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HOW long does new LOVE LAST

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You hear 2 things on this board

guys and gals who have been heartbroken...or guys and gays totally in love...so when does the love go bad.

how long is the average honeymoon period

5 months 8 months a year...2 years
 
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it will only last if its the right person...chances are, you only meet one person in your lifetime that is the RIGHT person.
 
if you're damn lucky.......

love will last forever.





i should be so lucky.
 
you think you only meet one person KAK, my ex and I could have gotten married, but college and distance killed it...you might be right that you only meet the one, once well see, because we were pretty damn perfect.


Smalls...Yea id say about 1year and a half to 2 years...then your like a married couple...sometimes this can kill things
 
How much money does she make??? What does her criminal record look like??
 
Warik said:
If it doesn't last forever, then it's not love.

-Warik
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WRONG..........ITS VERY POSSIBLE TO FALL OUT OF LOVE JUST LIKE YOU FELL IN LOVE!!!

KAYNE
 
I've never been in love, so I have no idea. However, I'm told by friends that things change after 6 months or so. If you can get past that, things are usually cool for a while. At least until the one year mark...at that point people starting thinking about moving in together, marrige, etc. That can fuck things up.


My guess is that it just depends on the couple, the time they spend together, and the work they put into the relationship.
 
You know you are no longer in lust when she is giving you a Blow Job and you get pissed if she bites on your dick and you miss the punch line to a joke on the Man Show....

For hear I would imagine it would be going down on her quiff factory and she is more interested in her bon-bons and The Young and The Restless than you tounge...
 
KAYNE said:


WRONG..........ITS VERY POSSIBLE TO FALL OUT OF LOVE JUST LIKE YOU FELL IN LOVE!!!

KAYNE
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Incorrect.

If you "fall out of love," then you were not in love to begin with - you only thought you were.

-Warik
 
It usually lasts until the roll of one dollar bills is gone..
 
The Dream comes to an end the moment one of you Farts Loud and Toxic in front of each other..

It's all downhill from there...
 
Originally posted by Days of the Tantric

In almost 5 years, I have still not done that in front of Mrs. Testicles. That is why the love is still there. I'm still run the water in the bathroom when I know all hell is going to break loose in there.
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13 Years here... I'm about to pop!
LOOK OUT !!!!
 
I can't recall where I read it, but I know I did somewhere.

there is some big name psychologist that claims that the brain chemistry of love is so that you are basically "high" when first in love. the endorphins that are released and such.
Then after 3-6 years, your body adapts to it and no longer gets the enjoyment from it. So relationships at that point that sustain are the ones that can evolve to another level and the brain chemistry evolves with it so that it is still pleased.
those that don't do this fail and move on.
then they go on to claim that is why there is the rash of failed marriages etc etc.

no idea if it is right - but I thought I'd add what I had read.

if I can recall where (I'm 90% sure it was in scientific american sometime this year), I'll edit this...
 
HappyScrappy said:
I can't recall where I read it, but I know I did somewhere.

there is some big name psychologist that claims that the brain chemistry of love is so that you are basically "high" when first in love. the endorphins that are released and such.
Then after 3-6 years, your body adapts to it and no longer gets the enjoyment from it. So relationships at that point that sustain are the ones that can evolve to another level and the brain chemistry evolves with it so that it is still pleased.
those that don't do this fail and move on.
then they go on to claim that is why there is the rash of failed marriages etc etc.

no idea if it is right - but I thought I'd add what I had read.

if I can recall where (I'm 90% sure it was in scientific american sometime this year), I'll edit this...
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call it what you want but this is how i've managed to stay with my wife for 8 yrs. you goota change it up a bit or you'll get bored of it and one of you will start looking elsewhere for that "something new feeling".
 
i agree with spongebob. i let my relationship fail with my boyfriend of six years because i stopped working on it. i don't regret my decision to be single again, but had i wanted to keep it together i could have.
 
smallmovesal said:
i agree with spongebob. i let my relationship fail with my boyfriend of six years because i stopped working on it. i don't regret my decision to be single again, but had i wanted to keep it together i could have.
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your right smalls, its like everything else. all the good things in life take work.
 
