Being that I majored in clinical and child psych, lets take a moment to do a few things, one, go over advice and the bedside manner... love you, bro, but you do yourself a disservice sometimes and I, like you, feel the need to offer up a cent or two.
I'll help you put the pieces to the puzzle....
Ok...I have you down.
Not possible, you will learn this as you experience more people, more of life. There are things a foot in my life that you could not possibly know, not possibly have a feeling for without the history, the facts. Emotion means nothing when trying to give advice on emotion. capiche? That having been said, I think what you meant might have been "I have an idea that might help you out."
You *need* a mate in order to feel complete and fullfilled in your life. You are what I term co-dependant, this being the case I think the best thing you can do in your current situation is to bring up your financial situation and make sure that part of your life is legit, in the black and completely on point.
Way too textbook, my man. My financial situation is beyond your understanding. Not for lack of grasp of the facts, or in any way by lack of inteligence, just by virtue of the fact that you don't know my financial situation. To put it in as UN-Matty kind of way as I can, that due to a 6 year situation that finally resolved itself, my family will never, ever, have to concern themselves with worries about food, clothes, a safe roof over their heads and the ability to fend for themselves, with or without me.
This is a time when you need to concentrate on all things basic and pertinent, life sustaining priorities. It will take your mind off the pain and dissapointment, the resignation that things are *over*, and you're moving on.
Excellent advice, as you may or may not know, I have set plans into motion to take the largest risk, emotionally and financially, of my life. By far. If its not worth risking, if it doesnt feel like the decision you are making might rend your world in two, then you are not risking what it takes to achieve greatness. Your right on the money with that one.
At times you will feel *stalled* and it will hit you that things are indeed *over* and that will hurt, it's going to happen and it will hit you like a tidal wave.......reverberating through your soul.
Again, true, but way too generic. Your heart is in the right place, but to overstate the obvious often leaves those you are trying to help with a dilluted version of your core message. Dont do that, what you have to say is important: let it shine, dont pack it with fluff.
Work through it when the pain is tough, and keep in mind that nothing stays the same.......nothing stays the same, brother. You're a good person, and the best thing you can possibly do is maintain and keep things in order so when you find that person who you want to call your own, you are ready and everything can fall in to place for you.
Again, there are times when your capacity for caring is quite wonderful. If I was in abject depression, then order would be the order of the day, however, that is not the case. I am winning, and starting to live like a winner for the first time in years. THAT is who I am, a man that lives and risks, not a man that 'maintains' for the sake of order. Love, passion, wild heart-full hapiness must be accompanied by the occasional bitter pill. Bring it on. I would rather Laugh untill I cried in agony than never really laugh from the heart. Ya know?
Set yourself up for success, Cheffy, because you deserve it and you know this. We both know it.
Keep ya' head up, Cheffy....
... and finally, thank you man. When you are at your best, you are at your least judgemental. At those times, there are many here that love ya, try and not fall into the so easy rut of assuming so much, about so many. It does you, and the very good man you are, a terrible disservice.
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