I don't think it's possible

[fistfullofsteel]

I don't think it's possible to find somebody you are totally attacted to physically and love their personality, and feel absolutely connected with them. I don't think it's even possible to find those at a 75% of it.

How many are in relationship where you are or was? I say was meaning that person passed away.

 

[knight69]

i,m 100% happy w/ wife mentally and physically

 

[Doktor Bollix]

You've been watching too many movies amigo. Existence is compromise. You're not perfect yourself so why would there be a perfect person out there just specially for you?

 

[HumorMe]

i,m 100% happy w/ wife mentally and physically

Same here.

I don't see why it is so hard to find somebody. Maybe I was in the right place at the right time.

 

[Calypso]

I don't think it's possible to find somebody you are totally attacted to physically and love their personality, and feel absolutely connected with them

it is very rare bro, and for both parties to feel that way also. some may feel that way about their partner, but does the partner feel the same way, probabaly not....its more rare than peoples egos are willing to accept. you have to find someone who is a combination of everything. personality, looks, sex life, common goals in life (family etc), their career etc etc....it is pretty hard for
someone to be everything someone else is looking for

 

[knight69]

same thing here right place right time, we saw each other , she was white , i was white >2 whites make it RIGHT

 

[hippedy hop]

Re: Re: I don't think it's possible

it is very rare bro, and for both parties to feel that way also. some may feel that way about their partner, but does the partner feel the same way, probabaly not....its more rare than peoples egos are willing to accept. you have to find someone who is a combination of everything. personality, looks, sex life, common goals in life (family etc), their career etc etc....it is pretty hard for
someone to be everything someone else is looking for

it must have been heartbreaking to find out your blow up doll's warranty goes up in december.

 

[KHMER ROGUE]

Glad to see our number one priority is about finding somebody to complete our lives. Talk about total dependence on somebody.

 

[HumorMe]

Glad to see our number one priority is about finding somebody to complete our lives. Talk about total dependence on somebody.

It's better having someone to depend on in my life to complete it than relying on the Internet, Nintendo and The Cartoon Network.


All I can say is that I would hate to be a late teenager, early twenties person in today's society. There must be so much confusion in their lives.

Not a flame just an observation.

 

[big4life]

Being happy with someone is not the same thing as agreeing with them 100% of the time. You make compromises, you give a little and they give a little, and hopefully in the end you come out of it stronger, both as a person and as a couple.

 

[KHMER ROGUE]

It's better having someone to depend on in my life to complete it than relying on the Internet, Nintendo and The Cartoon Network.


All I can say is that I would hate to be a late teenager, early twenties person in today's society. There must be so much confusion in their lives.

Not a flame just an observation.

Please, do me a favor next time. Don't ever make an assumption. Like they said, assumptions are the motherfuckers of all

All kidding aside, I am in my early twenties and I've had plenty of experience with a long-term relationship and true love. My point is, I didn't like it when you came into this thread and proclaim like this "LOVE CONQUERS ALL". Yes, I am somewhat envious of your successful marriage and you found "the one" for you. However, what I didn't like is about being in relationships and its faults. People nowadays are afraid about being alone and they would rather be with somebody than being alone. This is one of the big reasons behind these staggering high divorce rates. Do I think being in love is bad? No, not at all. I think it's the greatest thing in the world. Do I think being in false love to ease one's loneliness and inability to be independent a great thing? Hardly.

Not a flame, just an observation too.

 

[HumorMe]

Please, do me a favor next time. Don't ever make an assumption. Like they said, assumptions are the motherfuckers of all

All kidding aside, I am in my early twenties and I've had plenty of experience with a long-term relationship and true love. My point is, I didn't like it when you came into this thread and proclaim like this "LOVE CONQUERS ALL". Yes, I am somewhat envious of your successful marriage and you found "the one" for you. However, what I didn't like is about being in relationships and its faults. People nowadays are afraid about being alone and they would rather be with somebody than being alone. This is one of the big reasons behind these staggering high divorce rates. Do I think being in love is bad? No, not at all. I think it's the greatest thing in the world. Do I think being in false love to ease one's loneliness and inability to be independent a great thing? Hardly.

Not a flame, just an observation too.

Must have hit a nerve.

Where did I come on this thread and say LOVE CONQUERS ALL?

The problem with the high divorce rate isn't all about being afraid of being alone. Several other key factors need to be addressed and I would hazard a guess that "being alone" would probably be near the bottom but then I would be assuming. Key factors to consider about the divorce rate would be Immaturity, Self-centeredness, Personality differences, Goals be different, etc. all the way to be just a living piece of shit.

Early twenties......hmmmmm......still too young, IMO, to really experience a "true love" relationship but there I go again assuming. You will know when you meet that "right person."

Read what big4life said in his post. Relationships are centered around give and take. If one person gives, gives, gives, and the other takes, takes, takes....that relationship is doomed from the start.

I was in my early twenties once and I thought I knew everything. Fast forward twenty years later, I am still learning.

 

[solidj55]

I agree a lot with it being hard to find someone you totally connect with, I have dated hot ass girls with no personality, not so hot girls with a killer personality, and some girls that had a little of both but I just had a mental block with them or something.
Maybe I am the fucked up one with too many hang ups though.

