Fucking confused

[theoak01]

man am I ever going fucking nuts trying to sort this out.

heres the deal,Ive been with my girl almost 3 yrs,ups and downs,but latley the ups are few and far between,I have to deal with her crazy family all the time which stresses my ass to no end,and her bullshit of controlling me and bitching when I go places she doesnt like or out with people she dont know.
and I think this relationship should have been over a while ago but for some reason Im holding on, I think a little guilt maybe because I know shes totally dependant on me and it would crush and,and if we break up I want it to be on good terms as shes great,just not what I want in a relationship right now.

on the other hand Ive been seeing alot of this one girl lately and Im falling hard for her,her personality is fucking awesome and she makes me happy being around her. but I dont want that to be part of why I break up with my girl.

anybody have any insight to offer,Im sure somebody has been in a relationship going nowhere and stayed longer then they should have

cheers
Oak

 

[ChefWide]

a relationship going nowhere and stayed longer then they should have

Mon, You may have nailed it right there.

 

[KillahBee]

I have done that with the last 3 girls I have been with. GET THE FUCK OUT NOW! If that is how you feel prolonging it will only hurt you and her more and waste your time. Clean break, nugga. It sucks to have to end a relationship but it sucks worse living with the thoughts in your head telling you to end it.

 

[Werd]

What Chef said.

It wont be the end of your life and it will neither end hers. End it and move on.

 

[FreeballinDC]

Do like me and throw her out of your truck. She'll never call you back.

Trust me, I have experience with this.

 

[DIVISION]

I think this relationship should have been over a while ago but for some reason Im holding on, I think a little guilt maybe because I know shes totally dependant on me and it would crush and,and if we break up I want it to be on good terms as shes great,just not what I want in a relationship right now.

anybody have any insight to offer,Im sure somebody has been in a relationship going nowhere and stayed longer then they should have

Oaktown, I understand where you're coming from.

I think the reason you are still in the relationship with her is because you "know" that if you break up it will absolutely devastate her and that you don't want that on your conscience. I understand this well and I think you know it's true.

This is what I think you need to do: sit down with her, free of distractions and explain to her that you are breaking up with her, but do it with the understanding that you want to be friends with her and that you'll always be there as a friend to her. Be genuine and be there for her. That's all you can do and that's all that can be expected.

Hope this helps.

DIV

 

[ChefWide]

Do like me and throw her out of your truck. She'll never call you back.

Trust me, I have experience with this.

You are a stern task-master.

 

[DIVISION]

I have done that with the last 3 girls I have been with. GET THE FUCK OUT NOW! If that is how you feel prolonging it will only hurt you and her more and waste your time. Clean break, nugga. It sucks to have to end a relationship but it sucks worse living with the thoughts in your head telling you to end it.

Eh.....you ease up, nugga...

Shit ain't easy when you're his age, he's still learning about relationships.

How bout some empathy here?

DIV

 

[alien amp pharm]

Think like a female here and start getting things rolling with this other girl. Start distancing yourself from your GF then when you know you have the other girl, dump the GF.

They do this to us, so why not play too?

Seriously though, if you are having doubts/problems in the current relationship end it right way. I prolonged a few and trust me dude, it ain't worth it.

After the breakup, don't immediately jump to this next girl. Still be around her and stuff, but proceed very slowly.

 

[onerepmaximum]

Do like me and throw her out of your truck. She'll never call you back.

Trust me, I have experience with this.

I still say you should have punch that bastard in the throat.

 

[KillahBee]

Eh.....you ease up, nugga...

Shit ain't easy when you're his age, he's still learning about relationships.

How bout some empathy here?

DIV

Whoa, maing. TheOakster knows I am giving him advice, not knocking him. Shit, I am still learning about relationships! But you gotta be tough in the situation he describes or else he will just keep going on unhappy and not fo anything about it. I know from experience.

 

[DIVISION]

Whoa, maing. TheOakster knows I am giving him advice, not knocking him. Shit, I am still learning about relationships! But you gotta be tough in the situation he describes or else he will just keep going on unhappy and not fo anything about it. I know from experience.

Eh mang....

I feel ya' on this.....just wanted to set shit STR8, for his benefit.

I think he needs to break it off too, though I still think he needs to end it on good terms. Breaking off relationships on bad terms is no way to go.

DIV

 

[Deterass]

Drop that bitch like a hot potato!

