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georgie24

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man i feel as if i have a tag on my forhead saying "yep im lonley" wtf is a person to do in this situation. i need some elite guidance with this one.

whats you alls take on this subject?
 
I posted this before but I feel it is pertinent in regards to your question.....

This is a little thread for all the fellas out there and also a good read for the ladies. We see it every day in life and read about it daily on Elite daily. The devastation of having a BF/GF leave you, cheat or in some way violate your trust. This leads to a complete loss of security and often depression and irrational thoughts can and will follow. I know this because I have been there, I have sat with my head buried in my hands crying over the loss of a once perfect love.

But it is important to always remember outside of this relationship, you are still a single human being with your own mind and dreams. The worst thing you can do is possibly harm yourself, your future and that loved one that devastated you so badly. Your best chance for a healthy recovery is to forgive that person and attempt to learn and better yourself for future relationships. Neglecting your studies, work or human needs will only hurt you more in the long run. We all must have the ability to find comfort in ourselves and live in happiness regardless if we have a current romantic partner or not.


Sure we all yearn for the days when we were the light in someone else’s eyes, when we could taste another human being daily and go to sleep knowing that we were a fixture in someone else’s dreams. But for whatever reason that person was not the one, and the only way to find love again is to love you. Smile daily and enjoy what life has to offer outside of sex and romance, and I guarantee people will be drawn to your positive vibe and happiness will follow daily.

HI-
 
dude
it's not so bad, trust me
i just got out of a bad relationship and am enjoying my alone time for the most part
it's a relief to not be .. well, ... not to be encumbered i guess
 
although the data you presented is valid and creditful BUT nothing compares to the feeling you get/share from another HUMAN being.
 
Lonely... yes, that does suck. Being hurt by a lover... yes, THAT SUCKS... but the feeling of letting go - now THAT is wonderful. Once you really let go you of that love, you finally realize how much else around you is grand and all you have is time to enjoy the simple pleasures of life until another special human being walks along and captures your heart....

Yes, life is a wonderful roller coaster ride.
 
i think it's important to not let being in a relationship define you as a person.. then it doesn't matter if you are in one or not.
 
i agree 100% with the replies above.

its a craving though, am i wrong to crave for companionship? i dont wanna base my life around the fact that i could be "just as" happier on my own than with a companion.
 
I understand what you mean and no I don't believe that it is inherently wrong to crave it... but it is when you make the pursuit of this a large focus that it tends to make you ignore all that is around you NOW.

I do understand how you feel. I honestly do.
 
naturally anabolic said:
georgie,
bro...if you are looking for companionship WHAT THE FUCK ARE YOU DOING ON ELITE RIGHT NOW ? why arent you out meeting new people.....:confused:
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i went to a club last night till 5 am then went to work at 8 feell asleep as soon as i came home. i just woke up..
btw i dont club often, it was a night out with co-workers
 
clubs are the worst place imo to find a mate... it's all about getting drunk and hooking up and usually.

i'd rather meet someone elsewhere... who has the same priorities as i have.
 
I think i have a mental block that deems me incapable of talking to women that I have not been introduced to. I'd say that the only time I have ever done it in my entire life was after a half dozen drinks.
 
Fuck it sthe story of my entire life, hey at least you've prolly been out and dates and shit, not me, nope Im a hermit or something I dunno
 
lists of AUstins things to eventually do

-Go out on a date
-Kiss someone when Im sober and there is actually something there
-fall in love and have the feeling returned
-basically anything that involves stuff like that, Ive done absolutely nothing
 
LOL.

I am divorced. I was with that girl for 6 years. Basically my entire adult life. Before I met her, women would approach me an I had all the confidence in the world. I was dating several girls there for a while.

However, now I am just a little hermit myself. I usually get out with friends on the weekend, but I haven't been on a date since my divorce last Nov.

