Hmmm.....I may have mis-spoken my point. Obviously a 5 year old child doesn't have complete rational/reasoning abilities. But I think kids at that age do understand consequences....and consequences don't have to mean violence. Consequences can mean that they don't get what they want, they have to sit in a corner, they have to go lie down for a while, etc. I'm just saying that I don't understand why hitting is an answer....I think it really just arises out of frustration at the situation. Teachers and child care workers manage to control children all day long.......yet its a scandal if they lay a hand on a child....I just don't think parents need to hit their kids to accomplish their lessons to their children. Basically violence begets violence....if you hit your kid because you don't like what they do....what does your child make of that....the child thinks, "if I don't like what someone does, its ok for me to hit them" so just like a kid can't understand you reasoning with them about a situation, they don't truly understand the reasoning behind you hitting them....they understand cause and effect. so say, cause=child jumping on bed effect=parent spanking them. Child sees that jumping on bed is something parent doesn't like, resulting in parent hitting child. Thus, child goes to school, another child takes your child's seat....your child reacts by hitting other child.
Conversely, child jumps on bed=you talking to your child about it and punishing him in a non-violent manner. Thus, your child goes to school, other child takes your child's seat=your child is less likely to resort to violence to solve situation.
Thats just my take, I could be wrong......its your kid, its your life
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