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got dumped..BUT I'M GONNA GET PUMPED, HUMPED, JUMPED AND BUMPED!

Lestat

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Talk about a shitty fucking feeling..... now I understand why that dude with the wife that left him for some other dude is all over the boards posting... you feel like you just need some release...

My ex.. who broke up with me Saturday night.. sent me this today via email when I asked how she was feeling about things, etc.

_______
Based on the the way i feel and how i was feeling towards the end, i
do feel that our time together is behind us now. I cant say anything
is for sure or forever, but that is what i feel and what my heart and
gut are telling me at this point. I dont like writing the answer to
this becuase it gives you the ability to read and re-read and maybe
reinterpret every word, but its too hard for me to keep having these
talks with you in person.

Maybe it doesn't matter to you, maybe it does, but i cherish you as a
person and that is something that i know will be true forever. if i
am lucky enough to be able to call you a friend i would feel truly
fortunate.

Brian, it kills me everytime i think of you hurting but i know you are
the strongest and best suited to deal with what comes your way and i
know 100% for sure that you will find happiness.

also, i've been amazed at the depth and articulate nature of your
emails. holy shit. you can write too!
_________
 
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i know most of you jackasses will make fun.. and I'm just asking for it posting on the open board like this.. but it sucks.

I was down to like 180lbs.... I used to be a solid 200....

the one upside now i guess.. I really stayed away from any AAS because I didn't wanna be doing shit I had to keep from her... but now I've got free reign to do whatever...

Before her I loved being single too.. the freedom.. the never ending supply of poon tang...

but now I don't even give a fuck about some new poon.. its the comfort of having a relationship with someone that knows you inside and out that i crave.
 
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It never gets easier.
You just get stronger.

Fuck you and the eyes that rolled in with you!
 
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that sucks. I've gotten an email like that. I hate that feeling. shit. I"m getting depressed just thinking about it :(
 
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I already said this in another post, but if I were a little more confident in my sexuality, I'd give you a great big hug.



Actually no I wouldn't. Nevermind. Hang in there.
 
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Bran987 said:
that sucks. I've gotten an email like that. I hate that feeling. shit. I"m getting depressed just thinking about it :(
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yeah man, im pretty fucking bummed right now..and I RARELY get down about life or anything in general.. but this fucking sucks.

I'm hitting up Vegas tomorrow too and I hope I can get out of this fucking funk long enough to enjoy it....

one problem though.. I was in vegas just a MONTH ago for my ex girl's birthday... couples trip.. it was a lot of fun and is my last memory of vegas..
 
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Well Brian what I've found that helps getting over that "dumped" feeling is to go out and fuck as many hot sluts possible. This will help temporarily camouflage all those negative & hurtfull emotions your feeling at the moment. Eventually once you'r out of that rut, you can then beign to date "quality" women again and you'll be good to go. Time seems to heal all. Good luck bro.
 
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strongsmartsexy said:
Take some time for yourself! Remember who YOU are and celebrate that. Use this time to re-evaluate yourself and your life and where you're going next. The hurt will lessen over time...
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I'm trying man, but its still hard to not view everything in the context of her.
 
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to be honest im still in the deperate phase where I want her back.. where I still think that somehow love will conquer all.... that her feelings may have changed, but they can change back.. that this is all just temporary... but she's told me she's not in love with me anymore...
 
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Involve yourself in as much other shit as you can.

Hang in there, lots of people out there. Grass is always greener...you;re single now...it equals freedom from her, even if you do not want that today.

Some of my most productive times occur post let down. I wrote my books last time this happened. Find something to do with all this energy and the pain will melt away.
 
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Lestat said:
I'm trying man, but its still hard to not view everything in the context of her.
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I completely understand that. She's been an integral part of your life and will likely always be an integral part of your memories. It's a good time to start viewing things in terms of who you are and what adventures you're going on next.
 