HappyScrappy said:
I can't recall where I read it, but I know I did somewhere.

there is some big name psychologist that claims that the brain chemistry of love is so that you are basically "high" when first in love. the endorphins that are released and such.
Then after 3-6 years, your body adapts to it and no longer gets the enjoyment from it. So relationships at that point that sustain are the ones that can evolve to another level and the brain chemistry evolves with it so that it is still pleased.
those that don't do this fail and move on.
then they go on to claim that is why there is the rash of failed marriages etc etc.

no idea if it is right - but I thought I'd add what I had read.

if I can recall where (I'm 90% sure it was in scientific american sometime this year), I'll edit this...
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I think it was scientific american... the timing can be explained because 3-6 years is how long before the parents can seperate and not destroy the childs chance of survival (during the early stages of mankinds evolution).

Now, I do not know the article, but the theory is based in sociobiology, so grab 'Consilience', or 'On Human Nature' and I am sure you can get a good read up on it...
 
Warik said:


Incorrect.

If you "fall out of love," then you were not in love to begin with - you only thought you were.

-Warik
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WRONG AGAIN MIKE

PEOPLE DO NOT STAY THE SAME FOR EVER. THINGS CHANGE AND SOMETIMES THEY CHANGE FOR THE WORSE. ONE CAN FALL OUT OF LOVE JUST AS ONE CAN FALL IN LOVE.

BASICALLY WHAT YOU ARE SAYING IS THAT IF YOU FALL IN LOVE, YOU ARE IN LOVE FOR EVER AND EVER??? WELL IN A PERFECT WORLD, YES. IN REALITY, NO!!! HOMEOSTASIS IS NOT PRESENT IN RELATIONSHIPS. THINGS CHANGE, THINGS EVOLVE. YOU HAVE TO ADAPT TO IT FOR THE LOVE TO SURVIVE.

I WAS IN LOVE FOR 5 YEARS. HOWEVER, HER AND I BROKE UP A COUPLE YEARS AGO. I STILL LOVE HER AS A PERSON AND WISH NOTHING BAD UPON HER BUT I'M NOT "IN LOVE" WITH HER ANYMORE. TIME IS A REMEDY FOR EVERYTHING. ITS ALSO YOUR WORST ENEMY.

KAYNE
 
KAYNE said:
PEOPLE DO NOT STAY THE SAME FOR EVER. THINGS CHANGE AND SOMETIMES THEY CHANGE FOR THE WORSE. ONE CAN FALL OUT OF LOVE JUST AS ONE CAN FALL IN LOVE.
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If people were reeeeaallllly in love, then a) they would
not change because they would not want to hurt the other
and/or b) those changes would be irrelevant.

KAYNE said:
BASICALLY WHAT YOU ARE SAYING IS THAT IF YOU FALL IN LOVE, YOU ARE IN LOVE FOR EVER AND EVER???
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Precisely. Ok, think about it this way. You're KAYNE... Let's
pretend you're immortal (obviously this is silly talk... only I am
immortal, but let's pretend for argument's sake). Immortal means
that you cannot die, period. If a week from now you suddenly
die, then it would be inaccurate for you to say "I am/was
immortal."

Love, as it pertains to this discussion, is defined (at least by me)
as the everlasting romantic bond between a man and a woman.
If "love" ends, then it is not everlasting. If it is not everlasting,
then it is not love.

Perhaps it was a long period of lust... or perhaps it was very very
strong "like," or maybe even some kind of vehement ardor, but if
it ended, then, at least by my definition, it wasn't love.

KAYNE said:
TIME IS A REMEDY FOR EVERYTHING. ITS ALSO YOUR WORST ENEMY.
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Agreed. Time sux.

BTW: Bow to me... I'm typing like Fonz. =)

-Warik
 
Warik said:


If people were reeeeaallllly in love, then a) they would
not change because they would not want to hurt the other
and/or b) those changes would be irrelevant.



Precisely. Ok, think about it this way. You're KAYNE... Let's
pretend you're immortal (obviously this is silly talk... only I am
immortal, but let's pretend for argument's sake). Immortal means
that you cannot die, period. If a week from now you suddenly
die, then it would be inaccurate for you to say "I am/was
immortal."

