has anyone ever just started a new life?

as in gotten rid of all your crap, moved to a new place far away, discarded all your friends, cut off all contact from anyone you've ever known, and basically started over?


just curious. share your experiences if you have, or even thought about it.

jerkbox said:

as in gotten rid of all your crap, moved to a new place far away, discarded all your friends, cut off all contact from anyone you've ever known, and basically started over?


just curious. share your experiences if you have, or even thought about it.

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No. But sometimes, I wish I could. Just need my daughter.

I've done it a few times, just I haven't cut off contact or discarded my friends in the process.

slickdadd said:

I've done it a few times, just I haven't cut off contact or discarded my friends in the process.

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what did you do, and why?

Well I moved to Australia not too long ago, just because It was something I wanted to do. It was only semi-permanent though, as I did plan on returning. Then recently I have just moved again to Hawaii, more permenantly. Again, because it was something I wanted to do. Both moves did have relevant tie-ins with my career/schooling though.

Yes.

In high school I got myself into a shitty crowd.

I ended up hating them but decided I couldn't fix my problems until I got away from them.

I quietly made plans and registered at another school, and one day was just gone. Most from what I understand described me as 'just disappearing.'

The clean break was definitely the right course to take, and I'm better several years later for it.

slickdadd said:

Well I moved to Australia not too long ago, just because It was something I wanted to do. It was only semi-permanent though, as I did plan on returning. Then recently I have just moved again to Hawaii, more permenantly. Again, because it was something I wanted to do. Both moves did have relevant tie-ins with my career/schooling though.

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good deal.....i wish i had the money to do something like that.....figure it out when i got there kind of thing

Yeah that's what my last move was. I basically came here with no place to live, no car, no nothing. I did have a job or reason to be here, but as far as what to do when I arrived, I was essentially homeless. It was a pain in the ass it first, but definitely good in terms of lesson learning and taught me about myself and all that jazz. I've never just moved somewhere, changed my name and cut off contact though. Never had a reason to. I try to keep every friend I make for the most part.

no, but ive been considering it lately.. im 27.. single.. no kids.. no home... but have and education and work experience that will nearly guarentee me work.... its tempting to just kinda start over... but then again i've been down lately, which is not typical for me.. I wouldn't do something so drastic without really thinking about it.

yep, when i moved for university to a place 3000km away from home.

it sucked. going from a small town to a big city full of shallow, fast moving strangers was a very lonely sort of thing to do at 17. it made me much stronger though, and if i had to do the same, not only would i handle it, i think i would thrive

best thing about it was the lack of small town "i know you because my neighbour went out with your cousins workmates ex boyfriend" social memory and politics

i recently moved back, but have considered making a move on my own again...i dont think it would be the best idea though, because the sorts of friendships/quality relationships you foster in your adulthood just arent as deep as your school friends, or distant relatives...most of the new "friends" i made while i was away were really relationships of convenience, and didnt stand the test of time (more than 5 year old friendships, not like i met them in a bar) or the distance, while the people i know from my childhood are rock steady, as am i in reciprocation

it could just be a big city thing though, because from what i saw, people were stabbing each other in the back or generally being a bunch of self serving wankers all over the place...i saw very few "friends" (as i perceive the meaning of the word) while i lived there. for example, i was with a crowd of guys who had been sitting next to each other for 4 years (studying same course). they went out together, partied together, studied together...closest thing to friendship that i saw. anyway, one night one of them got into a bit of a fight, and the other guys just melted away and left him standing there on his own. here in my home town, though, that sort of thing just doesnt happen, and isnt tolerated...if your buddy is in a fight, they YOU are in a fight, so put your drink down, call your buddy a wanker for getting you into a brawl if you like, but you damn well stand next to him and shape up. kind of puts the mindset of those people under the spotlight.

anyway its a worthwhile thing to do, even if its just to open your eyes to your present situation. there are lots of things about yourself you cant see from inside the bubble