Girls, your advice is requested

[Rippeddrago]

Girls, advice please... Post #1

This is a tough one to explain, but let me give it a whirl.
Last two years of college I was SOOO DAMN in love with this girl. She was coming off a bad relationship and things were never quite right at that time. I moved out here (cali) school was in New Hampshire, to pursue modeling, acting and life... I had told her I would marry her back then. We have stayed in constant contact over the past 4 years and she tells me to this day how much she loves me and that she will always love two guys (me, and the guy she just got engaged to) she say's I'm not settled, out here doing this stuff, traveling all the time...etc, and that she is a homebody....Well, I was just informed of this wedding to be, today. It is June 7, 2003. The way I see it, that' s how much time I have to get things right, or do I just forget it.... I've always felt this girl was my soulmate... and it just slammed my ass today when she told me this. Maybe in a week I won't be like this.. but fuck!!
So I know I would tell myself I couple things. 1) It didn't work out for a reason. What's meant to be will be. 2)If she wasn't really 100% there then, it won't be any different. 3) move the fuck on!

Ok, so I'm a big player and screw hot chix all the time. I never find any compatible so I guess that's what makes me play* them. Why do I feel like such a big pussy when it comes to this one girl... the only one whoever did this to me.

Ladies, thanks for your help. Fellas please don't bash me... I know I'm being a big pussy about this.

 

[Night Fly]

Okay...well...I look at is this way.

If she is getting engaged and still telling you that she still loves you...I think that could mean one of two things. 1) She still loves you, but not in the relationship type of way, or 2) She still loves you, cares a lot about this guy she is with, and just is a bit confused...even though she is engaged.

I honestly think that you should leave it alone and let it run it's course. If she is truly happy with this guy, then your pestering her about coming back to you is not going to make things better. If you truly love her like you say you do, you will let her be happy with this guy. If this situation is truly meant to be, hopefully she will realize in enough time (before she gets married) that she wants/needs to be with you. Seriously, though...just be her friend, be there for her when she needs you if she does the same for you...and I think that in the end things will work out the way they are supposed to.

Good luck!

 

[jennifer BFL chick]

Wow, if someone is getting married I say forget it!!

Thats too bad that you havn't been able to connect with anyone but her.......

what is it that your looking for, that every girl you meet seems to be lacking?