Love, as it pertains to this discussion, is defined (at least by me)
as the everlasting romantic bond between a man and a woman.
If "love" ends, then it is not everlasting. If it is not everlasting,
then it is not love.

Perhaps it was a long period of lust... or perhaps it was very very
strong "like," or maybe even some kind of vehement ardor, but if
it ended, then, at least by my definition, it wasn't love.



Agreed. Time sux.

BTW: Bow to me... I'm typing like Fonz. =)

-Warik
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HMM........LOVE, AS DEFINED BY WEBSTER, HAS A FEW MEANINGS. ONE IS A SCORE OF ZERO IN TENNIS. THAT ONE OF COURSE, WE WILL LET LIE BY THE WAYSIDE FOR NOW.

TWO IS INTENSE AFFECTION. THAT ONE PRETTY MUCH EXPLAINS ITSELF.

THREE IS ENTHUSIASM OR FONDNES (I.E.. THE LOVE OF MUSIC OR THE LOVE OF ART).

FOUR IS THE ONE I DONT THINK YOU UNDERSTAND. IT IS A FEELING OF ATTRACTION RESULTING FROM SEXUAL DESIRE. ONE CAN SURELY FALL OUT OF LOVE JUST AS THAT SAME ONE FELL IN LOVE. WHEN YOU LOVE SOMEONE YOU LOVE THE GOOD WITH THE BAD. HOPEFULLY THE GOOD WILL ALWAYS OUTWEIGH THE BAD SO YOU DONT FALL OUT OF LOVE. WHEN THE BAD STARTS TO OUTWEIGH THE GOOD THEN YOU CAN FALL OUT OF LOVE. LOVE DOES NOT LAST FOREVER. YOU HAVE TO MAKE IT LAST FOREVER. IF YOU DONT, THEN INEVITABLY YOU WILL FALL OUT OF LOVE.

LOVE WILL ONLY LAST IF YOU MAKE IT LAST. IT IS VERY VERY POSSIBLE FOR LOVE TO FAIL. LOVE TAKES WORK TO MAKE IT. IT WONT MAKE IT JUST ON THE PREMISE OF LOVE ALONE.

THINK OF IT LIKE THIS......IF YOU WORK OUT AND HAVE A GREAT BODY (OBVIOUSLY THIS IS SILLY TALK.......BUT FOR THE SAKE OF ARGUMENT), YOU HAVE TO CONTINUE TO WORK AT KEEPING UP THAT GREAT BODY. IF YOU DONT, THAT BODY WILL SUBSIDE AND WITHER AWAY. LOVE IS THE SAME WAY. IF YOU DONT WORK AT KEEPING IT ALIVE, IT WILL EVENTUALLY AND INEVITABLY, WITHER AWAY.

OK, NOW FOR THE IMMORTAL THING. IMMORTALITY IS THE STATE OF BEING EXEMPT FROM DEATH. LOVE IS NOT EXEMPT FROM ANYTHING. IF YOU ARE IMMORTAL, YOU DONT HAVE TO WORK AT BEING IMMORTAL. IF YOU ARE IN LOVE, YOU HAVE TO WORK AT IT TO KEEP IT.

ONE LAST THING. I DONT THINK YOU HAVE EVER BEEN IN LOVE (IN A ROMANTIC WAY OF COURSE). THAT IS KINDA LIKE SOME FAT ASS SITTING IN A CLASS LEARNING ABOUT KINESIOLOGY AND EXERCISE PHYS. HOWEVER, THIS FAT ASS HAS NVR SET FOOT IN A GYM OR TRIED TO WORK OUT YET HE IS TELLING A BODYBUILDER HOW TO WORK OUT.

JUST SOMETHING FOR YOU TO PONDER.

KAYNE
 
KAYNE said:


WRONG AGAIN MIKE

PEOPLE DO NOT STAY THE SAME FOR EVER. THINGS CHANGE AND SOMETIMES THEY CHANGE FOR THE WORSE. ONE CAN FALL OUT OF LOVE JUST AS ONE CAN FALL IN LOVE.

