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Dating advice please...

68GT350

68GT350

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Ok, so I've never "dated" anyone in the modern day sense before. I've worked with girls and went out with them after flirting which basically went straight to "boyfriend" mode but I've never taken a girl out (like, to the movies and dinner) and had these weird titles like "seeing each other" and "dating" and such...

Well, anyways, I have been. I wasn't fond of her at first, to be honest. I mean, sure she was hot but she and I seemed too different. Well, we've spent all MY free time together and I'm beginning to think she might be worthwhile to actually "ask out" since we've been "seeing each other" for about 2 weeks now.

She's a wiseass like me, she puts up with me picking on her and picks right back, she's loud like me, and she's got a lot of traits I like such as ambition (works as a kindergarden teacher), goes to school, and she's got a Jersey accent too! She even pays her way most of the time!!!

Well, my question is...what is my next move? Do I ask her to "go out?" What does that mean, anyways? I guess it means a sort of committment but we haven't even kissed yet. Should I wait till we kiss first? We both talked about taking our relationship really slow since we've both been burned but this is so traditional that i'm really not used to it. I've never walked the beaten path of dating. Is it too soon? She sure calls a lot. I'm so confused...but it sure would be nice to have a girlfriend again. I dunno...what do you guys think?
 
jennifer said:
What have you been doing with her then? If your not "going out".....?
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First date was a blind date with another couple. We hit it off at the mall and over dinner. Next date, we saw a movie together and again double dated for dinner in the same day. 3rd date was spent with friends drinking beer and watching football. This was (today) our fourth date in which I went by her house to watch some DVD's i brought over. One was Monster's Inc. the other was The Count of Monte Cristo. We lay together and she lay in my arms and i stroked her hair but i wouldn't kiss her.... I'm not even sure if she wanted me to but i'm taking it slow.

We have no verbal committment to each other exclusively so i'm wondering if it's time or what....

I don't really care either way since I can only date one girl at a time. I just don't have the time to date around.

Oh yeah, and we've spoken on the phone like every day over the course of this relationship.
 
:devil:
She's from Jersey and she didn't blow you yet? I'd question her backround. She may be in the witness protection program. Any self respecting Jersey girl knows it's protocal to give her date a blow job by the second date. Boach you will be in BITCHES forever if you can't close this deal!
 
Bigsatan13 said:
:devil:
She's from Jersey and she didn't blow you yet? I'd question her backround. She may be in the witness protection program. Any self respecting Jersey girl knows it's protocal to give her date a blow job by the second date. Boach you will be in BITCHES forever if you can't close this deal!
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She's a 19 y/o virgin. She didn't kiss a guy till last year when she was engaged but then fucked over. It's hard to guage this chick. I feel weird even touching her. We wrestle and play around though...She's good for wet willies...ugh.

This girl really has me baffled.
 
LOL @ Bigsatan13...

Sounds like you've found the female version of yourself...which is....well just scarry. I suggest you stop seeing her because if you two get together and some day, God forbid, Marry, you will without a doubt spawn the antichrist.
 
68GT350 said:


She's a 19 y/o virgin. She didn't kiss a guy till last year when she was engaged but then fucked over. It's hard to guage this chick. I feel weird even touching her. We wrestle and play around though...She's good for wet willies...ugh.

This girl really has me baffled.
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Now I realy question her backround! 19 year old virgin from Jersey? Do you need me to come up and prove you wrong? Just close the deal shy boy!
 
WODIN said:


Sounds like you've found the female version of yourself...which is....well just scarry. I suggest you stop seeing her because if you two get together and some day, God forbid, Marry, you will without a doubt spawn the antichrist.
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Is this part directed towards me cuz then it's very funny...?You have NO IDEA how many people have given me the same advice.

"James, whatever you do, please..please don't have babies.":)
 
Bigsatan13 said:

Now I realy question her backround! 19 year old virgin from Jersey? Do you need me to come up and prove you wrong? Just close the deal shy boy!
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Believe me...i'm not shy. I'm just trying to keep this relationship normal for a change.

I actually believe this girl...
 
68GT - Yes I ment that post for you.

I think you've found a girl you can get along with, who you also like, and have mutual interest with. So if you're both wanting to take things to the next level of mutual butt plugging I say go for it.
 
Did't mean to step on your turf their Bigsatan. :)
 
Bigsatan13 said:
Just close the deal shy boy!
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What is wrong with being shy? I married and runied a shy guy!

BTW, Sounds ike you are doing allll the right things with this girl thus far, Boach! I like that you brought such sweet movies over to her too. She had to love that sweet idea.

Take it slow since she' been screwed over..Get to know her better and gain her trust!
 
