A sacrifice that may be worth it

[fyxgel2]

So... I've been pondering about something again lately.
It involes sacrificing your success with a few women, in order to have much more success later on.

There are these two girls that I am friends with who go to my church. These two girls are both best friends and they are both incredibally hot. They both suspect that I am probably attracted to both of them.

Anyways, I was thinking, Do you guys think that maybe it would be a good idea if I just swore to myself that I would never date either of these girls? I'm thinking that by doing this I would have more to gain than to lose,

because as of now it seems like its harder to get to know them better and be around them as a friend, because the dating possibility always puts me on my toes and intimidates me from them. its weird, i dunno.

But if I knew that nothing were to happen between us, I would have nothing to worry about in getting to know them, and there would be no awkward tension.

In the end I would end up with a couple of hot friends, who I could socialize with and hang out with all the time. This is turn would make me feel more comfortable around other hot girls in the future, and it would make me better at socializing with women,
which would give me a lot more potential for success when it comes to picking up chicks down the road.

So... its a sacrifice because I would have to swear to myself never to date these women (in order to make this strategy work), but in the end it builds me up and makes me much more apt to achieve sucess in girl opportunities down the road.

whadda ya think?

 

[Deleted member 33117]

I think its a dumb idea. Hit on both and see which one goes for you, or just pick one and go after her. Justbecause he are attracted to her friend does not mean anything. Are you going to just not date or fuck any girls who have attractive friends?

 

[westsnoop]

Your plan is ok, just eliminate the "never" part. Be a friend, and see where it leads. In time, you may decide to date one over the other. What's with the finality of "never"?

 

[PBR]

as soon as you deprive yourself of ANYTHING, it becomes an obsession. this is a true statement. If you havent known these girls for very long, just chill. Let time take its course. What is the hurry. another tip: "there are no rules out here in the real world" my friend....and you cant make them up as you go. Just live your life, and let others do the same, and when you meet someone along the way that shares the same things as you do, enjoy it....and dont look back.

 

[Forge]

So... its a sacrifice because I would have to swear to myself never to date these women (in order to make this strategy work), but in the end it builds me up and makes me much more apt to achieve sucess in girl opportunities down the road.

whadda ya think?

You can't sacrifice something you don't have. You aren't "giving them up" because you don't have them to give up. What you are doing here is making an excuse to not ask either one of them out. If you want to date one of them, go for it, if not then don't. Rejection never killed anyone.

You have to get over your fear of asking women out, and you won't do that by promising to never ask a girl out, you have to take a chance.

Fear causes hesitation, and hesitation will cause your worst fears to come true.

 

[Lestat]

you are over analyzing.

Just be their friend with no expectations. It doesn't have to be some sort of resolve on your part.

 

[bran987]

pssssssssh fxy, I have to highly disagree with the advice you've been given

you are finally maybe although I may eat my words, getting a fucking clue

you are absolutely right. 2 girls is only 2 girls. the fact that you have somehow gotten 2 hot girls to hang out with you with your extreme issues is a blessing in disguise.

are they cool chicks? if you enjoy hanging out with them and put the thought completely out of your mind that you will ever date them, and you are able to do this, you will have made a quantum leap.

first of all, it will make you more attractive it to them. but don't crack even if they see the change and start to sing a different tune about you.

having 2 hot girls as friends that hang around you gives you the most powerful advantage in the world you will ever have in dating arenas, it is called Social Proof.

if other hot girls see hot girls with you, you must be the kind of guy who hangs out with hot girls, which must make you a fun guy to be around. why else would they be hanging out with you?

this is one of the secrets of getting girls. don't let anyone tell you otherwise. having control around hot girls and hanging out with you even though they will not date you, will help you enormously, sorry for repeating myself.

It is a basic tenet of Pivot Theory

Pivot = a chick that you take to a bar/gathering in order to pick up other chicks. Use chicks who won't date you but still want to see you, for this purpose. Basically, this works most chicks will find you more attractive and jealous when you are already with a chick than when are not.

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believe me, you have already screwed the pooch with these girls, you aren't giving up anything by just being friends - they won't date you anyway - move on

 

[Y_lifter]

How terrible could it be if it turned out both of them wanted
to explore your shorts ?

Just go with the flow and you will know..

 

[coverguy]

You may be overanalyzing this issue, but wtf. Give it a try and let us know how it works.

By the way. Can I get their numbers???