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Mr. Black said:
Well Brian what I've found that helps getting over that "dumped" feeling is to go out and fuck as many hot sluts possible. This will help temporarily camouflage all those negative & hurtfull emotions your feeling at the moment. Eventually once you'r out of that rut, you can then beign to date "quality" women again and you'll be good to go. Time seems to heal all. Good luck bro.
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when i got dumped i didnt want to shag anyone but the chick that dumped me
 
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Lestat said:
Based on the the way i feel and how i was feeling towards the end, i
do feel that our time together is behind us now. I cant say anything
is for sure or forever, but that is what i feel and what my heart and
gut are telling me at this point. I dont like writing the answer to
this becuase it gives you the ability to read and re-read and maybe
reinterpret every word, but its too hard for me to keep having these
talks with you in person.

Maybe it doesn't matter to you, maybe it does, but i cherish you as a
person and that is something that i know will be true forever. if i
am lucky enough to be able to call you a friend i would feel truly
fortunate.
_________
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OMG. women must have a damn book that they get this shit out of. the first chick i really fell for sent me a letter almost identical to this which i "read and re-read and maybe reinterpreted" alot. aaaarrrrrrr.
 
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MattTheSkywalker said:
Involve yourself in as much other shit as you can.

Hang in there, lots of people out there. Grass is always greener...you;re single now...it equals freedom from her, even if you do not want that today.

Some of my most productive times occur post let down. I wrote my books last time this happened. Find something to do with all this energy and the pain will melt away.
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thank man.. i'll try.

Another example... i figured sweet, I'll devote more time to the gym.. make sure my workouts are focused and quality.. even more so then before...

but my first workout after things ended was terrible.. why?

Her and I used to workout together at least once a week.. she got into weight training largly because of me and we'd spot each other and what not.. she'd work her workout schedule sometimes so we'd intentially be there at the same time just so she could see me..... that felt good. Now I go there and it feels fucking empty.. it all reminds me of her.

I'd change gyms.. but I use the one I have here at work.. its free.... unfortunately she works here too and uses the same gym.

Luckily we don't see each other during the day with our regular jobs.. we're in completely different buildings.
 
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strongsmartsexy said:
I completely understand that. She's been an integral part of your life and will likely always be an integral part of your memories. It's a good time to start viewing things in terms of who you are and what adventures you're going on next.
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I'm a fucking pussy.. i nearly cried reading that. Where'd my fuckin nuts go??
 
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Sorry to hear about this hun if I could I would give you a big hug. Break ups are hard especially when you are the one getting dumped. Time is the best healer by far.
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presguy said:
when i got dumped i didnt want to shag anyone but the chick that dumped me
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I suppose it could be tough. I personally have never had a problem fucking new women post-break up as most relationships seemed to end quite bitterly, but sometimes you gotta suck it up and do what ya gotta do. Sex with sluts seem to increase seratonin levels which help you through the transition of recovery.
 
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Lestat said:
I'm a fucking pussy.. i nearly cried reading that. Where'd my fuckin nuts go??
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Crying does not make you a pussy. It's a normal human emotion when you're hurting. This is naturally a very emotionally charged time for you now. Just know that it will get better over time and that the more you focus on yourself the easier it will become.
 
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Mr. Black said:
I suppose it could be tough. I personally have never had a problem fucking new women post-break up as most relationships seemed to end quite bitterly, but sometimes you gotta suck it up and do what ya gotta do. Sex with sluts seem to increase seratonin levels which help you through the transition of recovery.
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yeah.. there was no bitterness here.. so it makes it even harder.. if I had something to get pissed about.. something about her I just couldn't stand.. I could focus on that instead of the pain.. but this one is just being chalked up to a change of heart on her part.. who knows why... she claims to not know exactly, just that she felt like she needed to be on her own and have some space.
 
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Lestat said:
I cant say anything is for sure or forever, but that is what i feel and what my heart and gut are telling me at this point.....

