Guys plse help!!!

[CherryPie]

About a week ago I posted a thread about my bf's diet and it interfering with our relationship, I know this isn't a drug question but I need male advice. Update, we broke up becuz he can't handle the pressure of our hard times. He fessed up and said he's been talking w/someone else but it's not I think. It's completing platonic. Should I believe him? He still wants to call and see me but I told him I can't with him talking with someone. He says he told her he has a GF but why would he go any further than that conversation.

Now he doesn't know if the diet, he says he knows I'm the one he wants to spend his life but he needs to be alone right now.

SHould I let him find out his feelings for this other girl?

 

[Beezers]

Should you let him find out his feelings for this other girl? He's going to find out regardless. The more of an impediment you present the more friction it will create. If you are the one for him he will come to his senses and realize this fact through trial and error and much self contemplation. If not, it's hardly worth fighting as it will only lead to perpetual conflicts and an unsatisfying and even a demoralizing relationship. I ubderstand dieting is near missery and does have a psychological impact, but something of this calliber is out of the realm of what a diet can inflict. Bottom line is you two need to communicate, but only with clear heads.

 

[Lift or Die]

I had this same problem with a girl a few years ago. She couldn't understand and didn't want to try and understand why I needed to eat every 2 hours. It pissed her off even more when I ate extremely clean for 3 or 4 months during the summer. Going out somewhere or out to eat made things difficult at times. We never ate the same kind of foods or ate at the same times so eating together was always a problem. She told me "fuck that, eating like that is no way I want to live my life". So with that, amongest other things we parted.

My advice to you is to move on and find someone else better suited to your lifestyle.

 

[CherryPie]

My lifestyle is bodybuilding. I competed in June and we didn't have these problems. We eat the same and workout. I've supported him but now with the hard times it's too much pressure for him at this time.

He says he wants a normal lifestyle meaning a normal relationship but he wants it with me but not at this time.

No, I don't him to find out feelings for another but I can't stop him from doing what he wants. I asked him if had to choose wnat he would choose and he said us but then he got frustrated and I told him I'd talk with him later. All I wanted to get things clear but I guess I made it worse and pushed him to someone else.

 

[gethard1]

hard Times

can absolutely put undo stress on a relationship, I have lived through it several times during 15 years of marriage. And not once did I confide in another woman for support. Be true to yourself and ask yourself this simple question:" Would I confide in another man about my life with another?", "Could I do so without becoming involved?"

It is simple to stay with the one you love, when you talk about your feelings openly and honestly.

 

[CherryPie]

well guys thanks, but he's told me he needs to explore his options at the moment and if he realizes I'm the one than he'll come back but hopefully at that time I'll be with someone else.

Thanks again