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So here is one that I am writing to her, but sending it to myself, and hoping she never has to read it.

By this time she has decided that her feelings for me are not true, that they were all just a reaction to seeing me again, to hearing me happy, something she hadn't thought I had done for some time due to her actions. That although talking to each other is wonderful, amazing, and enjoyable; it is still not enough for her to be able to love me again. There is something unexplainably missing, missing in her, love for me is missing from her heart.

I've thought to myself a lot over these days. Why? Why this girl? Why George do you bother, you can date others, you know you have the capacity to love, and someone WILL come along who will make you feel as if you've never felt before. Why do I still continue invest time and emotion into Suzette? What is it about her that is so special, what makes he different from the other women who I have had no desire to be with once I had stopped dating them?

The big difference is that she broke up with me, I've rarely been broken up with, certainly not from a relationship like this one. One other girl has, that is it. Of course I wanted to have a some sort of say in the direction of the relationship. but by being dumped I was stripped of that power. Now I feel like I somehow have some of that power back. But why do I care? Do I really care about having a say? It ended. You didn't right about it for whatever reasons. That alone should be enough to make me want to move on. After all, what fun is loving someone who does not love you back? I can't think of a more unsatisfying feeling in the world.

So why do I ay this girl? Why am I still bothering. Why?

I can put this one simply. There are a million and one reasons why anybody would want to be with this girl She is unique in so many ways, but all are exceptional. She is what any guy would consider a cool chick. But throw in a great brain and some awesome looks, and you get more then just a cool chick.

What is unique about her, and us, and what I feel that she'll look for, but never truly find in the same way, is our ability to have a no bullshit talk about anything and any time. It doesn't matter what the topic, where we are, who we are with, or what we are doing, we could talk about anything, and for hours. This is the type of girl that you don't want to let fall asleep at night because you just want to keep talking and talking and talking to her. When you can communicate with someone on that level, it just makes everything in the relationship and life in general just seem grand. Its a great feeling, something that many people never even get, ever. People marry people they can never actually really talk to or be themselves with. With Suzette, you were yourself 100% of the time and she was herself 100% of the time. No drama, no bullshit, no games.


Not only was I attracted to her face, her body, her looks.. but I was attracted to her mind. To really what was in her head, what really made her who she was. The way she thought, the way she expressed her thoughts, it was all just so easy to fall in love with.

She's a one of a kind in my mind. I am sure there are other men who have the capacity to satisfy her on many different levels. I am sure there is someone who might even be able to do a little better job then me, who knows. But for me, there will only be one Suzette. I will meet others and form connection. I will allow myself to grow with someone, to express myself full to them. But the connection that Suzette and I will forever be just ours, just her and I, and in that respect it is complete unique. I'll never have it with another besides her, and she'll never have it with another besides me.

Can I answer the eternal question of "was it right?" Or was she "the one" or was I "the one." No, no one can ever answer that question definitively. But you can always answer the question of "was it real?" And I know for 100% fact that whatever it was between Suzette and I, call it love, call it a relationship, call it infatuation, but always remember how "real" it was. How true it was.

My life is better having had you in it. I can say that for a fact, and with a smile. With that you should always be happy about. You’ve enhanced my life, and I will always thank you for doing so.
 
Shut nugz. All I can say is, in a year, when you've found a new chic, one that you CAN have. This girl will be completely forgotten. I know from experience.
 
Pamela said:
I thougth you were writing to me!!! ;)

Where did you find that name?
I dunno.. just pulled it out of nowhere really.
 
I fucking knew it. Yet another one. I really wish you all the best man truly. I know the heartache you face. I think we've all been there...some of us more than others. I know I've had my heart broken a few times. If it happens to you enough you eventually come to that place where the numbness takes over and you don't feel anymore, you don't give a fuck and you start living that hollow empty shell of a life you once had. Enjoy.
 
ceo said:
I fucking knew it. Yet another one. I really wish you all the best man truly. I know the heartache you face. I think we've all been there...some of us more than others. I know I've had my heart broken a few times. If it happens to you enough you eventually come to that place where the numbness takes over and you don't feel anymore, you don't give a fuck and you start living that hollow empty shell of a life you once had. Enjoy.
"living that hollow empty shell of a lief you once had."

What the fuck man. that's what I have to look forward to?
 
Pamela said:
I thougth you were writing to me!!! ;)

Where did you find that name?

Your name's not Pamela? I feel so cheap and used.
 
Lestat said:
"living that hollow empty shell of a lief you once had."

What the fuck man. that's what I have to look forward to?

It can be fun...maybe not entirely fulfilling, but fun.

I'm half joking. Life is what you make it. Just as soon as you stop trying so hard, someone will come along and sweep you off your feet and you'll fall in love again.

As for me, a little over a year and a half ago, the love of my life and I parted ways. It was very emotional, much like your recent debacle. She moved away, and I was miserable for about a year. I haven't had contact with her for over a year now, and I still think about her and miss her, and love her too.

Since then I haven't met a girl that I could fall in love with and I don't know if or when I will. But, I don't worry about that. I just go on and have fun and try to make the best of life. This is SD, man...plenty of things to do and beautiful women around (great combination).
 
ceo said:
It can be fun...maybe not entirely fulfilling, but fun.