A virgin @ 19? Now that's a real catch. If i found someone who had my interests, was beautiful, 19 and a virgin i would be married by now. She has morals and a head on her shoulders and doesn't seem to get pressured into situations very easily. I would seriously give her a try as a bonifide girlfriend. You'll be able to tell within the first couple of months what type of person she really is. Don't waste this opportunity and GO FOR IT!
 
just relax and enjoy what you are doing with her right now, try not to read too much into everything. if you like her and want to spend time with her, say so, and do it. have fun
 
I am not sure if I understand your question. Are you asking if you should actually say the words...."Will you go with me?". The answer of course is Yes.........If you are still in junior high. If you are grade school however I would opt for the note passed on by a friend.

Just keep doing the things you are doing and see what happens.

Zen
 
ZenMachine said:
I am not sure if I understand your question. Are you asking if you should actually say the words...."Will you go with me?". The answer of course is Yes.........If you are still in junior high. If you are grade school however I would opt for the note passed on by a friend.
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:FRlol:
 
Thanks guys.

This advice is really valuable. To be completely honest, I just find it really hard to believe that this girl likes me and sometimes, i tend to read into things too much but never actually tell her. In other words, I freak out and keep it bottled inside from things she does/says but I never say anything. I think that she might not like me but she always calls and continues to go out.

I'm not sure if I want committment or not but it'd probably suck if she started seeing other people and left me by the waste side. Then again, if she's to be with someone else, then it wasn't meant to be. I was figuring that if I asked her to officially go out, then she'd put us in a more serious light and not really look elsewhere. Then again, if her eyes will wander, a stupid title really wouldn't stop anything. I was also wondering if that's what she wants and NOT asking would chase her away.

You see....I think WAY too much.


Meanwhile, there's a girl at my work who's got a HUGE crush on me who I've been pretty much been ignoring but it wouldn't be bad seeing her too.
 
After you plant one on her, which needs to be the next time you all have a date together, btw, Just lay it on the table and say, so what is our relationship right now? Don't get involved in guessing games. Those really suck. You have nothing to lose, just be up front about it so you don't regret it. But yet again, kiss her first.
 
HappyScrappy said:
flip a coin.
Heads? Punch her in the stomach.
Tails? Make out time.
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If I ever met you in person, I'd so jump in your arms and have you wisk me away to a far far land.
 
dude you really need to kiss this girl. urinate on her, drug her and have your initials branded on her side, do what you have to do to let her know that she's your girl. the longer you linger in the friend zone, the more likely you are to be trapped there. demand a relationship and if she declines, start crying and threaten to kill yourself and she should be yours for the taking.
 
68GT350 said:
Ok, so I've never "dated" anyone in the modern day sense before. I've worked with girls and went out with them after flirting which basically went straight to "boyfriend" mode but I've never taken a girl out (like, to the movies and dinner) and had these weird titles like "seeing each other" and "dating" and such...

Well, anyways, I have been. I wasn't fond of her at first, to be honest. I mean, sure she was hot but she and I seemed too different. Well, we've spent all MY free time together and I'm beginning to think she might be worthwhile to actually "ask out" since we've been "seeing each other" for about 2 weeks now.

She's a wiseass like me, she puts up with me picking on her and picks right back, she's loud like me, and she's got a lot of traits I like such as ambition (works as a kindergarden teacher), goes to school, and she's got a Jersey accent too! She even pays her way most of the time!!!

Well, my question is...what is my next move? Do I ask her to "go out?" What does that mean, anyways? I guess it means a sort of committment but we haven't even kissed yet. Should I wait till we kiss first? We both talked about taking our relationship really slow since we've both been burned but this is so traditional that i'm really not used to it. I've never walked the beaten path of dating. Is it too soon? She sure calls a lot. I'm so confused...but it sure would be nice to have a girlfriend again. I dunno...what do you guys think?
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Ok, here's my take on this. I'm guessing that she likes you as much as you like her. Many women will not make the first move. I would suggest that you wait until near the end of an evening spending time together, and tell her you really like her, more than a friend. Then, ask her if she'd like to go to the movies or see a ball game with you. Something relaxed. Mention that you'd love to take her on a date and say "do you fancy catching that new Vin Diesel movie?" or something (I'm guessing she won;t want a chick-flick, right?). At this point, don't make any physical moves towards her or she might think you want to take her home right away (ok, you might, but y'know).

When you go on that date, hold her hand in the theater/game but don't do anything else. When you leave and go outside, as if you can kiss her. The answer should be yes....
 
