How do you recover from a distructive past?

[madmatt]

I am known in my past as being a complete jackass! The reason why is quit simple. I use to get really intoxicated and do retarted shit. People don't look at the good I have done in the last couple of years. All they see is my past. This stuff has really gotten me defeated. Therefore, I am hoping you guys will help me out. I can impove myself but as far as the way I interact with others, I can't make any progress. I think the main reason is that people sense my progress and doubt my ability to change. Also, I am still fucking stuff up because I have a hard time being myself with the seriousness of my past and where it could lead me someday. How do you recover from a distructive past and keep your confidence in yourself to overcome your past mistakes?

Thanks guys!

 

[notoriousQQ]

Just realize that God blessed you in other ways. He gave you the ability to not handle your liquor and act like an incredibly huge jack ass to everyone that has the pleasure of hanging around you, cherish the moments, don't regret it friend.

If that doesn't work. Lighten up, realize you are a work in progress. Determine the type of person you want to be and work towards that on a daily basis. Also, get one of those wristbands that say "WWJD" they seem to be real popular.

 

[prophet]

don't worry about what others think of you. i'm hated by everygirl i went to highschool with. (except this one girl...never had sex with her)

people are jealous, i say don't waste you time thinking about others, just worry about youself. thats the only person you have to like to feel good.

 

[Silent Method]

How do you recover from a distructive past?

That's easy - a constructive future.

Like prophet said, don't worry so much what people think of you. Work on being the best person you can be because that is the right way to be.

 

[PoyeBoy]

get new friends, move to a new town

 

[PolishHammer1977]

MadMatt,

Just be yourself. Forget the past. Everyone has a past. Live for today and the future. The cream will rise to the top, it always does.

 

[Puc]

i am trying to do that just now.

I was masochistic for a long time. I would do dumb things and push the limits of sanity because in the end i did not care if i lived or died. I had all of this pent up hate.

Now i am working 16 hour days. I need to be busy to keep from falling back into my old habits, and to pay off the debts accrued from years of bad decisions.

But, may I ask (and i have fucked a lot up) what could come back and bite you?

 

[madmatt]

But, may I ask (and i have fucked a lot up) what could come back and bite you?

There have been a few occasions lately where I have meet new people that some how know my past friends. I believe people have a sixth sense. People sense when things are not right. I would be out with these new friends (guys and gals) and we would bump into some of my old friends. The mood just changes and I am stuck sitting around wondering what the fuck is wrong with me. I do not want to make excuses for my actions anymore. I would just like a second chance to show who I really am and what I am capable of. I feel like I am a pretty fair person and give people the benefit of the doubt. All I expect is the same and I get down on myself when I don't get the respect I feel I need to succeed in life. Life sucks sometimes! I am 23 and do not want to be some loser with no kids, no wife, and a future. All of which call for the ability to interact well with others. I feel that since I started partying so young and had no family around that I have some how missed an important lesson. People with families, especially brothers and sisters, seem to get along with others better. I am forced to learn this on my own. I feel it is my responsiblity to ask for advice and support. That is why I made the post! I already feel a little better. IIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIII...LOL!

 

[GYSER]

I went through the same stuff bro I know what you mean.....what I did (not meaning it's what you should do)
I left all friends, I hung out by my self, I went to clubs by my self, and realy spent alot of time thinking about me, and what I wanted and how I have been. after not being around people for a long time, my confedince was back on track, but in a way it has never been before. I noticed what I did wrong, and it became easy for myself not to react or do the same stuff I use to. Now I find my self bumping into those same old friends and they are starting to see that hey you know what people grow up and mature,. sure they were not around to see you change but I assure you they will feel it and sence it...

that is what happened with me, I no longer treat women bad (when before I could not see it)
I see now everything I did wrong, and each day I improve....so these bro's are write fuck what every one thinks...

just do youjust do you

 

[Silent Method]

There have been a few occasions lately where I have meet new people that some how know my past friends. I believe people have a sixth sense. People sense when things are not right.

I largly agree. To me, thats a big reason not to worry so much about the past. Work to better yourself now. Leave the childish shit behind.

Make you life better and live right. With time, people will sense who you are, not where you used to be.