I have to get this out.....before I explode.

[woollis2]

Okay, here's the picture.....I'm at my mom's house eating New Year's dinner. Me, my hubby, mom, mom's boyfriend (my father died 3 yrs ago), my mom's boyfriend's son and his wife which is one of my best friends. Well you have to understand my friend. We have a love/hate relationship. She thinks she has to do everything I do better.....it's so childish. She made fun of me going back to school......she goes back to school to see if she could become an EMT AFTER she made fun of me being a in the emergency type of profession....fire fighter--volunteer.....everytime she loses a little weight she always has to get in my face and say "IIIIII"MMMM smaller than YYYOOOOU now...but then she gains weight again.... Everything is just competition for her. My mom, mom's boyfriend AND HER OWN HUSBAND says she's jealous cuz I have accomplished sooo much and she's.....well....LAZY!!!! I could go on and on.....well anyway.....the point of my story is she started to badmouth all fitness people. She laughed at me because I told her that my goal was to look good enough for professional pictures in SEptember. She's like...."Are you on a health kick?" SNicker Snicker.....blah blah. "I can't believe you're going to waste your time to even try to look like a fitness/ bodybuilder. It's worthless and a waste of time." Blah blah on and on...... Okay first of all, it seems that all she does when I'm around is dis me and put everything I do down. SEcond of all, I think she is worried that I might look good then her (which everybody, even her husband says I do..... BTW she treats her husband like shit...her hubby is a friend of mine.....but,.that's another story...don't want you to think he's hitting on me...we go waaay back....he's my best male friend.....I miss talking too him like we used to).

Well to make a long story short.....I feel like a worthless, shitty loser of a person. But now I'm determined to look my best by September so I can get those pixs done and say looky here missy.....Who looks better than who???....actually I wouldn't do that cuz I'm not that childish.

Sorry for such a long post...............I'm just soooooooooooooooo mad and upset about all she argued with me about today....she always has to be right about everything. She even argued with me something about neurology........I'm may be a psych student and I'm not a doctor or anything but I have done LOTS of research so I should Know alot about that sort of stuff.....but do you think just because I pretty much quoted verbatim from a textbook and a research book that she believed me...noooooooooooooooooo, she was right as ALWAYS. But she just made me so upset when she said that basically that it was a waste of time to try to look like a bb or fitness model cuz I will NEVER look like that. I'm just soooooooooo nerved out cuz of her presence today

I just had to get that off my chest....sorry again for rambling.

 

[spentagn]

let's see dem melons.

 

[woollis2]

 

[boss]

now-now.........do it for yourself not to just prove a point. i used to be the same and now im happy but still not big enough and that for me not for anyone. i went from a weak 210lb guy to a powerful 240lb, and it took me 4 years to get to my point im at now. if you were to see a pic of me 4 years ago and see me now you wouldnt believe me!! it was all done for me and the ones who shit on me then are now full of respect. do it for yourself........

 

[woollis2]

I will do it for me! It just makes me so mad that she tells me that I'm wasting my time that I'll NEVER look like that.

Here's a kiss for ya boss thank you for listening to me vent!!

 

[boss]

ya know the real payoff is just like lastnight, i ran into a girl who would never really pay attention to me and she lastnight was telling me i was soo hot and such a nice guy.... .......this comming from her mad me laugh!!!!!! i said thats nice and walked off......she looked at me like i did when i used to see her. it felt real good and she tried to talk all night but i would give in and she said "i'll call you". all i can say is she can kiss my ass!!! but all in all lastnight was good cause i did meet someone from along time ago and we hit it off.....

 

[woollis2]

that's cool. good for you. that someone that you hit it off with, are you going to go out sometime? i'm proud of you.

 

[Sassy69]

The bottom line is that if its your goal, isn't that good enough? WTF does she care if you go after the bb/fitness look or that you want to learn how to yoddle?

If you feel like having a response for her, then ask her why she gives off such negative vibes? That's depressing and is usually an indicator of some personal insecurities which can lead to sexual frustration and early death .

Its simply her way of manipulating you to make u feel bad and then she feels power from that. You are doing something positive and she's doing nothing positive for herself or for you. Screw her. Turn her negative response around on her and ask her what she plans to accomplish this year.

 

[boss]

that's cool. good for you. that someone that you hit it off with, are you going to go out sometime? i'm proud of you.

god i hope so.........its kind of funny cause 6 years ago she was 19, i was 22 and she looked like a little boy!! now 6 years later she is god damn beautiful!!!!! i was telling her that and she laughed cause i kept on saying-my god you have changed- and she kept telling me the same. i just cant believe how much she has changed though.

 

[sysopt]

she sounds horribly bitter and the only way for her to produce a better image is to knock you down. Prove her wrong with your new sexy body good luck

 

[Pamela]

I say go for it....


I do not like being around people like that..
Always negative...
You need to surround yourself
with the positive people..

 

[fiatconspiracy]

" Don't let the trolls get near your Goals"
what this means is if you know people are not supportive , then Do not tell them of your goals! Keep your dreams to yourself, and quietly work towards them.... and before long your body can do all the speaking for you......

 

[68GT350]

let's see dem melons.

Yeah...show us your tits.

 

[frorider6]

Well to make a long story short.....

I'd hate to see the long version.

kidding.

If she's not pulling any punches, then you shouldn't have to fight fair either. Call her fat. But say it in those sickly sweet I-wanna-help ways. Like, "someone as overweight as yourself should be worried about heart disease. I could set up a workout program for you ".

Awww, fuck it. Just call her a fat-ass piggy and throw mashed potatoes at her.

 

[casavant]

You "friend" sounds like a total bitch.
Fuck her and the horse she rode in on.
Fuck her and feed her fish heads.

 

[StillGreg]

Friend??

I love friends that make me feel like a "worthless shitty loser" or however you put it. Now I don't know you, and I realize that I only read one side of the story and you may be a worthless shitty loser, but I'm going to go WAY out on a limb here and suggest that she may be a bonehead. Heck, she may even be worse that that. Yucky people with negative energy bring you down. Positive energy good, negative energy bad.


Go for it Woollis...for you and only you. Then gloat like mad when you smoke her sorry ass!!!!

 

[cm3504jm]

Unfortunately there is no easy way to deal with people like you describe.

All you can do is focus on yourself, be positive, and continue towards your goals. Let them wallow in their own self-pity.

But definitely stay FAR away from them.

 

[MrMuscle]

This is a conflict most bodybuilders and fitness athletes have been in i think. its a wonder she didnt use the old "you will get fat when you get old" routine. but there is only one way to handle people like this..DONT GIVE A FUCK... i mena what do they know? Like Pamlea said, try to sourround yourself with only positive people..i hate having people giving me shit about what i eat, how i look, how i train etc. if people dont have anyhting nice to say, they can shut the fuck up.