Girls can be strange characters.

[mylife]

i just realized how long this post became. it's not worth reading unless you're really bored so i suggest clicking 'back' right now.


i thought i'd share this humorous timeline with anyone that cares.


I meet a girl.

Girl asks to borrow my phone and puts her number in there.

I call her 2 days later and we go out to dinner. After dinner we go back to my place and have a few drinks. I consider making a move and am 95% sure it would have been successful, but i felt guilty about another girl i was still sort of with from back home.


I drop girl off, tell her to call me sometime this weekend.


Girl calls, we hang out again. Things go good, i'm getting a bit more interested. Nothing physical happens.

Next week I call her...she doesn't answer. I call again 2 days later...she doesn't answer. I think, "oh well" I wasn't all that interested in her, just bored.

The next week she calls and says she's having a party and wants me to come over. I show up, talk to her all night, things seem good. I noticed some guy was staring at me the whole night but i had no idea who he was. at about 330 am she drives me home in my car and takes it back to her place. (i had been drinking)

Girl returns car the next day and comes up to my apt for a bit. She goes home and I tell her to call me this weekend....she doesn't call.


soooo, the following weekend she gives me a call and asks me to come to a party she's at. i show up and the guy that had been giving me the evil eye at the previous party is there, with his arm around her. i think, "what the hell is going on?" later that night someone makes a comment on that guy being her boyfriend. and keep this part in mind...i dont know ANYONE at the party besides her, and she was the only girl. every other dude there was friends with her 'boyfriend' or whatever he is, and they're showing obvious discontent for me.


i left the party without saying goodbye to her. i didn't appreciate being put in that awkard situation.


about 5 days later she calls me and asks if i want to go out for lunch. we go out for lunch, she pays for it, and things seem good. i ask about the 'other guy' and she say's it's not her boyfriend, etc. she drops me off at home and asks to go to a movie the next day.


here's the funny part...


she calls at 1 and asks if i still want to go to the movie with her and her friend. (2 other girls) i say sure. she tells me to pick her up and we're meeting her other friends at the movie.


i pull into her driveway and honk....guess who walks out? the other guy, the boyfriend or whatever the hell they are. they both get in the car and i'm confused as shit. he's acting like we're friends and she's acting like i knew he was coming.


we go to the movie and each sit on one side of her. it was pretty crazy and i was fairly pissed off. so after the movie i take them home and she asks if i want to come inside and have some drinks then go out for the night. i told her i had to run home and do some stuff but that i would call her in a half hour.

i didn't call, and we didn't talk for 2 weeks.

so last week she calls me and leaves a message (i didn't answer)asking what i've been up to, asking why i haven't called, etc. she almost sounds sad on the phone, and ends the message saying, "give me a call....if you want" as in she knows im kind of pissed about the movie.


so i call her back and ask her whats going on for the weekend.


a day later i call her back and talk for a while. at this point i have no interest in her, but i'd like to hang out to meet other people. i tell her to call me last weekend if theres anything going on and we'll hang out. she says she will...


but she doesn't call.


then she has the nerve to call me today and ask if i want to go get lunch. i said, "sure but i have to jump in the shower, ill call you in 20 minutes." but i didn't call her and have no intention of doing so anymore.


now my question is... what is she thinking?????????? i could care less whether i hooked up with her, but i really don't understand why she'd do/say some of those things.

 

[Night Fly]

Girls are whacko like that. Basically...she is/was just using you for someone to do things with. The guy tactic was just to get you jealous and yes, she could probably be messing around with him....actually, she most likely is.

I wouldn't mess with this one again...not worth your time.

 

[Lao Tzu]

i agree with nightfly. She could be using you to do something to her boyfriend. Since you aren't going to interact with her again why not just ask her what the fuck she is doing? If she knows its over she might be more open & honest.

 

[mylife]

oh im 100% positive they've hooked up. it doesn't bother me in the least bit as i suspect they were 'together' before we even started hanging out.

i just don't understand why she'd bring me around him like that.

 

[Night Fly]

oh im 100% positive they've hooked up. it doesn't bother me in the least bit as i suspect they were 'together' before we even started hanging out.

i just don't understand why she'd bring me around him like that.

Because she needs to feel more secure about herself. I mean...really! What kind of girl goes to an all guys party? Well...besides me? LOL....I"m only kidding!