Brian, it kills me everytime i think of you hurting but i know you are
the strongest and best suited to deal with what comes your way and i
know 100% for sure that you will find happiness.
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lamest shit ever bro - don't call or email her ass anymore... typical chick saying "things might change in the future", and "i feel sorry for you"

Here is what you do....

move on with your life, have fun, do what you like to do, do things that will make you better (physically, mentally, etc)... you will find a new chick and be happier than you are now...

she will see this and want to come back to you...

by that time you won't give a rat's ass about her....

you win.
 
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lestat,

Sorry to read about your troubles bro, hang in there. It does get easier.

Did she actually break up with you by e-mail, or was that intended as a don't call me anymore letter?

In any case don't romanticize the past. It's easy afterwards to remember everything through rose colored glasses. Concentrate on the bad stuff in the relationship, and it'll help.

Don't let the crying and gut pain bother you. That's part of the healing, and there is no avoiding it really. When your ready, there are tons of beautiful and available women who would love to be in a relationship. Good luck man.
 
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Becoming said:
lamest shit ever bro - don't call or email her ass anymore... typical chick saying "things might change in the future", and "i feel sorry for you"

Here is what you do....

move on with your life, have fun, do what you like to do, do things that will make you better (physically, mentally, etc)... you will find a new chick and be happier than you are now...

she will see this and want to come back to you...

by that time you won't give a rat's ass about her....

you win.
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I've tried to work myself into this mentallity.. really... but let me tell you why I think this is hard...

1) this was the first chick I ever dated that worked out regularly
2) this was the first chick I dated that watched what we ate more closely then I did!
3) this is the first chick I ever dated that i felt was actually even smarter then me (for example she got a 760 out of 800 on the GMAT.. she went to Duke)
4) this is the first chick that really accepted me and all my little fucked up problems... I'm a pretty normal guy, but there are a couple things that just really irk me and she completely understood (e.g I hate strawberries... I hate gum..)
5) sex with this girl was killer.... she knew exactly what I loved and would often go a whole session just pleasing me.... plus, this was a first.. this girl would cum pretty much EVERY time we had sex.. at least once.. many times more... I've had girls that its fucking once in a blue moon that they cum and thats with a lot of extra help.. or they only cum from oral... etc.
6) her family was awesome.. he parents and siblings loved me.. her little brother looked to me like a big brother.. her dad invited me on trips and shit with him... her mom would have had me over for every meal of the week if I wanted and when she did have me over she'd feed me like 5 turkey burgers.. or a pound of fish.. you couldn't have asked for more.
7) she got along with all my friends.. Im 27.. she is 23... I have a lot of friends.. mostly couples and she went on trips with me and them and fit right in and my friend and their significant others loved her.
8) most importantly.. she just made me feel fucking happy every day.. i felt loved every second that we were "together" meaning even if we were not together in person I just knew.. i had the ultimate sense of security.
9) normally when i date chicks.. there is always something missing.. I get that feeling that this is all so cool.. EXCEPT.... or I WISH this one thing was just different.. or I WISH i felt this certain way.. with this girl there was none of that... I never once seriously questioned things.. I knew from day 1 that this girl was a 100% keeper
10) she wasn't drama filled at all.. I can't stand that.. having to constantly deal with some stupid drama.. that burns me out fast... there was none of that.. we had a couple times where we talked about "us" that was emotional.. but that is to be expected and we were always stronger each time after.. but no petty bullshit here.

there is so much more too.. the thought of finding that in someone else seems so impossible to me now.
 
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JerseyArt said:
lestat,

Sorry to read about your troubles bro, hang in there. It does get easier.

Did she actually break up with you by e-mail, or was that intended as a don't call me anymore letter?

In any case don't romanticize the past. It's easy afterwards to remember everything through rose colored glasses. Concentrate on the bad stuff in the relationship, and it'll help.

Don't let the crying and gut pain bother you. That's part of the healing, and there is no avoiding it really. When your ready, there are tons of beautiful and available women who would love to be in a relationship. Good luck man.
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thanks a lot man.. I will try to take this to heart.

and no, we broke up in person.. not email.. I've since been talking to her a lot.. she came over yesterday.. and I basically sent her a journal of all my thoughts and emotions since the breakup... I know most people say don't do that shit.. but I couldn't help it.

