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An interesting concept

PHATchik

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I've heard this song a lot in the last couple of weeks, whether on the radio in my car, over the speakers at our University Center, or whereever. It presents an interesting concept. The lyrics are below. I'm pretty sure that I agree with this idea. We all put so much emphasis on trying to find that perfect person for us. We constantly check out people we think are attractive and look for a ring on their finger. We let our friends set us up on blind dates. We try out onlinde dating services. (I'm watching an eHarmony commercial as I type this). We assess people and try to figure out who is good relationship material or simply who would be a good lay. Maybe we should just stop looking and let it happen? Thoughts?

Somebody

At a diner down on Broadway they make small talk
When she brings his eggs and fills his coffee cup
He jokes about his love life
And tells her he's 'bout ready to give up
That's when she says,'I've been there before
But keep on lookin' 'cause maybe who you're lookin' for is...'


Somebody in the next car
Somebody on the morning train
Somebody in the coffee shop
That you walk right by everyday
Somebody that you look at
But never really see
Somewhere out there is somebody


Across town in a crowded elevator
He can't forget the things that waitress said
He usually reads the paper
But today he reads a strangers face instead
It's that blue-eyed girl from two floors up
Maybe she's the one maybe he could fall in love with


Somebody in the next car
Somebody on the morning train
Somebody in the coffee shop
That you walk right by everyday
Somebody that you look at
But never really see
Somewhere out there is somebody


Now they laugh about the moment that it happened
A moment they'd both missed until that day
When he saw his future in her eyes
Instead of just another friendly face
And he wonders why he searched so long
When she was always there at that diner waiting on


Somebody in the next car
Somebody on the morning train
Somebody in the coffee shop
That you walk right on by everyday
Somebody that you look at
But never really see
Somewhere out there is somebody
 
I am in the category of stopped looking. I don't go on blind dates, or try online crap, and have stopped looking for rings for the most part. But the song does bring up an intersting point that things usually happen when you least expect so maybe now is that time for me :)

Thanks for the post PHAT.

Cheers,
Scotsman
 
I just heard that song a couple of songs ago. Mrs. Reba McEntire...Somebody.

Which brings up a great point in stalking. If I were to ever get in trouble for stalking, which I never would in a million years, I could use that song in refrence.
 
Scotsman said:
I am in the category of stopped looking. I don't go on blind dates, or try online crap, and have stopped looking for rings for the most part. But the song does bring up an intersting point that things usually happen when you least expect so maybe now is that time for me :)

Thanks for the post PHAT.

Cheers,
Scotsman
I just thought iwas an interesting idea too. And it could be very realistic. Who knows? Good luck Scotsman. :)
 
Sorry way too long for me to read...

I believe you find stuff when you forget about it and just go about your business... the easiest times I ever had finding quality girls were when I was not looking for them...

I think Scots is on the right track...
 
Scots probably is right. Maybe we all do try too hard and we should just let love and all that come to us.
 
Ok two people telling me I am right on the same thread, it must be my day I should buy a lottery ticket.

Actually right now I am really not interested in a relationship. Last couple left a really bad impression on me. Plus I work and travel too much, it wouldn't be fair to anyone to date me right now.

Cheers,
Scotsman
 
Scotsman said:
Ok two people telling me I am right on the same thread, it must be my day I should buy a lottery ticket.

Actually right now I am really not interested in a relationship. Last couple left a really bad impression on me. Plus I work and travel too much, it wouldn't be fair to anyone to date me right now.

Cheers,
Scotsman
Scots dear, did you miss the whole point of this thread? Don't count anything out. ;)
 
PHATchik said:
Scots dear, did you miss the whole point of this thread? Don't count anything out. ;)

No, just saying that now is an inopportune time. Not that I would really mind if it happens.

Cheers,
Scotsman
 
Maybe it is me, but what defines "looking" and what doesn't? I don't bend over backwards "looking", but I have recently realized that part of my problem wasn't in "the looking" but what I saw when "it" was there.

I was so busy being afraid of rejected (for very real reasons that one would reject another) that I made damned sure that no one would be interesting to me for more than 1 1/2 minutes.

Because I had such a nice experience with a gentleman recently (sex had zero to do with it) it has brought me to a so much better place mentally.

I am done worrying... not done "looking" per se.

I will be dead honest with everyone I meet and let the ball be in their court and not be so "scary" about my reality that they will definitely turn and run in the opposite direction. I won't expect anything from anyone, just be calm and enjoy life. If felt so good to be 100% honest with someone without fear of rejection...

I still believe now as I did before that it will be nearly impossible for me to find someone for "the long haul". But I am not stressing nor am I upset about it.

When one removes the element of pressure, things flow so much more nicely.

Whatever happens.... happens. :)
 
Werd it is better to scare people off with honesty than get trapped in a bad situation because you started under false pretenses.

Cheers,
Scotsman
 
It finally happened to me the day I woke up and saw it was right in front of me the whole time.

But you are right, a lot of gay men won't commit because they think something better is around the corner, or about to come through the door.
 
just going with it sucks. It's 2004. Online dating is where it's at. Why lettle for less than what you really want? I mean if you are into this hobby, or that hobby, and feel this way about certain political issues, if you HAD the means to seek out specific like minded people at a chance of a great romance, why wouldn't you? Why settle for the coffe shop waitress just cause she's hot and can't get pregnant but yet you have practically nothing in common? Why waste time? Fuck that. I hate meeting chicks in public. Waste of time 99% of the time.
 
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