There are no women where I work at. The only place i have a chance to meet womeen is out at the clubs and bars, and I don't understand what these guys are talking about. Where else is there to meet women. The supermarket? Gym?
 
pushing_fe said:
LOL.

I am divorced. I was with that girl for 6 years. Basically my entire adult life. Before I met her, women would approach me an I had all the confidence in the world. I was dating several girls there for a while.

However, now I am just a little hermit myself. I usually get out with friends on the weekend, but I haven't been on a date since my divorce last Nov.

There are no women where I work at. The only place i have a chance to meet womeen is out at the clubs and bars, and I don't understand what these guys are talking about. Where else is there to meet women. The supermarket? Gym?
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isle 5 where they have panty-hose i guess:confused:
 
Well, let me present my own input here:

I had my GF leave me after four years and something of relationship. Of course, this was extremely devasting and I thought I couldn't live without her. Thanks to my family and friends who came to my support, I realized something.

1) You are very lucky if you have people who cares about you
2) Enjoy Life's simple pleasures.
3) It' s better to have been loved than to not be loved at all (Corny but true)

It's been 6 months now since she left me. I haven't dated anybody yet and I'm not about to anytime soon. You might ask why? Do I crave companionship? Sure, who doesn't? If you are really focused on about hooking up with somebody, the chance is you are neglecting yourself. I hate to break the news to you but life isn't about cuddles and sex and passionate conversation with your S/O. Don't beat yourself to death by worrying about if you are going to find somebody who you really like. Let life takes its own course and when you least expect it, it might hit you right in your face with a dashing woman.

Of course, I could be crazy and stupid but it's better to accept your lot in your life before you can worry about hooking up with somebody. Be the best person you can be and try to touch all of these people in your life with your own love. That's all you can do.

One more thing, 86 the clubs! It's only good for plain fun in one night, nothing more.
 
Being single rules. I've never had a serious girlfriend, and I'm perfectly content. Sure, it would be nice...but I don't waste time worrying about it.

If you guys are looking to meet women, get your friends to hook you up. It's all about networking. Or just go up to some girl and start talking. You'll fuck it up a few times...but what's the alternative?
 
Parrottrifle said:
Well, let me present my own input here:

I had my GF leave me after four years and something of relationship. Of course, this was extremely devasting and I thought I couldn't live without her. Thanks to my family and friends who came to my support, I realized something.

1) You are very lucky if you have people who cares about you
2) Enjoy Life's simple pleasures.
3) It' s better to have been loved than to not be loved at all (Corny but true)

It's been 6 months now since she left me. I haven't dated anybody yet and I'm not about to anytime soon. You might ask why? Do I crave companionship? Sure, who doesn't? If you are really focused on about hooking up with somebody, the chance is you are neglecting yourself. I hate to break the news to you but life isn't about cuddles and sex and passionate conversation with your S/O. Don't beat yourself to death by worrying about if you are going to find somebody who you really like. Let life takes its own course and when you least expect it, it might hit you right in your face with a dashing woman.

Of course, I could be crazy and stupid but it's better to accept your lot in your life before you can worry about hooking up with somebody. Be the best person you can be and try to touch all of these people in your life with your own love. That's all you can do.

One more thing, 86 the clubs! It's only good for plain fun in one night, nothing more.
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you made my night...3 and a half years and she left...still trying to slowly get back into dateing
 
After my last relationship I cherish my being single. My freedom. My not caring. I've been a quite a few women this year and enjoyed it. But I know what it's like to want to have someone in you live and not have anyone. Hanging in there. It's cliche but relationships tend to sneak up on you when you least expect it.
 