We spent all day together last Saturday.. then that night at like 10pm when I was dropping her off she says "can you come in, I want to talk to you about something.."

I go in.. and she says "there is no easy way to say this, but I think we should break up.."

she goes on to say that she feels like she needs to be on her own.. to have some space.. to know what its like to date other people.. that she is young and feels like there is still stuff she needs to do...

I was pissed.. didn't want to get emtional then.. so I left... that left a lot unsaid so we've talked on the phone.. in person.. over email.. a lot since.. and I know what you'll say.. i need to stop... the constant reminders of her are not going to do me any good.
 
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Lestat said:
also, i've been amazed at the depth and articulate nature of your
emails. holy shit. you can write too!
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I didn't read the responses so I don't know if anyone else pointed this out already, but this last line smells of fake.

If it is not fake, then I feel for you bro. Nothing feels worst than a broken heart.

If it is fake, then suck a dick for getting people to express their emotions with your fake shit!
 
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Lestat said:
thanks a lot man.. I will try to take this to heart.

and no, we broke up in person.. not email.. I've since been talking to her a lot.. she came over yesterday.. and I basically sent her a journal of all my thoughts and emotions since the breakup... I know most people say don't do that shit.. but I couldn't help it.

We spent all day together last Saturday.. then that night at like 10pm when I was dropping her off she says "can you come in, I want to talk to you about something.."

I go in.. and she says "there is no easy way to say this, but I think we should break up.."

she goes on to say that she feels like she needs to be on her own.. to have some space.. to know what its like to date other people.. that she is young and feels like there is still stuff she needs to do...

I was pissed.. didn't want to get emtional then.. so I left... that left a lot unsaid so we've talked on the phone.. in person.. over email.. a lot since.. and I know what you'll say.. i need to stop... the constant reminders of her are not going to do me any good.
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this is usually the age when the really smart girls want to start "finding themselves and being independent" and the dumber girls start feeling like they are too old and need to be married.. she sounds like she was great.. maybe it was just the timing :( I bet if she was 27 things would have been different.
 
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Lestat said:
Im 27.. she is 23...
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BAM! there is your problem bro - she is like 1-2 years too young... she is prolly looking for her last hurrah before the clock starts ticking...


If you found one you can find another - and believe it or not the next one will be better... that has never failed me... they always got better... I would have never thought so, but they always did... no matter how perfect the next was always better...
 
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Them is some killer gmat scores.

Good luck my man and go get laid as soon as possible.
 
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SoreArms said:
I didn't read the responses so I don't know if anyone else pointed this out already, but this last line smells of fake.

If it is not fake, then I feel for you bro. Nothing feels worst than a broken heart.

If it is fake, then suck a dick for getting people to express their emotions with your fake shit!
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I can say with 100% certainty that this is not fake... I love to throw a joke thread out there from time to time... and I wish with all my heart that this was one of them.
 
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Lestat said:
I can say with 100% certainty that this is not fake... I love to throw a joke thread out there from time to time... and I wish with all my heart that this was one of them.
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then I feel for you bro. Nothing feels worst than a broken heart
 
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Lestat said:
I've tried to work myself into this mentallity.. really... but let me tell you why I think this is hard...

