when you're lonely
Makes you wanna be so all alone
Hear no sounds they seem to keep me sane
Knife in eyes and point me at my prey
Reachin' out of my soul it's senseless
Reachin' out of my mind it's useless
I feel the mute frustration when I see your eyes
Mute is a way but Isolation it hurts to try
I reach out my hand - it turns to stone
I get up, walk out the door, I'm better off alone
The Darkness
New member
DBALLER
whats those books you mentioned earlier
Were you serious?
Are they any good?
I thought Mr Rollins was Mr anti-socialist extreme
Do you recommend them for some open minded reading
Thanks man
whats those books you mentioned earlier
Were you serious?
Are they any good?
I thought Mr Rollins was Mr anti-socialist extreme
Do you recommend them for some open minded reading
Thanks man
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dballer
Guest
Yeah!!! I reccomend them to anyone with girl problems or any kid of low self opinion.
Most of them are like poems and short passages. I find most of it to be very inspirational. He uses words to release his aggression.
The ones I like the best are Eye Scream, The First Five, Solopist, See A Grown Man Cry-Now Watch Him Die.
Check them out.. you can order them from Amazon.com
Most of them are like poems and short passages. I find most of it to be very inspirational. He uses words to release his aggression.
The ones I like the best are Eye Scream, The First Five, Solopist, See A Grown Man Cry-Now Watch Him Die.
Check them out.. you can order them from Amazon.com
The Darkness
New member
Good stuff
Ill order Eye Scream and check it out.
Big up !!
I just got done reading American Psycho, fucked up but kinda funny too in parts, in a major warped way.
It was better than the movie anyway.
Ill order Eye Scream and check it out.
Big up !!
I just got done reading American Psycho, fucked up but kinda funny too in parts, in a major warped way.
It was better than the movie anyway.
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dballer
Guest
The Darkness said:
If I was you I would go to a bookstore like Barnes and Noble and see if they got it.. then read a little there and see what you think. You may like it.. you may hate it. Like I said, it is mostly poetry type stuff.
good luck!!!