 

[d3track]

just hang out with em, if they will hang with you, great
if nothing more than friendship comes of it, great

it'll get ya away from the computer for a lil bit at least

 

[Deleted member 33117]

pssssssssh fxy, I have to highly disagree with the advice you've been given

you are finally maybe although I may eat my words, getting a fucking clue

you are absolutely right. 2 girls is only 2 girls. the fact that you have somehow gotten 2 hot girls to hang out with you with your extreme issues is a blessing in disguise.

are they cool chicks? if you enjoy hanging out with them and put the thought completely out of your mind that you will ever date them, and you are able to do this, you will have made a quantum leap.

first of all, it will make you more attractive it to them. but don't crack even if they see the change and start to sing a different tune about you.

having 2 hot girls as friends that hang around you gives you the most powerful advantage in the world you will ever have in dating arenas, it is called Social Proof.

if other hot girls see hot girls with you, you must be the kind of guy who hangs out with hot girls, which must make you a fun guy to be around. why else would they be hanging out with you?

this is one of the secrets of getting girls. don't let anyone tell you otherwise. having control around hot girls and hanging out with you even though they will not date you, will help you enormously, sorry for repeating myself.

It is a basic tenet of Pivot Theory

Pivot = a chick that you take to a bar/gathering in order to pick up other chicks. Use chicks who won't date you but still want to see you, for this purpose. Basically, this works most chicks will find you more attractive and jealous when you are already with a chick than when are not.
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believe me, you have already screwed the pooch with these girls, you aren't giving up anything by just being friends - they won't date you anyway - move on

BAM!

 

[Taps]

Fxygel, have you actually asked a girl out yet? You've been asking the same questions and getting same answers for 6 months now...

no flame, just curious how things are progressing for you.

 

[Latamier]

Just hang out with them both and try to get them drunk. Once they are both smashed, tell them you want them both and cant decide which one to fuck. Then see if they will agree on a threesome.

 

[Deleted member 33117]

Just hang out with them both and try to get them drunk. Once they are both smashed, tell them you want them both and cant decide which one to fuck. Then see if they will agree on a threesome.

Good plan.

 

[Bullit]

How's that broad in South America that you are cyber-stalking doing?

 

[BileStew]

Turn gay.

Your obession with finding a GF is rediculous let alone pathetic.

 

[sigweed]

ive said it before; devote yourself completely to school and work. Kick ass in those, and land a good job, and you'll have more broads than you'll know what to do with.

 

[BO-DEN]

too swift on my toes to get get caught up with you hoes!!

mang.... hit which ever one is down for it first....

 

[Latamier]

Good advice Bo!

 

[Werd]

too swift on my toes to get get caught up with you hoes!!

mang.... hit which ever one is down for it first....

You sound like a truly fine speciman.

"Sacrifice?" How can you sacrifice something you don't have (as stated previously on this thread)?

For goodness sakes, take a deep breath and live without thinking about your every single breath. No offense meant, but I honestly think you have some sort of OCD you seem to constantly obsess over something that is honestly inane... either that or you are really a 14 year old girl living in a society where your only chance of survival is to find a mate before you turn 15.

 

[Deleted member 33117]

too swift on my toes to get get caught up with you hoes!!

mang.... hit which ever one is down for it first....

Fxygel-Yep. Do what I'm doing orb. Since I can't find a relationship at present, I'm now fucking my brains out again. Got laid last night, two possible offers for tonight (turns out one of them was trying to reach me while I was at the other girls place last night), and a definate for Friday night, plus I have another girl I promised I would call sometime today that I just met.

Explain to me one more time how you go to college and girls don't offer to have sex with you?

 

[BO-DEN]

You sound like a truly fine speciman. .

i have photos and video of my speciman

 

[Ulcasterdropout]

Explain to me one more time how you go to college and girls don't offer to have sex with you?

He goes to church school.

 

[Deleted member 33117]

He goes to church school.

And? I live in College Station. All the girls here go to church every Sunday and Wednesday. I've literally had pillow talk with girls here after sex where they tell me about some mission trip they went on for church a few years ago.

 

[Ulcasterdropout]

And? I live in College Station. All the girls here go to church every Sunday and Wednesday. I've literally had pillow talk with girls here after sex where they tell me about some mission trip they went on for church a few years ago.

I thought, well....you know what I was thinking (I think). Where I'm from, people still live like it's the 50's.

 

[Deleted member 33117]

I thought, well....you know what I was thinking (I think). Where I'm from, people still live like it's the 50's.

Mang, him being at a church school is no excuse. If anything, these girls have alot of pent up sexual frustration from being under tight control from their parents. College girls who grew up in conservative, religious homes are usually the biggest sluts once they get out from under mommie and daddy's rules.

 

[Ulcasterdropout]

Mang, him being at a church school is no excuse. If anything, these girls have alot of pent up sexual frustration from being under tight control from their parents. College girls who grew up in conservative, religious homes are usually the biggest sluts once they get out from under mommie and daddy's rules.

You are the authority....

 

[BO-DEN]

if your older then 18.. and your not having sex at least ounce a month you are not normal

 

[Forge]

Explain to me one more time how you go to college and girls don't offer to have sex with you?