BASICALLY WHAT YOU ARE SAYING IS THAT IF YOU FALL IN LOVE, YOU ARE IN LOVE FOR EVER AND EVER??? WELL IN A PERFECT WORLD, YES. IN REALITY, NO!!! HOMEOSTASIS IS NOT PRESENT IN RELATIONSHIPS. THINGS CHANGE, THINGS EVOLVE. YOU HAVE TO ADAPT TO IT FOR THE LOVE TO SURVIVE.

I WAS IN LOVE FOR 5 YEARS. HOWEVER, HER AND I BROKE UP A COUPLE YEARS AGO. I STILL LOVE HER AS A PERSON AND WISH NOTHING BAD UPON HER BUT I'M NOT "IN LOVE" WITH HER ANYMORE. TIME IS A REMEDY FOR EVERYTHING. ITS ALSO YOUR WORST ENEMY.

KAYNE
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Couldnt agree with you more Kayne...I was with someone for 5 years also and although I am not in love with him anymore, I still care about him as a person.

I think that maybe until we find "the one" that we are going to spend the rest of our life with...we dont know what true love really is. Maybe thats crazy...I dont know. But I have found that person and I know that I have never loved anyone the way I do him. Just a thought....:)
 
WARIK

YOU WIN MOST OF YOUR ARGUMENTS ON HERE. BUT THEN AGAIN, YOU HAVE NVR DEBATED WITH ME. LOL

KAYNE
 
alphaxi said:


But I have found that person and I know that I have never loved anyone the way I do him. Just a thought....:)
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youll stop saying that shit 5 minutes after you meet me.
 
alphaxi said:


You think so do you??;)
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no offense to kak, but he is chinese and i am not. right there i have a huge edge. besides the fact that i am the most perfect human being to ever live. im beginning to think that im some kind of superhuman or something. you couldnt possibly do any better than me. you will fall for me instantly.
 
Well...thats just something that you have to prove to me...you can do that cant you? Being a superhuman and all right? LOL

BTW...Kak is Korean...just to let ya know...not Chinese.

How does one get so perfect anyway Moneybags? Tell me the secret....;)
 
I heard once cloning is legal, Moneybags is gonna be the first one to be cloned to make an eventual super-race of Moneybags
 
there is no doubt in my mind that i will be cloned and a master race will be created using my genes. im not exactly sure how i got to be so incredibly amazing, i figure there are millions of factors involved in creating a person and in my case every single one of them worked our perfectly to create a superhuman. if i proved it to you then i would be taking kaks bitch from him. i am not one to take a mans bowl of rice right out of his hands. maybe ill give you a minute after you and him break up.
 
KAYNE,

Very well. I'll play your silly little game.

KAYNE - have you ever been in love and had the woman love you in return?

-Warik
 
Warik said:
KAYNE,

Very well. I'll play your silly little game.

KAYNE - have you ever been in love and had the woman love you in return?

-Warik
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YES!!! ONCE.

KAYNE
 
KAYNE said:



YES!!! ONCE.

KAYNE
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And, assuming that today is actually the past and you are still with this woman and still love her, would you want to do anything to hurt her?

-Warik
 
Warik said:


And, assuming that today is actually the past and you are still with this woman and still love her, would you want to do anything to hurt her?

-Warik
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WELL ASSUMPTION IS THE MOTHER OF ALL FUCKUPS!!! BUT, FOR THE SAKE OF ARGUMENT, IF TODAY WERE ACTUALLY THE PAST AND I WAS STILL WITH THIS GIRL, I WOULD NOT WANT TO DO ANYTHING AT ALL TO HURT HER. I DONT WANT TO DO ANYTHING TO HURT OR NOW. I STILL LOVE HER TO THIS DAY BUT ITS A DIFFERENT KIND OF LOVE I GUESS YOU COULD SAY. SHE WILL ALWAYS HAVE A SPECIAL PLACE IN MY HEART BECAUSE WE WERE TOGETHER FOR SO LONG. IT JUST DIDNT WORK OUT. I DIDNT DO ENOUGH TO MAKE IT WORK OUT. IF I DID, THEN IT WOULD HAVE. SHE WAS VERY EASY TO SATISFY BUT DUE TO CERTAIN FACTORS EXTERIOR TO THE RELATIONSHIP, IT AFFECTED ME IN A NEGATIVE WAY WHICH MADE HER UNHAPPY. AND ONE CAN ONLY BE UNHAPPY FOR SO LONG BEFORE THAT SAME ONE WANTS TO BE HAPPY AGAIN AND DOES SOMETHING ABOUT IT TO GET BACK HAPPY.