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circusgirl said:


Ok, here's my take on this. I'm guessing that she likes you as much as you like her. Many women will not make the first move. I would suggest that you wait until near the end of an evening spending time together, and tell her you really like her, more than a friend. Then, ask her if she'd like to go to the movies or see a ball game with you. Something relaxed. Mention that you'd love to take her on a date and say "do you fancy catching that new Vin Diesel movie?" or something (I'm guessing she won;t want a chick-flick, right?). At this point, don't make any physical moves towards her or she might think you want to take her home right away (ok, you might, but y'know).

When you go on that date, hold her hand in the theater/game but don't do anything else. When you leave and go outside, as if you can kiss her. The answer should be yes....
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We did the whole movie thing. We did the dinner thing. I haven't really expressed how I feel about her. I've gotten as far as, "you're very cool."

I think it's time for a very nice dinner and some dancing. Maybe at the end of the evening, i'll just have a serious talk so I can mention all her great traits, you know, feed her ego and make her mush in my arms, tell her that I think we'd be great together adn I'd really like it, and go in for the kill afterwards.
 
Jesus fucking Christ. One thing i have learned is to never wait too long to kiss a girl. I don't care if she is a virgin, or she may not like you, the fact is ALL GIRLS WANT IT. You think she will say no and reject you? No fucking way. I know girls that don't even want to kiss me , but would kiss me anyway if i just went ahead and did it. THE ONLY WAY SHE WOULD REJECT YOU IS IF YOU ASKED HER TO KISS HER.

Be a man and take control. Don't tell her you like her, show her. Fuck that talking bull shit. It can get you in the dog house. By talking to her you give her and option. Don't give her fucking options.

Take her out again. When the date is over, or during the date, make eye contact, and just give her a slow 2 second kiss/peck on the lips. Don't go for the makeout right away. After you do the slow peck, don’t pull too far away and keep looking at her to see her reaction. At this point she should pull you in for more. It always fucking happens. Either she will pull you in for more or she will keep staring at you for more.

This girl is fucking waiting for you to do it. You better believe it. Every time you are with her she wonders if you are going to kiss her. If you wait too long she will not think you are interested or are a pussy, then you are fucked. So Just get it over with
 
Well, my question is...what is my next move? Do I ask her to "go out?" What does that mean, anyways? I guess it means a sort of committment but we haven't even kissed yet. Should I wait till we kiss first? We both talked about taking our relationship really slow since we've both been burned but this is so traditional that i'm really not used to it. I've never walked the beaten path of dating. Is it too soon? She sure calls a lot. I'm so confused...but it sure would be nice to have a girlfriend again. I dunno...what do you guys think?




ok.....


Asking someone on a date does NOT require a commitment, except for the one night. If that intimidates you:

1 - Ask her out for lunch and see how things go.

If that works:

Then ask her out for Dinner....and "possibly" a movie......the possible takes a lot of pressure off both of you if the dinner part is not going well.






THE kissing thing.....damn....you will know when the time is right....don't worry about it.
 
Norman Bates said:


Why has waiting till your 19 to do with morale?
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...because my friend, if she is as hot as GT describes then she must have gotten 5000 requests so far in her life and since she isn't giving in and continuing to lead the life she wants to live(bet you she wants to wait until she is married) then IMO she has morals which she has stuck to.
 
Cure said:



...because my friend, if she is as hot as GT describes then she must have gotten 5000 requests so far in her life and since she isn't giving in and continuing to lead the life she wants to live(bet you she wants to wait until she is married) then IMO she has morals which she has stuck to.
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EXACTLY!

I've seen girls with half the looks that this girl has become super sluts. This girl is scorching and she's remained true to her morals. I have no end of respect to htat...assuming she's honest about it.
 
If we guys were not so keen on virgins maybe we would have more sex, ever thought of that?

Also I think the "waiting till marriage" is not necessarily a sign of high moral. A girl I knew was one of that kind and also one of the most manipulative people i have ever met.
Girls are probably telling that stuff to get into a relationship.
 
you should kiss her before you ask her out... I mean she could be a horible kisser and completely miss you lips and poke you eye out, or worse she could try to stick her toungue down into your stomach..... kiss first and ask later when it feels right... don't ignore the girl at work either;)

Cure I found myself a 20yo virgin talk about good upbringing.....realized I wasted too much time with sluts....
 
One of my buddies was dating this girl (in high school) that was determined to save herself from marriage.

She was NOT one of high morals........ he talked her into giving him head everytime she saw him, even in front of me!

About a year later, she let him poke her........ this girl is a slut now. This girl is marrried now to another guy (one of my other friends), but all I would have to do is say the word and this girl would fuck me.

Saving oneself does not garantee that she has high morals........

.,.... but maybe this girl does.
 
I agree with you guys but morals are based on what the individual thinks is right, not necessarily what you and I believe is right.

NA - She's a keeper!!

GT - You'll find out in due time. Thing is women like to hide their past while men like to flaunt it.
 
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