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polarpixie
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Other than an emotional lobotomy? 
polarpixie said:Other than an emotional lobotomy?
castration works too (one of the few words in the english language that sends shivers down me spine)
distract yourself. or find another pursuit. or confront it and nip it in the bud rather than let it get too far. or bottle it
i bottle my emotions a lot. its not very healthy but it gets me through each day
danielson said:
This time I swear I'm not thinking with that....
danielson said:
Trying to distract myself...but it is so strong....I know I feed it, but it is one of the only things that bring joy in my life right now...it doesn't help that I know the feeling is mutual...but there is just nothing we can do.....
polarpixie
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danielson said:i bottle my emotions a lot. its not very healthy but it gets me through each day
hey danielson....quit it. (bottling your emotions that is). You're studying to be a doc, you should know that bottled up stress is a contributor to heart disease.
polarpixie said:
hey danielson....quit it. (bottling your emotions that is). You're studying to be a doc, you should know that bottled up stress is a contributor to heart disease.
i know but i have such a hard time talking about shiznit like that. i do it eventually if it becomes to much but i have to wait until someone prompts me
see, its because im a man, and not just a normal man but a proud man. i find it incredibly hard to say stuff like that. when i do it just all overflows.....i just find it so hard to get into all that tree hugging hippy feelings shit even though its good for u
my b.p. and heart rate used to be low (1 yr ago). not sure now however
no idea why either. either way i will endeavour to talk about it more, or at least punch something till i feel better 
polarpixie
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danielson said:
i know but i have such a hard time talking about shiznit like that. i do it eventually if it becomes to much but i have to wait until someone prompts me
see, its because im a man, and not just a normal man but a proud man. i find it incredibly hard to say stuff like that. when i do it just all overflows.....i just find it so hard to get into all that tree hugging hippy feelings shit even though its good for u
my b.p. and heart rate used to be low (1 yr ago). not sure now however
You gotta start somewhere and the more you do it the easier it will be, and it would help if you didn't think of it as tree hugging hippy feelings... Believe me. I have an inclination to keep things bottled up too.
lamamacita
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now, what is the problem?
polarpixie said:
You gotta start somewhere and the more you do it the easier it will be, and it would help if you didn't think of it as tree hugging hippy feelings... Believe me. I have an inclination to keep things bottled up too.
but....but.....you a girl, u can can talk about stuff like that. im a guy.....im supposed to go wrestle water buffalo with one arm behind my back in a loincloth or something
ok. i will endeavour to try harder.....i'm just not very touchy feely about myself, even if i can be towards others, but i will pour my heart out to a close friend and see how he responds.
polarpixie
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lol sorry beastboy.... What is the problem? You can't stop thinking about a girl and she's taking over your thoughts?
Like I said...you have some rigid stereotypes you need to let go of.
What is the problem? You can't stop thinking about a girl and she's taking over your thoughts? danielson said:
but....but.....you a girl, u can can talk about stuff like that. im a guy.....im supposed to go wrestle water buffalo with one arm behind my back in a loincloth or something
ok. i will endeavour to try harder.....i'm just not very touchy feely about myself, even if i can be towards others, but i will pour my heart out to a close friend and see how he responds.
Like I said...you have some rigid stereotypes you need to let go of.
wow a subject Im familiar with...hmm well u cannot control it, I attempted to for a good month, alls that happened is a bunch of spazzing, paranoia, and an intense emotional struggle..hell even if you get hurt (which yes sux like nothig else but can heal) u will feel like u are carrying a lot less weight on your shoulders...hell Ive accepted it and am fine with it now...just get it out and let time do its thing
Taps
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You can't controll love once you're in love but you can take steps to avoid it. It's not easy, but the human mind is a powerful thing -- if you're really disciplined, you have ultimate controll over your emotions, although it takes practice.
Think of it in terms of warfare. If I dropped you in the middle of a war zone right now, you'd piss your pants and probably get shot in about 5 minutes. Now say I conditioned you to be an exvellent soldier and then put you in a similar situation -- you'd react far better, and likely survive intact.
Same deal with infatuation and love. It's all about discipline and conditioning.
Think of it in terms of warfare. If I dropped you in the middle of a war zone right now, you'd piss your pants and probably get shot in about 5 minutes. Now say I conditioned you to be an exvellent soldier and then put you in a similar situation -- you'd react far better, and likely survive intact.
Same deal with infatuation and love. It's all about discipline and conditioning.
lamamacita
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why not
lamamacita
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whooooa that's rough, is it worth getting out of your respective relationships? would she?
polarpixie
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beastboy said:
Beastie Boy, there's no way around it. You need to find a new obsession. Try collecting stamps, that didn't work for me, and it doesn't work for everyone, but it might help you....
Lol, in all seriousness, the only way to get over an obsession is to lose yourself in an unrelated obsession. I hope you're not waiting around for a chance to get together with her because it will just be a waste of your time if she is attached right now....
