Being Old Fashioned...

[chesty]

...is the question. I would like to hear peoples versions of what it means to be old fashioned in regards to dating. The merits of it vs the internet, texting, cell phones, etc.

I remember when I dated my first wife. We met each other in a youth group and things just progressed from there. The only way we could communicate was to make the time to see each other or call on the phone. If I was out of town, we had to use the postal service like when I was in the Marines. There was never any worry about why she didn't answer the phone or return an email, txt or whatever. Each time we saw each other it was like the first time or so it seemed.

I've found that with todays world of internet, email, cell phones, txt's, etc there is an undue amount of pressure being seriptitiously applied that wasn't there before.

The old fashioned way you got to know someone by being with them more than being with them in email/cell phone/txt, etc. You saw who they really were etc. Dating was fun, it was a challenge becuase you had to be you and you only saw each as often as you could make time to see them without the internet/etc being the substitute.


So, anyway, that is in brief my idea of old fashioned, I could elaborate more, but I think this gets the idea across.

 

[jh1]

she's cheating on you

 

[chesty]

she can't cheat on me if we are not dating. We only met once and are supposed to go out this friday.

 

[jh1]

she can't cheat on me if we are not dating. We only met once and are supposed to go out this friday.

Yeah. Well. She's already seeing someone else, and she's gonna stand you up on Friday.

 

[chesty]

Works for me, then I didn't need the ho in the first place!

 

[jh1]

Works for me, then I didn't need the ho in the first place!

That's right bro... that's the way to handle these ho's.

 

[EnderJE]

Well...it's good to see that the two of you aren't jaded or anything like that.

 

[Sassy69]

Regardless of the methods of communication available, I think its still ultimately important to have "there in real life" time - all the methods of remote communication also make it easy to do broken, one-sided discussions w/ little or no consequence. You lose the aspect of communication that comes via touch, a look, expressions, body language. If you value those 'old fashioned things' - i.e. you have the same morals and values as the person you are interested in, then those will still need to be the basis of your relationship. If you have that as a basis, the rest falls in place.

 

[chesty]

true, I liken it to learning about things in a real world setting, not a virtual world that affords anonymity and unaccountability as well as being able to be someone that your not. Without seeing the reactions of the other person, feeling their touch or lack there of, seeing that sparkle in their eye is a lot different that being matched based on a compatability test.

 

[KillahBee]

Being old fashioned = not willing to adapt.

Simple as that

 

[WODIN]

I miss smoke signals and drum beating. Drum beating was the best.

 

[Bikini Mod]

I miss smoke signals and drum beating. Drum beating was the best.

You can still be old-fashioned while adapting to modern technology.

Case in point, a date w/me was more akin to a job interview in that the man would have to meet certain criteria in order for me to want a second date. My criteria had everything to do with who he was on the inside and zero to do with who he was on the outside. Hence, there was rarely a second date.

 

[manny78]

...is the question. I would like to hear peoples versions of what it means to be old fashioned in regards to dating. The merits of it vs the internet, texting, cell phones, etc.

I remember when I dated my first wife. We met each other in a youth group and things just progressed from there. The only way we could communicate was to make the time to see each other or call on the phone. If I was out of town, we had to use the postal service like when I was in the Marines. There was never any worry about why she didn't answer the phone or return an email, txt or whatever. Each time we saw each other it was like the first time or so it seemed.

I've found that with todays world of internet, email, cell phones, txt's, etc there is an undue amount of pressure being seriptitiously applied that wasn't there before.

The old fashioned way you got to know someone by being with them more than being with them in email/cell phone/txt, etc. You saw who they really were etc. Dating was fun, it was a challenge becuase you had to be you and you only saw each as often as you could make time to see them without the internet/etc being the substitute.


So, anyway, that is in brief my idea of old fashioned, I could elaborate more, but I think this gets the idea across.

i dont consider myself old fashioned but I dont use email/msn/txt with my gf. Now that we live together we have no reasons at all to use any of these.

 

[chesty]

I can see all points of view. But there is something to be said for not having quite the availability of modern technology as we have now. How many spend more time on the computer trying to meet someone than they do going out and actually experiencing something and meeting people for real?