ever feel like everyone justs dumps thier problems on you?

[stilleto]

Its been like that for a week now. I'm happy to listen to my friends and all, but i'm not so into getting involved in people's drama and problems and becoming their one and only sounding board.

I've fielded phone calls all day from one friend, who has been having a problem with an aging and mentally impared parent all day. Ok, i feel bad, but don't give me an update and ask for advice every 30 minutes. I don't want to be mean, but hello, i have a life too.

i think i need to go into seclusion.

 

[H_T_]

you can't save everyone. and you're not a life preserver, you'll just wind up going under, too.....

 

[biteme]

Its been like that for a week now. I'm happy to listen to my friends and all, but i'm not so into getting involved in people's drama and problems and becoming their one and only sounding board.

I've fielded phone calls all day from one friend, who has been having a problem with an aging and mentally impared parent all day. Ok, i feel bad, but don't give me an update and ask for advice every 30 minutes. I don't want to be mean, but hello, i have a life too.

i think i need to go into seclusion.

This is why I never answer my phone. I just sift through the messages. People can be a pain in the ass.

 

[stilleto]

you can't save everyone. and you're not a life preserver, you'll just wind up going under, too.....

thats how i'm feeling today.

 

[H_T_]

thats how i'm feeling today.

close your eyes. and breathe.....

 

[nycgirl]

I have to go into seclusion. When I do that, there's only 1 person I want to talk to. I don't mind being there for people. However, I do get tired of repeating myself. I hate when its the same issue over and over again.

 

[Gymgurl]

Yep learned that along time ago when I began doing couseling....you can' save them all and don't take the problems home with ya....very hard to do when you care about someone

 

[biteme]

Yep learned that along time ago when I began doing couseling....you can' save them all and don't take the problems home with ya....very hard to do when you care about someone

I need some counseling. I think about sex all day. And I don't want to stop, but it keeps me from getting much done.

 

[stilleto]

This is why I never answer my phone. I just sift through the messages. People can be a pain in the ass.

there's emails and pm's too.
I've just decided not to answer the ones that aren't nice anymore today.

 

[Gymgurl]

I need some counseling. I think about sex all day. And I don't want to stop, but it keeps me from getting much done.

Sorry specialized in substance abuse

 

[DZLS]

if you act like you don't give a rat's ass, the crybabies stop coming to you...

that's how i play it anyhow...

 

[PBR]

there's emails and pm's too.
I've just decided not to answer the ones that aren't nice anymore today.

im going to send you a nice one...

 

[stilleto]

im going to send you a nice one...

that was nice.

 

[morph60]

I think it is what happens when you live thru alot of hard times.Seems like I can help people when I make time for them. It helps keep me greatful and that my life dont suck.

 

[Smurfy]

you must be a helpful type of person. you must put yourself out there for people. that's why people reach out for your help in times of need. Me, on the other hand, I never get bothered because people know I am not going to get involved in anything that does not directly affect (effect, lol) my own existence. people dont call me. they know my boundaries.

 

[stilleto]

you must be a helpful type of person. you must put yourself out there for people. that's why people reach out for your help in times of need. Me, on the other hand, I never get bothered because people know I am not going to get involved in anything that does not directly affect (effect, lol) my own existence. people dont call me. they know my boundaries.

I am helpful usually. and I have a hard time telling people I can't talk or listen or not ignoring a message.
someone today was actually obnoxious to me, while she asked for something.... that made it a little easier to say no and I still felt bad.

 

[biteme]

I learned how to say no and my life is better as a result. Lots of leeches and needy people out there that will bring you down. Just avoid them.

 

[swole]

ever feel like everyone justs dumps thier cock juice on you?

fixed.

and no.

 

[stilleto]

fixed.

and no.

don't you ever think about anything other than 'cock juice'?

 

[Gymgurl]

Grow some balls.....lol

 

[H_T_]

Grow some balls.....lol

i did. now i have 4.

 

[Whiskey]

could just start screening your calls. I just ignore them once they start to calling too much.

Whiskey

 

[wnt2bBeast]

must feel like a bukkakke girl

 

[EnderJE]

Answer every cry for help with "despite what people say, suicide is a way out".

 

[stilleto]

Answer every cry for help with "despite what people say, suicide is a way out".

maybe i'll do that. I'll give them a link to a suicide handbook and say "this always worked for me."

 

[Cutiebaby]

gosh and to think i was going to e mail you a 5 page e mail about my problems....thanks a lot stilleto

 

[biteme]

Answer every cry for help with "despite what people say, suicide is a way out".

It sure is. LOL

 

[stilleto]

gosh and to think i was going to e mail you a 5 page e mail about my problems....thanks a lot stilleto

Might as well send it. everyone else is.

 

[Cutiebaby]

Might as well send it. everyone else is.

ok....just because you said ok i will now make it about 10 pages...then after i will ask you what you think just to make sure you read it all