How do you get over the past?

[polarpixie]

I'm sure everyone at one time or another has longed for the past and the way 'things used to be'. I do that alot. I have a bad habit of looking back and longing for the 'old days'. I know it's bad to get stuck in the past because it prevents you from moving forward, but sometimes it just bothers me. Why do things have to change when you are not ready for it to?

So help me out here, what helps you to move on? For me, I'm talking about relationships with people, romances or friendships. But it could be anything....a change in where you live, your job, your partying habits......Do you just try to tell yourself that the future is brighter than it has ever been in the past and that changes are good for you?



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Hey South Park is on!!!

 

[Jimsbbc]

There is always hope for a better tomorrow. The only constant in life is perpetual change, so the sooner one comes to grips with that - the better. I think of the past from time to time and it always seems like it was better back then. I look forward to what the future holds, but I cannot forget my roots - where I came from to get this far.

 

[big4life]

You just need to focus on the present and your future. You can't leave your past, it will always be there whether you want it to be or not. Take whatever positives you can from the past and use them as building blocks for your future. Take the negatives and deal with them. You can't change what has happened, but you can learn from the past mistakes in your life.

Maybe we would all like life to stand still and remain the same forever, but that's not how it works. Life is a constant evolution, we are constantlly changing and evolving as people. Hopefully we are learning as we evolve, but that is up to each of us to do on our own.

Change can be a rewarding and learning experience. Yes, sometimes you have to leave friends behind as you grow, but that also opens the door to making new friends and having new experiences.

 

[Night Fly]

I look at it like this. The past is just that...the PAST. If you continue to live your life longing for it....then you will get nowhere. You have to set aside the past....and that means everything. The pain that you have experienced in relationships...mistakes that you have made...people that you have had bad experiences with....and those thousands of little things that you look back on and say "What on earth was I thinking?"

I look to each day as a new beginning...and a chance to make new memories and experiences. There is always a time for remembering...but don't dwell on the past. Live for today...and make the best out of everything that God has set before you.

 

[Austin316]

read my quote, although Ive been having issues with mine as of late

 

[polarpixie]

Austin...I can't see your sig, will you post it?

Thanks guys, you all have said some really wise words. I typically welcome change, but sometimes it just seems like the past is so much better than the present.

big4life, I like what you said about opening the door to new friends and new experiences. I tend to forget that sometimes.

OK...time for something good to happen so I can stop dwelling on the past.....like another episode of South Park!!!

 

[Austin316]

"Life is the future, not the past. The past can teach us, through experiance, how to accomplish things in the future, comfort us with cherished memories, and provide teh foundation of what has already been accomplished. But only the future holds life. TO live in the past is to embrace what is dead. To live life to its fullest, each day must be created anew. As rational, thinking beings, we must use our intellect, not a blind devotion to what has come before, to make rational choices"

 

[Citruscide]

Live in the moment, or look to the future. Dwelling on the past only makes your future look that much more bleak. I tend to look back alot... but need to look forward...

No matter what you've done, good or bad... looking to the past will only let you know how to do it THEN... not now.

C

 

[JohnyJuice]

I go to the gym, i go to work, i go to school, i smoke pot, i bang chicks. Not much time to think of the past. It usually only sneaks up on me when i am laying in bed. So i light another splif and pass out.

 

[Citruscide]

I go to the gym, i go to work, i go to school, i smoke pot, i bang chicks. Not much time to think of the past. It usually only sneaks up on me when i am laying in bed. So i light another splif and pass out.

I give you... the future of our great civilization!!!!

C