1) this was the first chick I ever dated that worked out regularly
2) this was the first chick I dated that watched what we ate more closely then I did!
3) this is the first chick I ever dated that i felt was actually even smarter then me (for example she got a 760 out of 800 on the GMAT.. she went to Duke)
4) this is the first chick that really accepted me and all my little fucked up problems... I'm a pretty normal guy, but there are a couple things that just really irk me and she completely understood (e.g I hate strawberries... I hate gum..)
5) sex with this girl was killer.... she knew exactly what I loved and would often go a whole session just pleasing me.... plus, this was a first.. this girl would cum pretty much EVERY time we had sex.. at least once.. many times more... I've had girls that its fucking once in a blue moon that they cum and thats with a lot of extra help.. or they only cum from oral... etc.
6) her family was awesome.. he parents and siblings loved me.. her little brother looked to me like a big brother.. her dad invited me on trips and shit with him... her mom would have had me over for every meal of the week if I wanted and when she did have me over she'd feed me like 5 turkey burgers.. or a pound of fish.. you couldn't have asked for more.
7) she got along with all my friends.. Im 27.. she is 23... I have a lot of friends.. mostly couples and she went on trips with me and them and fit right in and my friend and their significant others loved her.
8) most importantly.. she just made me feel fucking happy every day.. i felt loved every second that we were "together" meaning even if we were not together in person I just knew.. i had the ultimate sense of security.
9) normally when i date chicks.. there is always something missing.. I get that feeling that this is all so cool.. EXCEPT.... or I WISH this one thing was just different.. or I WISH i felt this certain way.. with this girl there was none of that... I never once seriously questioned things.. I knew from day 1 that this girl was a 100% keeper
10) she wasn't drama filled at all.. I can't stand that.. having to constantly deal with some stupid drama.. that burns me out fast... there was none of that.. we had a couple times where we talked about "us" that was emotional.. but that is to be expected and we were always stronger each time after.. but no petty bullshit here.

there is so much more too.. the thought of finding that in someone else seems so impossible to me now.
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Jesus thats sad. This is the 2nd most depressing post i've ever seen on EF. How long were you together.
 
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Becoming said:
BAM! there is your problem bro - she is like 1-2 years too young... she is prolly looking for her last hurrah before the clock starts ticking...


If you found one you can find another - and believe it or not the next one will be better... that has never failed me... they always got better... I would have never thought so, but they always did... no matter how perfect the next was always better...
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I hope this is the case for me....

I have no problem dating chicks.. its just finding the quality that is tough...

I'm not trying to be a dick, but I'm done dating chicks that are waitresses... didn't go to college... work bullshit admin jobs... that was cool a few years ago, but now when I look for someone to date i look for someone who is on the same level as me in many different ways... not just a hot piece of ass that is fun to bang.. THAT gets old real quick (and expensive many times).

I also have found I need a type a personality.. because I am one as well.. and type B's are just TOO passive... this girl was a definite type A.. but we worked together most of the time so it was awesome.. every once in a while we'd clash, but all it took was a second of taking a step back and remembering what was really important here and things were ALL good.
 
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nordstrom said:
Jesus thats sad. This is the 2nd most depressing post i've ever seen on EF. How long were you together.
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what was the first most depressing post?

we were together for something a year and 9 months... a little off and on in there... a rocky start.. then she was away at school for a semester.. but the last year has been solid.
 
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Bran987 said:
except for that HIV post?
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Nah, the worst was several years ago some guy made a post asking about how he wanted to start taking heroin. After some prodding by other posters he said that he was in his 30s, with a good job and a relatively good life but he wasn't married and didn't have kids and he figured it was too late to have a family so he wanted to either kill himself or shut his mind off with drugs.
 
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Razorguns said:
well if you ever wanna party it up in la bro -- look me up. I know that feeling *all* too well. :(
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i may take you up on that.. I'm not so big on the club scene though.. never really been my element... but I'm usually up for whatever.
 
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Lestat said:
I hope this is the case for me....

I have no problem dating chicks.. its just finding the quality that is tough...

I'm not trying to be a dick, but I'm done dating chicks that are waitresses... didn't go to college... work bullshit admin jobs... that was cool a few years ago, but now when I look for someone to date i look for someone who is on the same level as me in many different ways... not just a hot piece of ass that is fun to bang.. THAT gets old real quick (and expensive many times).

I also have found I need a type a personality.. because I am one as well.. and type B's are just TOO passive... this girl was a definite type A.. but we worked together most of the time so it was awesome.. every once in a while we'd clash, but all it took was a second of taking a step back and remembering what was really important here and things were ALL good.
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dude stop thinking about her ass... when you least expect it you will find the next one...
 