LIKE I SAID, LOVE DOES NOT WORK ON THE PREMISE OF LOVE ALONE. YOU HAVE TO MAKE IT WORK AND KEEP IT UP. I, HOWEVER, DIDNT.

KAYNE
 
KAYNE said:
IF TODAY WERE ACTUALLY THE PAST AND I WAS STILL WITH THIS GIRL, I WOULD NOT WANT TO DO ANYTHING AT ALL TO HURT HER.
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So, if today were actually the past, you would not want to hurt her since you loved her.

So, basically, you are saying the equivalent of: "I would never want to hurt anyone I loved." -- right?

So... telling her that you fell out of love with her didn't hurt her?

If you did love her, and you didn't want to do anything to hurt her, then you would not have fallen out of love with her because that would hurt her... or does falling out of love with her not count as one of the things you would not want to do to hurt her? Is that the only thing? What other things would you do to hurt her that didn't fall under the "no can do" category?

(Note: I'm not questioning the love you had/have for this girl. I'm simply defending my view, which I believe to be correct, that true love is eternal and anything short of eternal should not be considered love.)

-Warik
 
Warik said:




So... telling her that you fell out of love with her didn't hurt her?
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I KNEW EXACTLY WHERE YOU WERE GOING WITH THE PREVIOUS REPLY SO I EXPECTED THIS REPLY FROM YOU. WELL, I DIDNT FALL OUT OF LOVE WITH HER. SHE FELL OUT OF LOVE WITH ME. ITS NOT LIKE SHE DIDNT LOVE ME. ITS MORE LIKE SHE WASNT HAPPY ANYMORE AND WANTED TO BE HAPPY. SO SHE DID WHAT SHE HAD TO DO. I CANT BLAME HER BECAUSE I DIDNT DO NEARLY WHAT I SHOULD HAVE TO KEEP THE LOVE THERE. IT LAST FIVE YEARS PRETTY MUCH ON ITS OWN. ONCE AGAIN, LOVE CANNOT LAST ON THE PREMISE OF LOVE ALONE. I DIDNT MAKE IT WORK LIKE I SHOULD HAVE AND SHE GOT TIRED OF DOING ALL THE WORK. I DIDNT TREAT HER BAD OR ANYTHING, I JUST DIDNT DO WHAT I SHOULD HAVE DONE.

I STILL THINK TO THIS DAY THAT SHE LOVES ME IN A WAY BECAUSE WE HAVE BEEN THROUGH SO MUCH. BUT ITS NO LONGER A ROMANTIC LOVE LIKE IT USED TO BE. I'M SURE SHE WISHED NO ILL WILL ON ME JUST AS I DONT HER.

HOWEVER, IF YOU NO LONGER LOVE OR WANT TO STAY WITH THAT PERSON FOR VARIOUS REASONS, SOMETIMES YOU MUST BE CRUEL TO BE KIND. IN THAT I MEAN THAT I THOUGHT OF BREAKING UP WITH HER BECAUSE I KNEW SHE TREATED ME MUCH BETTER THAN I TREATED HER SO I WANTED HER TO BE AS HAPPY AS SHE COULD BE. BUT I DIDNT HAVE THE HEART. I LOVED HER TOO MUCH. SHE FINALLY LEFT ME TO BE HAPPY. SHE TOLD ME IT WAS THE HARDEST THING SHE EVER HAD TO DO. SHE LOVED ME AND I KNEW IT. I UNDERSTAND ALL OF THAT NOW LOOKING BACK.

KAYNE
 
PS........I KNOW YOU ARE JUST DEFENDING YOUR VIEW ON THIS ISSUE. NO NEED TO EXPLAIN. I JUST THINK THAT CERTAIN THINGS ARE PERMANENT. LOVE, HOWEVER, IS NOT. YOU HAVE TO MAKE IT PERMANENT.

KAYNE
 
"Love never dies of starvation, only indigestion."

Meaning: the only permanent love is the unrequited kind. Give me an exciting career, and take your damn luuuuv.
 
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