It will only get worse.

 

[theoak01]

honestly thanks so much guys,I knew the answer when I asked,I just need to man the fuck up and do it.

I honestly think this is gonna be the hardest thing Ive done in my life so far.

and yes I already am spending time with my other interest but just as friends,I wont fuck around like I did earlier in the relationship

 

[DIVISION]

honestly thanks so much guys,I knew the answer when I asked,I just need to man the fuck up and do it.

I honestly think this is gonna be the hardest thing Ive done in my life so far.

and yes I already am spending time with my other interest but just as friends,I wont fuck around like I did earlier in the relationship

It will be hard, but trust me, it's for the best.

Just be true to your feelings and try to keep things on a positive note.

DIV

 

[jerseyart]

Think like a female here and start getting things rolling with this other girl. Start distancing yourself from your GF then when you know you have the other girl, dump the GF.

They do this to us, so why not play too?

Seriously though, if you are having doubts/problems in the current relationship end it right way. I prolonged a few and trust me dude, it ain't worth it.

After the breakup, don't immediately jump to this next girl. Still be around her and stuff, but proceed very slowly.

Sad but true

 

[theoak01]

three years is a long time to throw in the towel,but if I dont it will turn in to 5,then 10 unhappy years

 

[Smurfy]

Do like me and throw her out of your truck. She'll never call you back.

Trust me, I have experience with this.

LMAO you know what's funny, I was totally going to suggest this but you beat me to it!

Free, I still like your curb-tossing story.

 

[KillahBee]

three years is a long time to throw in the towel,but if I dont it will turn in to 5,then 10 unhappy years

That's right, but in time you will see you made the right decision. And chances are you will have to go through this again at some point. Such is life. Ups and downs, strikes and gutterballs.

 

[DIVISION]

three years is a long time to throw in the towel,but if I dont it will turn in to 5,then 10 unhappy years

Ok, it's decided.

It's beyond over......it's in the rearview.

Glad we helped you in some small fashion.

DIV

 

[danielson]

is it definately going to turn out bad....can you see it changing or have you already given it the chance to get better and its still bad?

chances are even if she is dependant on you, she has realised you aren;t compatible as you were (if you guys really do argue that much)

a friend once gave me the advice 'you should only stay with a girl when its fun. when it stops being fun, then break up as its over and you'll know when that is'.

you wouldnt intentionally hurt yourself but you are at the moment. you can still be there for her as a friend and if you both regret it you can always get back together, but if your sure this is right then follow through. if you love her, you'll never let her completely go, you'll always be there for her if she needs you and hopefully vice versa

 

[Y_lifter]

After you dump her, make sure to bet her back so she can then dump you..

This is the cosmic flow of things..

 

[theoak01]

Ive given this relationship more chances then any normal person would, in our three years this talk has come up about 5 times id say,it gets better for a month then right back where it was,sometimes worse

 

[DIVISION]

you can still be there for her as a friend and if you both regret it you can always get back together, but if your sure this is right then follow through. if you love her, you'll never let her completely go, you'll always be there for her if she needs you and hopefully vice versa

This is the jist of what I was telling him.

It's better to keep things positive.

DIV

 

[rnch]

Diatch the Biatch

 

[theoak01]

ya a bad breakup will def be fucking trouble for me in more ways then one

1 it will divide our friends,most probably siding with her
2 I may be getting a job as a loss prevention officer where she works part time,I cant have work being hell
3 she isnt a bad girl,Im just not the guy for her,nor she the girl for me

 

[DIVISION]

ya a bad breakup will def be fucking trouble for me in more ways then one

1 it will divide our friends,most probably siding with her
2 I may be getting a job as a loss prevention officer where she works part time,I cant have work being hell
3 she isnt a bad girl,Im just not the guy for her,nor she the girl for me

I'm glad you are mature enough to understand the ramification of this.

Props at ya' Oaktown.....

DIV

 

[alien amp pharm]

After you dump her, make sure to beg her back so she can then dump you..

This is the cosmic flow of things..

LOL

hey wait!.....

 

[rnch]

I still say you should have punch that bastard in the throat.

(another note to self: don't ever get onerep OR fbdc mad at me)

 

[Devastation]

drop her like shes hot

 

[onerepmaximum]

drop her like shes hot

Or at least lay her down like she's warm.

 

[rnch]

that's cold, broly