Going down the wrong path in life...

[Pamela]

Is there anything you can do or say to a friend that
you believe is headed for trouble?

She's been hanging with a crowd that's doing
hard drugs. Not sure if she is or not.

But I try and be neutral about it when she talks about it.

But I want to help her if I can.



What would you do?

 

[jerkbox]

pretty much nothing....except offer them opportunities to change all that without being pushy about it.....you can bring a horse to the water....

 

[juiceddreadlocks]

Pamela.

Im watching my younger sister go down that path. Intervening just put her out more, but trying to be there and catch her when she hits the rockiest bottom possible is what im hoping to be able to do. prayers, perserverance, and being there for her is all ive found to do thats been successful

 

[juiceddreadlocks]

and really appreciating the good times helps too!

 

[Pamela]

Thanks guys..

I've let her know that I'm there anytime she needs me.

I've told her if she wanted to come and stay with me, please do.

I've always supported her in all the bad times and good.
But she seems so down on herself right now.

 

[MFMan]

Really not a whole lot you can do. If people are intent on fucking up their own lives then so be it. I've tried the whole be there for them routine and they will snap out of it. Most of the time it never works out that way.

 

[juiceddreadlocks]

Thanks guys..

I've let her know that I'm there anytime she needs me.

I've told her if she wanted to come and stay with me, please do.

I've always supported her in all the bad times and good.
But she seems so down on herself right now.

does she enjoy spending time with people and trying to enjoy things like that?

 

[ZKaudio]

just get her to od now. then she'll be over it w/o letting it detriment family/ friends.


ok that was a terrible idea. On a lighter note, when she's around you make sure you have a lot of fun together. Things she can remember if she gets down, as it will ultimately be the time she will make her most important decisions.

 

[magman1]

i had to watch my gf of 5 years go down that path...and while we were living together...not much you can do! i still think i love her with all my heart, but i love the girl she used to be, not the person she is now...just hope she hits rock bottom and recovers!

 

[ChefWide]

When... IF.... she is willing... get her to join you in something equally or more extreme. Take her white water rafting, scuba diving at night, kite surfing, snow boarding, something fun as hell and crazy physically challenging. If she gets hooked on that, it might fill the hole that the dope is trying to fill. When you are deep dedicated, you see things in a new light.

 

[chewyxrage]

When... IF.... she is willing... get her to join you in something equally or more extreme. Take her white water rafting, scuba diving at night, kite surfing, snow boarding, something fun as hell and crazy physically challenging. If she gets hooked on that, it might fill the hole that the dope is trying to fill. When you are deep dedicated, you see things in a new light.

this is probably some of the best advice ive ever seen.

force her to realize it doesnt take drugs to have fun....

thats all it takes.....


SKYDIVING>>>>>>> NOW

 

[ChefWide]

SKYDIVING>>>>>>> NOW

big ups on the sky diving. I broke my ankle first time out, so you might want to hit her with some high adrenal axis stim that does not require a month in a cast and a lot of free painkillers. Just a thought.

OOOOO.... para gliding.... same risks though, but your in the air a LOT longer, wicked cool beyond belief too.

 

[chewyxrage]

para gliding = the shit!


one of the best experiences of my life when i was 12 yrs old

 

[EnderJE]

I remember when one of my friends back in college was going to cocaine and we just stood around dumbfounded that a law major would do this.

We watched him miss class after class and slowly start stealing money from the rest of us. He finally got kicked out of school.

We tried to talk him out of it and do the whole "love life" (sky dive, para glide, etc) thing, but in the end he always went back because that's what he wanted to do.

After I caught him stealing from me the second time, I just said fuck it...

...cause sometimes you have to know when to let go.

 

[Ashamed]

drugs are our friends

 

[chewyxrage]

Ender.. this is a sad situation....

personally i would have slapped him in the face (not kidding)

and told him what's up...

I realize this prolly wouldnt work but shit man.... i dunno...

I mean if i cared about this dude as a friend i would seriously put him in the hospitall if it would make a difference, but sometimes there is just NOTHING you can do.....

write him off as someone you want to get to know again when he gets his life together.....

 

[Ashamed]

free drugs is the answer

 

[chewyxrage]

sweet...send me some weed....

 

[anabolicmd]

Is there anything you can do or say to a friend that
you believe is headed for trouble?

She's been hanging with a crowd that's doing
hard drugs. Not sure if she is or not.

But I try and be neutral about it when she talks about it.

But I want to help her if I can.
What would you do?

Seduce her. Its the only way.

 

[Raina]

I think it's impossible to make anyone realize that they're making bad choices-- lecturing them usually just pushes them away. All you can really do is point out that you think she could be doing better and could be happier. You can listen to her and be there for her.

I think that when you're going down the right path, you have a sense of peace about it-- even if it's a stressful path at times.

 

[obiwan9962]

pamela,
you can only help someone that wants to be helped
otherwise she will resent you for interfering
be there for her
and let her know you will be
stand back but don't leave
good luck

 

[Spartacus]

free drugs is the answer

Drug free America!...I want my free drugs and I want them now!..damn it

 

[gonelifting]

Depends on how good a friend. If it`s a very close friend, I tell him straight out he`s a moron, That`s how I talk to my friends. I point it out EXACTLY like it is. We`re very honest with each other.

On the other hand if they`re not like a sister or brother to you, I would do what Chefwide said, Show her there are other, BETTER alternatives to having a good time. I would actually keep her so busy with me that she would`nt have time for the "other" friends. Introduce her to lifting weights.

Looking forward to hearing from her on EF. lol

 

[obiwan9962]

lol
no such thing as free drugs
very little is free

 

[Ashamed]

lol
no such thing as free drugs
very little is free

shadowfalcon's mum does it for free...

 

[spin721]

I had to land in the can for about 10 hours before I learned that lesson....of course, now I believe that was the best thing to ever happen to me.

 

[Blade66]

Drug free America!...I want my free drugs and I want them now!..damn it

not exactly free, as obiwan9962 said, but...

 

[obiwan9962]

yum yum gimme sum

 

[Spartacus]

I don't like the anti-histamines...little known that they are orgasm inhibitory...orgasm produces a histamic reaction...flushing of the upper body and if intense enough you can experience congestion...much of the congestion experienced by viagra users is due to the histamic reaction of orgasm..so obviously an anti-histamine can both retard and mitigate an orgasm

 

[ChefWide]

I prefer orgasm to OTC antihistamines, but thats me.

 

[Ashamed]

valium is also inhibitory to orgasm since it numbs the pudendal nerve....

I also remember reading a study that found a slight testosterone increase in response to valium....

 

[obiwan9962]

I don't like the anti-histamines...little known that they are orgasm inhibitory...orgasm produces a histamic reaction...flushing of the upper body and if intense enough you can experience congestion...much of the congestion experienced by viagra users is due to the histamic reaction of orgasm..so obviously an anti-histamine can both retard and mitigate an orgasm

odd

i find if i am really congested
good spank clears me up

don't say it
don't say it

 

[beefybull]

I'm working towards a Free drug America!

 

[Spartacus]

get some histidine HCL in powder form..dump about a gram in your mouth prior to sex and wash down..also get some niacin in powder form and do the same..the niacin flush will improve tactile sensitivity and warms you too..after you blow you'll glow like you have been in the tanning bed too long

 

[EnderJE]

write him off as someone you want to get to know again when he gets his life together.....

I'm never going to get the chance. Five years later, I've heard stories about how he was in the wrong place at the wrong time but never bothered to verify them.