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Go for some good rebound sex. Give it time bor, you'll be feeling better in no time. Occupy your time (and mind) with something positive. Like say, a nice tren and winny cycle to make you look like a cyborg.
 
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Lestat said:
what was the first most depressing post?

we were together for something a year and 9 months... a little off and on in there... a rocky start.. then she was away at school for a semester.. but the last year has been solid.
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Was this the girl your friends set you up with who you had good chemistry with or was that someone else.

If it was a 21 month relationship, yeah the week after you break up you'll feel bad. Thats a given.
 
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nordstrom said:
Nah, the worst was several years ago some guy made a post asking about how he wanted to start taking heroin. After some prodding by other posters he said that he was in his 30s, with a good job and a relatively good life but he wasn't married and didn't have kids and he figured it was too late to have a family so he wanted to either kill himself or shut his mind off with drugs.
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shit man. that sounds a lot like my roommate... 34 now.. not married.. no kids.. used to be mormon.. he feels like his whole life was a waste.. he's never had a girlfriend.
 
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Lestat said:
shit man. that sounds a lot like my roommate... 34 now.. not married.. no kids.. used to be mormon.. he feels like his whole life was a waste.. he's never had a girlfriend.
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sounds like me in 10 years. Tell future me past me says 'Hi'
 
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Lestat


she goes on to say that she feels like she needs to be on her own.. to have some space.. to know what its like to date other people.. that she is young and feels like there is still stuff she needs to do...
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Just don't take it personally man. At least she was honest with you. She sounds like a stand up girl. Think about it, if she was like most guys, she could have kept you on the side and just did her thing behind your back. By breaking things off cleanly she did you a favor and a good turn.

Women are different than guys. She probably does need the time, and it could have been anyone, not just you.

I was pissed.. didn't want to get emtional then.. so I left... that left a lot unsaid so we've talked on the phone.. in person.. over email.. a lot since.. and I know what you'll say.. i need to stop... the constant reminders of her are not going to do me any good.
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I won't try to tell you what to do. At some point you will figure it out on your own that the best thing is a clean break for a while and to just move on. I broke up with my ex after a lot of years, and even when you are the one breaking it off, it still hurts like hell. I had to stop talking to her, and felt like a shit heal for doing so. But there was no other way to move on. The longer you stay in contact, the longer you will drag out the pain. It's hard to accept that it's over, but once you do then you can start healing. The other way is like constantly ripping out the stitches
 
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jubei said:
Go for some good rebound sex. Give it time bor, you'll be feeling better in no time. Occupy your time (and mind) with something positive. Like say, a nice tren and winny cycle to make you look like a cyborg.
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hell yeah - no chick? time to brew up a giant ass mess of tren!
 
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nordstrom said:
Was this the girl your friends set you up with who you had good chemistry with or was that someone else.

If it was a 21 month relationship, yeah the week after you break up you'll feel bad. Thats a given.
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hmm i don't think so.. I'm trying to think about the chicks I've posted about on here... there hasn't been too many.... I'll be the first to admit I've loved flirting with the EF hotties and talking about your girlfriend isn't the best way to get those nude pics.. especially when competing with people like Dial_Tone, WODIN, and BBF....

OHHHHHHHH the girl that a friend set me up with... that was my most serious relationship before this one.. my first love.. it started when I was 21.. she was 18... it lasted a year.. then we broke up for a year.. then we got back together for a year.... but with her... the breakup was tough.. but I knew the whole time that I wasn't ready to settle down... I knew she wasn't perfect for me.. I was just 21.. and she was the first really hot chick that I had dated for more then a week... she had other great qualities too.. good family, very sweet... but there was always something lacking there.. which is why even though she broke up with me.. I don't reget it. She was my first love though.. something to be said about that.

This girl was my second love (there has only been two!).. and only the second relationship that I would really say was worth anything...

All the others were like 1-4 months or so.. and I didn't love any of them... some good times... good memories.. but nothing satisfying or substantial.
 
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It doesn't sound like this is the kind of situation where you want to go for the rebound slut fuck I recommend really getting over her and hanging out with friends and family and hitting the gym.