Dude, not everyone has your incredible luck with women. Before I got married I had a two year period where I didn't get laid at all. Admittedly I was fed up with women and really didn't care, but not everyone is the horn-dog womanizing man slut that you are. Now that I am getting divorced I bet it will be a long time until I even date again, let alone get any kitty.

But then, I respect women and don't take advantage of them. Maybe the key to lots of sex is to just not care, something I can't do.

 

[fyxgel2]

Fxygel, have you actually asked a girl out yet? You've been asking the same questions and getting same answers for 6 months now...

no flame, just curious how things are progressing for you.

Well, I really have only asked about 2 girls out, in the last 12 months, that one through the email, and another one in person (asked her to go to some event at my college with me).

I would ask more girls out, but a lot of times I ask myself: "whats the point? If I think that there is a 95% chance that they will say no"?

I think that holds me back quite a bit, not wanting to make a fool of myself.
But also I do get a lot of negative signs from women in order to justify my decision of remaining complacent.

I guess I'm hesitant to ask a hot girl out, unless I'm really sure she will say yes.

 

[fyxgel2]

How's that broad in South America that you are cyber-stalking doing?

I'm done with her. She doesnt even respect me enough to respond to a serious email, so I'm done with her.

ive said it before; devote yourself completely to school and work. Kick ass in those, and land a good job, and you'll have more broads than you'll know what to do with.

I dont want a gold digger though. I want a woman that loves me for me, not my wallet.

 

[fyxgel2]

You sound like a truly fine speciman.

"Sacrifice?" How can you sacrifice something you don't have (as stated previously on this thread)?

For goodness sakes, take a deep breath and live without thinking about your every single breath. No offense meant, but I honestly think you have some sort of OCD you seem to constantly obsess over something that is honestly inane... either that or you are really a 14 year old girl living in a society where your only chance of survival is to find a mate before you turn 15.

The way you sacrifice something that you dont have, is by not allowing yourself to get it. Maybe sacrifice isnt the right word. Maybe "Swearing off those 2 girls" is a better way to put it. I am giving up the idea of having a relationship with them in the future. I am giving up opportunity. Thats what I meant by sacrifice.

Also.. I probably do have some form of OCD. I've been diagnosed as having obsessive thinking patterns, which is somewhat related. In any case I think the only solution is to satisfy my innermost desire (to get with a woman) instead of ignoring it.

 

[fyxgel2]

Explain to me one more time how you go to college and girls don't offer to have sex with you?

ha, first off I go to a Christian college, where girls believe that having sex is before marriage, is wrong,

secondly, I believe that it is also wrong to do that. So even if someone did offer sex, my goal would be to resist that temptation.

What I want is a girlfriend. A girlfriend is a good way to satisfy my innate desires, within my moral boundaries. Obviously I wont be having sex with her, but just the company itself would be nice.

 

[Deleted member 33117]

Dude, not everyone has your incredible luck with women. Before I got married I had a two year period where I didn't get laid at all. Admittedly I was fed up with women and really didn't care, but not everyone is the horn-dog womanizing man slut that you are. Now that I am getting divorced I bet it will be a long time until I even date again, let alone get any kitty.

But then, I respect women and don't take advantage of them. Maybe the key to lots of sex is to just not care, something I can't do.

I respect women. Ask any girl who knows me. Who says I am using them? Most of them just want no-strings attached sex. I really haven't meet any that really wanted anything serious with me. So it coul just as easily be said they are using me, especiallythe one's that have a boyfriend or husband already.

 

[Forge]

I respect women. Ask any girl who knows me. Who says I am using them? Most of them just want no-strings attached sex. I really haven't meet any that really wanted anything serious with me. So it coul just as easily be said they are using me, especiallythe one's that have a boyfriend or husband already.

LOL! You really are a piece of work. The difference between you and me is that I wouldn't touch those married / attached girls with a ten foot pole.


Karma my friend, karma.

 

[Forge]

ha, first off I go to a Christian college, where girls believe that having sex is before marriage, is wrong,

secondly, I believe that it is also wrong to do that. So even if someone did offer sex, my goal would be to resist that temptation.

Man look at you, you're horny as hell but you can't / won't indulge those desires because "you're not allowed to". Cruisin' for a complex bor, just cruisin'.

 

[Deleted member 33117]

LOL! You really are a piece of work. The difference between you and me is that I wouldn't touch those married / attached girls with a ten foot pole.


Karma my friend, karma.

Well, considering that any girl I am interested in does not seem to want a relationship with me, I pretty much have to have casual sex, or no sex at all. Its not my problem these attached girls have guys who don't know how to fuck. Maybe they should learn how to get their women off.