 

[mylife]

i agree with nightfly. She could be using you to do something to her boyfriend. Since you aren't going to interact with her again why not just ask her what the fuck she is doing? If she knows its over she might be more open & honest.

good point. like i said, it doesn't bother me at all, but it makes me wonder if i missed some subliminal message. perhaps they want a 3 some?


i'd ask her what the fuck is going on, and i've planned on it before, but i don't like doing that type of thing over the phone. i'd rather ask her in person but the past few times we've hung out he's been breathing down our necks.

when we were at the party and someone commented on him being her bf she lashed out on that person saying he's not her boyfriend, etc. (he was outside during this, i was sitting next to her on the couch) i busted up laughing and she walked outside. her other girl friend that was there sat next to me and said, "they're not together" and some other things, as if i was obligated to know.

 

[supersizeme]

i read that whole post. first off, let me just say that at least one dumbass will reply to your post and quote the entire thing, increasing the physical length of this thread by four feet. that said, i have to ask how you were able to remember all of that calling and not calling back nonsense. i would've had to document that somewhere to be able to spit it back out like you just did.
just realize that girls do dumb shit like that. i had almost the exact same situation about a year ago where a girl i had asked out at one time(when she had a bf, so it didn't happen) emailed me a year later out of the blue talking about how she was single again and wanted to get back on the scene. by "on the scene" i could only assume that she meant "in my pants," because i'm male and that's how our brains work. vagina. so we made plans to meet out at this place and watch one of her favorite bands. i show up with a buddy of mine, and there she is chilling with some dude. SWEET. so i'm sitting there the entire night like, "this could not be any gayer if i was looking through rainbow tinted contacts and the band was covering ABBA songs." the guy she was with was one of her longtime friends, and i already knew that he had a crush on her, and it was pretty obvious that they were at least messing around at this point. i hung out with her SANS DUDE a couple more times in the weeks following and asked her what the deal was between them, and every time she was like "oh he's not my boyfriend, i don't want a commitment right now." i'm sure i probably could've taken that pitch and hit it to left field for at least a single, but i'm not interested in hooking up with girls who are already hooked up. now she lives with him.
mylife, continue to ignore this girl. find something else.

 

[WODIN]

Ask her and her boyfriend if they would like to attend a vibrator party. You know like beastboys wife throws....

 

[mylife]

supersodomizeme-


i suck at telling stories. i posted this before but deleted it because it's so dumb. but i got sick of reading steel beasts "how do you take shits" threads so i thought i'd try it again. i don't remember a lot of the calling, i just remember not getting many pick ups so i threw them in here and there.


all in all, i just wanted to make sure im not missing out on some super duper butt naked panty dropping lovin'....and apparently i'm not.

 

[supersizeme]

no, don't get me wrong, it wasn't a bad read. you need to hear from everyone else not to waste anymore time on her.
and for the record, i don't think any of us can tell you whether or not you missed out on some super duper butt naked panty dropping lovin'. you may indeed have, but you for sure didn't miss out on a decent girlfriend. the girl i was talking about repeatedly did flaky shit like the girl in your case. just bask in the satisfaction that she dug your chili for a little while and find a new girl to grind your crotch into.

 

[mylife]

i hear ya. we're complete opposite people, and i think both of us know that. (me and the girl, not me and you...don't get your hopes up) so i figure maybe she just wanted a few nights of pleasure because there's no way a relationship would work between us. everytime we hung out with her friends i had a look on my face like, "boy do i wanna blow my brains out but im gonna act happy cuz i want to get in your pants."

 

[saint808]

i hear ya. we're complete opposite people, and i think both of us know that. (me and the girl, not me and you...don't get your hopes up) so i figure maybe she just wanted a few nights of pleasure because there's no way a relationship would work between us. everytime we hung out with her friends i had a look on my face like, "boy do i wanna blow my brains out but im gonna act happy cuz i want to get in your pants."

LOL... i know the feeling.

 

[b fold the truth]

The things that run through my mind on this one....

B True

 

[PolishHammer1977]

Dude,

@ first I was thinking that this girl wanted you to buddy up with the guy so you both could have a threesome with her. Then I read along and it sounds just like "Nightfly" described. She wants someone to do things with.
My guess is that you are the guy she wants to do things with and he is the guy that she wants to have sex with. She is trying to combine you two because she cannot find one man to do the job.
She sounds like a joker and is definitely playing the "game". If you call her or see her from here on out know that you are playing the game as well.
Calmly ask her what her intentions are with you? Why she wants to hang out with you? Is she attracted to you? Just ask. If it scares her, then it wasn't meant to be.

 

[Testosterone boy]

Man alive...I sit here and read these posts by you guys and shed tears for you.

You can not believe what women say when they are talking about any relationship. You have to ignore the chosen words and examine how the words were spoken.

Oh...the risks I take to protect you guys. I'll never meet any of the EF chicks after exposing women so ruthlessly.