I'm half joking. Life is what you make it. Just as soon as you stop trying so hard, someone will come along and sweep you off your feet and you'll fall in love again.

As for me, a little over a year and a half ago, the love of my life and I parted ways. It was very emotional, much like your recent debacle. She moved away, and I was miserable for about a year. I haven't had contact with her for over a year now, and I still think about her and miss her, and love her too.

Since then I haven't met a girl that I could fall in love with and I don't know if or when I will. But, I don't worry about that. I just go on and have fun and try to make the best of life. This is SD, man...plenty of things to do and beautiful women around (great combination).
Wow man... I guess time is really the only true healer.. that and meeting someone who blows you away even more then the previous gal.. that just gets harder and harder as time goes on.
 
Lestat said:
I dunno.. just pulled it out of nowhere really.

Sometimes I really feel like slapping the shit outta you, Lestat.

I wish you'd grow a pair of nuts and move on like most of us have been telling you for months now.

When will you learn? When will you recognize, react and regroup?

I don't understand you, not at all.




DIV

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DIVISION said:
Sometimes I really feel like slapping the shit outta you, Lestat.

I wish you'd grow a pair of nuts and move on like most of us have been telling you for months now.

When will you learn? When will you recognize, react and regroup?

I don't understand you, not at all.




DIV

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Listen man, if it was that easy, I would have done it a LONG fucking time ago.

I've tried casually dating, banging chicks, wild sex.... I've tried a little time to myself.. I've tried dating someone who I thought had relationship potential.. I keep ending up back in the same fucking place.

I do feel better about things now after these two weeks of talking to her and seeing her a few times. Not because I think we are getting back together, but because I think I have a little better closure on the situation.

Thanks for being patient with me man.
 
Lestat said:
Wow man... I guess time is really the only true healer.. that and meeting someone who blows you away even more then the previous gal.. that just gets harder and harder as time goes on.

Time...I guess so. I'm sure you'll move on quicker and bounce back faster than I did. Someone out there is going to knock your socks off fo sheezy.
 
Lestat said:
I do feel better about things now after these two weeks of talking to her and seeing her a few times. Not because I think we are getting back together, but because I think I have a little better closure on the situation.

Thanks for being patient with me man.


^^^I'm glad you've got some amount of closure, though it's taken way too long to get to this point.



DIV

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DIVISION said:
^^^I'm glad you've got some amount of closure, though it's taken way too long to get to this point.



DIV

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Its tough to really deal with someone telling you they love you one minute then tossing you out like garbage the next... that, I suspect, would fuck with anyone's head.
 
Lestat said:
Its tough to really deal with someone telling you they love you one minute then tossing you out like garbage the next... that, I suspect, would fuck with anyone's head.

If you had more self-esteem, you'd have walked away at the first sign of that type of behaviour on her part.

It's called self-reliance and recognizing self-worth.

You don't stay with someone who doesn't want to stay with you.

It's that simple, bro.




DIV

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Lestat said:
I do feel better about things now after these two weeks of talking to her and seeing her a few times. Not because I think we are getting back together, but because I think I have a little better closure on the situation.


WRONG. You feel better because you have been talking and interacting with the woman you still love. The pain is still there and it will grow again, you have just deadened it for a little while. But as long as you keep running through this cycle of talking / not talking / talking / not talking, you will never be able to move on. You love her, but she doesn't love you. She can't right now, she can't even love herself yet.

The only way you'll EVER be able to truly move on from her is to STOP FUCKING TALKING TO HER ABOUT IT! She left you, it's her move to come back but you can't talk her into it; it has to be her choice. And you have to now act like she is never coming back, you can't just sit around waiting for her to get her shit together. If it happens then good, but it won't so don't expect her to come back. Move The Fuck On Already.

It's gonna take you time to get over her, but you can't start the process until you stop confronting her about this. She's gone, you two are done, accept it. Pick one of these other myriad of girls you are fucking and work on a relationship with them. At least they WANT to be with you.
 
Forge said:
WRONG. You feel better because you have been talking and interacting with the woman you still love. The pain is still there and it will grow again, you have just deadened it for a little while. But as long as you keep running through this cycle of talking / not talking / talking / not talking, you will never be able to move on. You love her, but she doesn't love you. She can't right now, she can't even love herself yet.

The only way you'll EVER be able to truly move on from her is to STOP FUCKING TALKING TO HER ABOUT IT! She left you, it's her move to come back but you can't talk her into it; it has to be her choice. And you have to now act like she is never coming back, you can't just sit around waiting for her to get her shit together. If it happens then good, but it won't so don't expect her to come back. Move The Fuck On Already.

It's gonna take you time to get over her, but you can't start the process until you stop confronting her about this. She's gone, you two are done, accept it. Pick one of these other myriad of girls you are fucking and work on a relationship with them. At least they WANT to be with you.
Good advice, I've just got to get myself to follow it.
 
DIVISION said:
If you had more self-esteem, you'd have walked away at the first sign of that type of behaviour on her part.

It's called self-reliance and recognizing self-worth.

You don't stay with someone who doesn't want to stay with you.

It's that simple, bro.




DIV

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patience, you have.
 
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