I need some serious relationship advice.

[Keyser Soze]

Here is the situation:

I went out with a girl for about a year and all we did was fight like hell. This was about 2 years ago and we were both immature. When we broke up, it crushed me. She immediately got a new boyfriend and I went off and did all the shit she didnt want me doing, ecstacy, juice, and G.

She got pregnant and had a daughter a month ago. Six months ago, when she was four months pregnant, her boyfriend, the father of her baby, left her. Needless to say he is a piece of shit. Now, I talk to her on the phone once a week and I've hung out with her and her baby three times.

It breaks my heart to know that she is struggling to get by and that the fuck up father isnt doing shit to help her. He comes into town for three hours a week to see the baby and then leaves. I know all she wants is a happy family with a loving father for her daughter because her father neglected her family.

I want to be with her but I'm just afraid if I do, I will want to do something she doesnt like and we will be back where we started, only now there is a baby involved.

I dont want to go roll every weekend, or even every month, I just want to know that if I want to, I can. Same with juice and and everything else. I just dont want to answer to anyone. I guess I dont want to "settle down" yet, although I cant imagine having someone better to spend my life with.

I have to keep myself from calling her even though I want to every day. Every time I think about her having to do anything, go to the doctor, the store, anywhere, and having to care for her baby by herself, I cant take it. I want to do anything I can to help her.

I just dont want her to have to go through any pain at all. There isnt anything I wouldnt do for her, but my biggest fear is that if we get back together, I would cause her pain, and that is the last thing I want in the world.

Fuck I have no clue what to do.

 

[addickt]

Kill Her....

Have you ever seen Saving Silverman?

 

[Scottygunz]

Just tell her everything you just said in your post. Let her know your feelings.

 

[naturally anabolic]

Kill Her....

Have you ever seen Saving Silverman?

If you can dream it, you can do it! so, kill her!

i agree with scotty

 

[Crazier]

Not a bad idea Scotty.

Keyser - Only you can help yourself on this one, because you can answer the one question we can't. And the question...

Is the mistake of breaking up the TWO of you made, and her getting pregnant in the interim of your break-up, strong enough to ruin a possible lifetime together? Is it too hard for you to accept? Is your relationship strong enough to move forward? Only you and her know bro.

Awesome name btw... an awesome movie for sure.

Good luck to you my friend.
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[Phenotype X]

Guys, that's not funny. This is a tough situation and I'm kinda in that too. Let me say that with a kid involved, it is a million times more difficult. I am the same way about wanting to call her. You can't do nothing about it. There are things that make u want to be with her, and things that don't. You just have to understand and seriously view the future. If you actually think things are going to work, then go with it. But if you feel that this whole things will just bring complications in both of your lives, and you'll realize that you regret it all, than stop right now. Think about the guy that got her pregnant. He probably regret it from the start, and he is gone because his life got to complicated. You don't want something like this to be your everyday thought, even though it already is. You also don't want to worry about your future in a negative way. That's why u should think about how your future would be. I know its hard not to support her, but then again, many people find out that it is the best way and find
that to be the better pathway in life. And some go through their whole lives not knowing what is really there for them. Just give it some thought. Read this over again, and maybe it will come up in a dream or something. good luck.

 

[WODIN]

Make up your mind what your want to do. Go for it and live with it. That's really all this is about.

 

[ccc]

Dude, relationships suck, I hear that. You sound like perhaps you are in you teens or early twenties. Do you really want to take on this girl and some other guys kid at your age? Really? Trust me on this one, you will probably fuck up your own life on your own you dont need her to do that for you. Think about it, she will always talk to this guy. She has to be emotionally tied to this guy no matter what she says. You will have to put up with him coming over every week, and what if he grows up and decides he wants to get back with his "family". Then you will be in a bad spot and feel like you were a chump... And that is the worst feeling... Are you sure you love her, or do you love the baby. Have you talked to your parents about this? What does good old dad have to say? I betchya I know. -------- dont talk to her for a month and see how you feel then.. She is real needy right now, and you want to fix it, but it is not worth your well being IMO. Or you can just kill her