when i went from PA to CA, that was a military move, so i didn't really have to do much. when i moved from CA to PA, however, that was hell. 15' truck cross country with an infant and my gf behind me in a van. when we got back to PA, we stayed with her grandmother for a few days before getting a place of our own. her grandmother gave us the security deposit and we paid the first month's rent. so yeah, we had some help, but not too much, as we loaded/unloaded the truck ourselves and moved all our stuff into the house on our own.
it sucked ass, but didn't compare in any way to moving just a few short miles back in October. that i will remember as the single worst move of my entire fucking life. it couldn't of been worse if we tried to make it worse. practically no help and my shoulder was kinda fucked up. i could shoot all the people that said they'd help but never did. bastards.