 

[KHMER ROGUE]

Must have hit a nerve.

Where did I come on this thread and say LOVE CONQUERS ALL?

The problem with the high divorce rate isn't all about being afraid of being alone. Several other key factors need to be addressed and I would hazard a guess that "being alone" would probably be near the bottom but then I would be assuming. Key factors to consider about the divorce rate would be Immaturity, Self-centeredness, Personality differences, Goals be different, etc. all the way to be just a living piece of shit.

Early twenties......hmmmmm......still too young, IMO, to really experience a "true love" relationship but there I go again assuming. You will know when you meet that "right person."

Read what big4life said in his post. Relationships are centered around give and take. If one person gives, gives, gives, and the other takes, takes, takes....that relationship is doomed from the start.

I was in my early twenties once and I thought I knew everything. Fast forward twenty years later, I am still learning.

Hmmm...I agree with your post but what does age has to do anything? Age does not automatically makes me a guarantee that I will find somebody when I'm in my late twenties, early thirties, late thirties, early forties, late forties, etc. Hope can be a good thing but I don't like false hopes. It's funny how you think I'm deeply inexperienced in terms of relationships compared to you.

You struck a nerve? Yes, you did. This thread must have struck a nerve in you too.

Same here.

I don't see why it is so hard to find somebody. Maybe I was in the right place at the right time.

You don't see how hard it is to find somebody? By that implication, you meant "LOVE CONQUERS ALL". Whoop-dee-do! I'm in so awe of you. I resent the fact that love is the sole function behind a human being's existence. Yes, I've read biglife's post and guess what? I poured all of my energy and heart in my past relationship to make it work and it didn't get me anywhere. Compromise? I think it's easy to talk "Compromise" than to do the "Compromise".

What do you care? I'm just another immature and misguided kid to you who is talking out of his ass. Oh, yeah. Five years later, I'll find somebody and I will look back on this post in total embarrassment.

 

[HumorMe]

Hmmm...I agree with your post but what does age has to do anything? Age does not automatically makes me a guarantee that I will find somebody when I'm in my late twenties, early thirties, late thirties, early forties, late forties, etc. Hope can be a good thing but I don't like false hopes. It's funny how you think I'm deeply inexperienced in terms of relationships compared to you.

You don't see how hard it is to find somebody? By that implication, you meant "LOVE CONQUERS ALL". Whoop-dee-do! I'm in so awe of you. I resent the fact that love is the sole function behind a human being's existence. Yes, I've read biglife's post and guess what? I poured all of my energy and heart in my past relationship to make it work and it didn't get me anywhere. Compromise? I think it's easy to talk "Compromise" than to do the "Compromise".

What do you care? I'm just another immature and misguided kid to you who is talking out of his ass. Oh, yeah. Five years later, I'll find somebody and I will look back on this post in total embarrassment.

Age has a lot to do with what you choose in your life. A man doesn't grow old being a fool. You're right though, age doesn't guarantee you anything. The physical part of me says I am 41 ie. the aches in the joints, eye sight not as good as it used to be, a gray hair maybe(although I haven't found one yet), back aches and muscles aches, etc. The mental part of me says that I am not 41. I still want to do the things my wife and I did before we had kids(25 to 30 years old) and sometimes we do but our responsibilities have changed and we can no longer take chances (physically and financially) without considering the downside to the "what ifs." I think, hopefully, you get the picture I am trying to paint here.

I didn't mean to imply I thought you were inexperienced in relationships but you have your whole life ahead of you. Damn, live a little and take chances while you are young. Lifetime committments can come at a later date. I got married at 26 because I felt like I had sewed my oats and the woman I was with ( my wife now) was better than anything I had ever had.

Now you are assuming that I said something when I clearly wasn't trying to imply it. You have to remember, I have been out the dating scene for a very long time. Time changes things. I was implying that I just happened to be in the right place at the right time when I found my wife. Your sarcasm about "whoop-de-doo" and "in awe" is funny but there seems to be a lot of bitterness in your past relationships. Pouring all of your work and energy into a relationship, as you described, sounds like a one-sided relationship with all of the energy coming from your side. Relationships should never be a power struggle. Compromising is the solution along with a 100% participation from both sides.

Your last paragraph was uncalled for. Nowhere have I said that or implied that. You have to remember, people my age have been there, done that in the relationship thing. Just trying to encourage you to relax. You will know when you find that one person for you. Let love come to you instead of combing the world for it.

Good luck.

 

[DownUnder23]

i disagree

 

[The Shadow]

I don't think it's possible to find somebody you are totally attacted to physically and love their personality, and feel absolutely connected with them.

....the puppy dog breath phenomena.............


It is possible.....but along with all the warm fuzzy stuff - there will be some things about the other person that just don't do it for you.....the relationship part comes from accepting these quirks along with the good stuff

 

[KHMER ROGUE]

My intention is not to insult you or negate your post.

I am simply pointing out that life isn't about searching for the "one" to complete their lives. Of course, this is only my opinion.

I wish you well with your family and marriage.