Girlfriend question

[accuflex]

So my gf of a year wants to go downtown with her "party" friend this week....without me.....

I was somewhat takin back when she told me. I dont care that shes going downtown, but I do care what goes on. How many girls here have been to a club and had their ass graped? Hit on? etc.

Its not that I dont trust her, its that I dont trust anyone else. My gf is also the type that gives guys the wrong impression. Flirting and what not.

What would you do if you where me? Ask if she would not go? (something I dont want to do) I dont want to tell her how I feel, because i dont want to be "that boyfriend who wont let me have fun" ya know?

Ideas?

 

[accuflex]

im 19...if that helps....and the party friend is a girl too

 

[dullboy]

just make sure dullboy doesn't run into her or it's all over for you.

 

[Dial_tone]

if you don't trust her then just break up now. accept the fact that at some point she will be out of your site and you can't spend every waking moment wondering what she's doing. You're her bf, not her dad.

 

[KD1]

if you don't trust her then just break up now.

+1, you are 19 dont waste time in a relationship unless you are both crazy about each other.

 

[Tytan]

let her go, put you insecurities to bed and make love like an animal when she comes back home...absence makes the heart grow fonder....if you handle this the right way, you`re set w/ this female....relax

 

[sre30]

^^ +1 She's testing you

 

[Cutiebaby]

let her go or lose her.
You are 19 years old. Dont tell me you will be the type of guy that can come and go as he pleases but wont let his girl go out in fear that (a) she will cheat and (b) her friends are sluts so she will be one to...
If you tell her know and tell her these reasons you will most likely lose her!

 

[Ramcononer]

Your doomed! as soon as they wanna go out its all over..Im Jokin bro. Women love a man with confidence..If she is gonna cheat she is gonna cheat regardless..and she will be able to handle attention from others..remember there was life before you and she made out ok. Show her your secure and she will want you even more!

 

[accuflex]

She is going downtown to DANCE!

Look, I dont care if she goes downtown. But.....
a) she wants to dance
b ) this pritty much means with another person, more times then not, a guy
c) she WILL be hit on
d) I would not be shocked to see some dude ginding his cock on her ass dancing, she will be hammered

So yes, to a point a trust her....but she cant stop from being approached and hit on. She will flirt with these guys, i know that. Any guy will think hes got her at that point.

Im not gona say "dont talk to anyone"

Should I just say "Do what the fuck you want" and pritty mcuh turn her into a booty call?

 

[Sassy69]

How about "I love you, I trust you, have fun, be careful, if you need a ride or ANYTHING, call me".

If anything does happen and she violates that trust, then you need to drop her ass like a bad suit because she doesn't respect you in the same way you respect her. Simple.

 

[Fajitas]

She's cheating on you bro.

 

[Ho0zie]

im wid sassy on this one

 

[Ramcononer]

Im also with sassy on this one. but like she said if she turns out to be a drunk skank whore...then rid yourself of the little whore. But dont push something away that might be good...question...do you ever go out with your friends without her?

 

[Gymgurl]

let her go....

 

[marvelous54]

Its not that I dont trust her, its that I dont trust anyone else.

First thing you need to do is quit lying to yourself bro. I hear so many people say this bs. You don't have to trust everyone else, just her. If you're truly that miserable not having her within your sight you don't need to be dating anyone.

Let her go do her thing, you go out with your boys. Tell her if she wants to get together later just to give you a call.

BTW - Whatever you do, don’t show up where she's going and act like it was coincidental. Girls hate that shit, and her gf's will be talking shit about your possessive personality. Then you are screwed and not in the good way.

 

[Sassy69]

I'm not saying that you should just sit back & hope for the best - I'm saying that you can't change people and if they are just stringing you along, then they are just stringing you along and you can't make them into what you think they are. But if you have a solid relationship of a year, then there's really nothing to worry about. THis should be no diff than if she happens to go to the grocery store when a herd of really hot horny guys are in the produce section feeling up the eggplant. Maybe she needs a night to just go be w/ the girls and not feel like she's tied deep into a relationship where she feels like an old married couple but she still has no interest in tossing it all for a quickie. You have to trust her. If she's not ready (19 is awfully young...) then she's not ready. How do you know you won't meet some random girl who just floats your boat and you can't get her out of your mind? You are both very young. So please be very realistic about that part of where you are in life. But also you need to be very adult in how you deal w/ your expectactions of your relationship & your g/f - if she's got good values & respects you like then this shoudl just be another day in the life. But if you feel like its up to you to manage her actions, then you are just asking for a failed relationship w/ daily mistrust and frustrations. That makes for a very destructive way to go thru life.

 

[gunnr17]

Sassy's got some good advice on this one bro. Let her go. And don't act like it bothers you at all. Tell her to have a good time and call u if she needs anything( a ride, etc.). If you can't trust her it ain't gonna work. And if she wants to cheat she gonna cheat, she doesn't have to go to a club to do it.

 

[stayinfit]

Hey Man - here's the scenerio...
A) You already trust her(that's covered)
B) Make Plans yourself...keep yourself pre-occupied with something
C) Mention to her that YOU have plans also and see what she says????? Go over to a buds house or something, but tell her your going out with your buds and see if she asked YOU any questions!!!
D) If nothing else, ask her if she would like to go somewhere with you instead....bar, out to eat, movie...etc...

 

[blueta2]

How about "I love you, I trust you, have fun, be careful, if you need a ride or ANYTHING, call me".

If anything does happen and she violates that trust, then you need to drop her ass like a bad suit because she doesn't respect you in the same way you respect her. Simple.

This is your answer!
It's all about trust. Your insecurities are your own problem, not hers.