Love is the bliss illusion that ideal and reality meet. From your posts you are still very much in love with her. Try and see her image in a realistic context, with all the shitty things she does and is included. That email message to start.
 
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superqt4u2nv said:
Sorry to hear about this hun if I could I would give you a big hug. Break ups are hard especially when you are the one getting dumped. Time is the best healer by far.
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You're such a sweetheart.
 
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Thanks guys.

True, I don't think a rebound slut fuck will do me any good.. I could get that in a second but it would just leave me feeling even more empty then before.

And you are right, I still feel as if I am in love... and I know that I need to let go, its just fucking hard to.. something you worked all this time on... we weren't in love right away.. we didn't even say it to each other until about a year into things... we're both realistic and we not looking to rush into anything,, make something out of nothing.. I thought that would prevent either of us from getting burned like this.
 
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Lestat said:
Thanks guys.

True, I don't think a rebound slut fuck will do me any good.. I could get that in a second but it would just leave me feeling even more empty then before.

And you are right, I still feel as if I am in love... and I know that I need to let go, its just fucking hard to.. something you worked all this time on... we weren't in love right away.. we didn't even say it to each other until about a year into things... we're both realistic and we not looking to rush into anything,, make something out of nothing.. I thought that would prevent either of us from getting burned like this.
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Dear God don't be one of those overly self obsessed wallying in your own selfshit people who think they're introspective and just need time to get on with their lives.


GO GET LAID!
 
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Wodin is expressing the opposite of my advice but I'll agree with him since he is older and overrules me by experience
 
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Robert Jan said:
Wodin is expressing the opposite of my advice but I'll agree with him since he is older and overrules me by experience
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I am as old or almost as old as WODIN and I disagree with him completely.
 
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Personally I don't understand how fucking a random slut now would help... He said she was great in bed. It will only make him realise this more.

Then again maybe one only feels the sex is so special, because that person is so special to you and you will realise the sex "itself" was not all that special.

Maybe you should get with a horny MILF who really knows what she's doing and it would just make you feel like this woman was just a girl
 
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come out to AZ to visit lestat.. and bring HI with you... I will throw you both in a pit and make you fight to the death... if you don't finish him off I will jump in there and pound the crap out of both of you....

either way you will forget all about this....
 
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One day your going to look back at this moment of your life and you're going to wonder why you felt such great pain.
 
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"Just sex" immediately after doesn't work for me either. The comparison between being with someone you loved, and someone you have no feelings for at all, is worse than not being with anyone at all. If anything it might make him want her back all the more. At least that's true for me.
 
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Lestat said:
I'm a fucking pussy.. i nearly cried reading that. Where'd my fuckin nuts go??
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Oh... they're in poyeboys mouth.
 
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Bullit said:
Oh... they're in poyeboys mouth.
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buuuuuuuurrrrrrrrnnnnnnnnnnn!
 
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Lestat said:
21 months
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And during that time you never pined for someone else?

You will recover as soon as you let you mind wander so that you heart may follow.
 
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velvett said:
And during that time you never pined for someone else?

You will recover as soon as you let you mind wander so that you heart may follow.
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well.. of course there have been pure physical desires... I see a hot girl or whatever.. or someone shows some interest.. that is exciting.. but I never once just had that urge that told me I needed to have something new... I always knew that I had something worth keeping and worth staying 100% faithful to.
 
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velvett said:
And during that time you never pined for someone else?

You will recover as soon as you let you mind wander so that you heart may follow.
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believe me.. I've been trying to let my mind do that.. to think about all the fun I can have now.. to think of the chicks I can get to know better that I previously could not... the new found freedoms I will have.. I'm trying to focus on that.. as oppose to say.. how lonely my bed is now... how it sucks not making dinner with her at night.. etc.
 
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Lestat said:
believe me.. I've been trying to let my mind do that.. to think about all the fun I can have now.. to think of the chicks I can get to know better that I previously could not... the new found freedoms I will have.. I'm trying to focus on that.. as oppose to say.. how lonely my bed is now... how it sucks not making dinner with her at night.. etc.
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I never said let your mind wander soley to other women.