Hey Georgie, Heres an idea for you. Instead of meeting the wrong women in bars and clubs, sign up for an on-line dating service. You read their profiles and are able to see if they are compatible with you. You know they are single otherwise they wouldn't be using the service. You spend maybe 30.00 a month and you don't have to waste time or money in the bars with drunk ho's. It's well worth it. It's hard to meet women when you have exhausted the family,friends,coworkers avenue. With girls in the gym you don't know whether they are single or whether they want to be bothered. I haven't had much luck there. So, your options are limited. Do some research on a quality on line dating service and I guarantee you, you will be dating a women with potential for the long run. Lifter
 
Austin316 said:
lists of AUstins things to eventually do

-Go out on a date
-Kiss someone when Im sober and there is actually something there
-fall in love and have the feeling returned
-basically anything that involves stuff like that, Ive done absolutely nothing
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Well i have been on a date but i have never kissed anyone. So i guess your not the only one. One of my buds would always come by my dorm and he'd be singing.

"He's 38 years old, never kissed a girl..." the Tragically Hip song..

As to the topic of loneliness and desire for companionship, i do not think one could attain the same level of happiness on their own that they can when they are with someone else. If people could than everyone would be single.

But yeah, some of my feats amaze me. You'd never think that a guy like me, if you saw me, would be single for that long.

But life goes on.
 
I didn't realize there were so many people dealing with the same shit as me on this board.

I didn't have my first date or first kiss till I was 19. It was the date from hell to. It was with this hot ass girl but my damn truck ended up getting stolen, so that kind of ruined the night.

I'm 22 now and have only had a relationship of any kind with 3 girls.

Ended my last relationship in October and haven't been out on a date since....loneliness is kicking my ass right now.

I have a friend that always has a girl in his life, he probably couldn't function without one. When you look at him, your like how the hell does this guy always have a girl. The thing is, he takes chances. He's been stood up and played like a fool many times, but he kept trying and eventually found someone.

Gotta take a risk to get a return. I just need to find a way to suck it up and quit worrying about rejection. Couldn't be any worse than spending all that time alone depressed could it?
 
Highintensity- You hit the nail on the head for me with your first post! I had my heart broken very badly about 2 years ago, and have never been able to even come close to trusting another female because of it.... damn women!
 
Austin316 said:
Fuck it sthe story of my entire life, hey at least you've prolly been out and dates and shit, not me, nope Im a hermit or something I dunno
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lol, when i got seriously into BB i became this. by choice. dont get me wrong, i do like to pimp, but it is far down my priorities list.
 
you know what helps?

the elimination of fear.

I was much like you........lonely mostltey do to fear of approaching girls, and letting them know I am attracted to them


I got over it, when I spoke to my best freind who is a stud muffin............

he said that for everygirl I get togther with I strike out with a hundred......

when he said this, I felt a huge pressurre lift of me, then I began taking chances.............it started with me approaching random girls, cus I saw something in their eyes, when they were looking at me, then I approached girls I knew...

at first I was a little shy, but I blossomed, and the more I acted on my instinct the more I suucceeded.

you got nothing to hide, and the only thing you have to lose is opportunity.

be honest with a girl when you are truly attracted to her.....smile and say "hey I don't know you, but there is something about your eyes that caught me, hello my name is ................"
 
I just completed my first week of my cycle now

front loading at 3000mg of test, 60mg fina/day, 50mg winny/day 50mgdboll/day 400mg deca/ week and yadda yadda

HOW DO YOU THINK I FEEEEEEEEEEEL?????????? :bawling: :bawling: :bawling:


I even think Sheeps are attractives now! :D



hmmm sheeeeeeeps :p
 
I am probably the most shy person in this world and I can't get NO.

I have a seminar and there a nice cute beautiful brunette in that seminar she came to talk to me twice, she smile to me.

Will I do a move on her? Probably not because im the Pres of the World Association of the Chokers. :rolleyes:
 
Oh btw I mentionned Brunette eh.

Im a addicted to Redheads

so my brunettes must be VERYYYYYYY cute :p
 
yeah it sucks to be single but I get a lot more done around the house and workwise. Porn can be littered everywhere without shame/worries.

Now that I think about it, if I were to hook up again then maybe she can help around the house...... :)
 
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