Certainly your mind can handle greater and bigger things.

;)
 
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velvett said:
I never said let your mind wander soley to other women.

Certainly your mind can handle greater and bigger things.

;)
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gotcha.

Still tough to find things that don't constantly remind me of her.
 
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Lestat said:
gotcha.

Still tough to find things that don't constantly remind me of her.
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It will take time - a few months even - and it's going to SUCK but I promise it will be over one day.
 
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I never said let your mind wander soley to other women.

Certainly your mind can handle greater and bigger things.

;)
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Dude, she's so right!! Think threesomes or buttake
 
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Not to pick on you twice in or row, but you're the only one who posted, and I'm bored

It will take time - a few months even - and it's going to SUCK but I promise it will be over one day.
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Lestat, either you've just been promised the worlds longest bj, or she plans on killing you. Or killling you with a bj, in which case I'm not sure how to advise you.
 
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bro, i feel ya and been there a few times.........not with your ex, i mean in similar situations, lol.

You don't know what cards life will deal you, and in a month or a year or even longer, she may come back to you. But right now, you have to get on with things.......stay friends and see what develops but get on with your life in the meantime.

It takes a bigger man to face his demons and stay friends rather than say fuck her she's a slut and i never wanty to see her again.

I've known you a couple of years now on the boards and you have too much going for you not to bounce back quickly and get on with things.
 
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vinylgroover said:
bro, i feel ya and been there a few times.........not with your ex, i mean in similar situations, lol.

You don't know what cards life will deal you, and in a month or a year or even longer, she may come back to you. But right now, you have to get on with things.......stay friends and see what develops but get on with your life in the meantime.

It takes a bigger man to face his demons and stay friends rather than say fuck her she's a slut and i never wanty to see her again.

I've known you a couple of years now on the boards and you have too much going for you not to bounce back quickly and get on with things.
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This made me feel really good man, on that note I think I'm gonna get outta here (work) and try to get on with things.

One of my cousins who lives an hour away or so is driving down to meet me for dinner.. the second she heard about the breakup she said she was coming right away.. I've got pretty supportive friends and family when it comes to these things. I realize that is a true blessing.
 
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Lestat said:
here are a couple pics of her and I.. make me feel better by telling me how much better I can do... or not ;)

http://f1.pg.photos.yahoo.com/ph/dz_dre/detail?.dir=/b6e5&.dnm=ee0c.jpg

http://f1.pg.photos.yahoo.com/ph/dz_dre/detail?.dir=/372e&.dnm=c1ce.jpg

I look a little fat in that second one.. but believe me.. I'm 25lbs lighter now due largly to this crap.. its hard to eat when so emotional.
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I can't do that.


But I have to say you look really cute in those photos.

Great hair too.



eh, woman come and go (as do men) you have to take every romance and every devestating heart break as the way to love yourself and others more.
 
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velvett said:
I can't do that.


But I have to say you look really cute in those photos.

Great hair too.



eh, woman come and go (as do men) you have to take every romance and every devestating heart break as the way to love yourself and others more.
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thanks..
unfortunately the hair was cut last friday.. it is MUCH shorter now.. much much.. the long and curly hair just got to be too much for me.
 
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Lestat said:
thanks..
unfortunately the hair was cut last friday.. it is MUCH shorter now.. much much.. the long and curly hair just got to be too much for me.
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longer hair is always more troublesome
 
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Robert Jan said:
longer hair is always more troublesome
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yeah.. and now that summer is here its too hot as well...

when its long.. some people like it.. when its short.. others like it.. this way I can please everyone at least some of the time.
 
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Lestat said:
sorry man, married. That's one of my best friends too, so don't even think about it.
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Dude, do you want to feel better or not? If you're not even going to try and help yourself....:)
 
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nordstrom said:
Lestat said:
shit man. that sounds a lot like my roommate... 34 now.. not married.. no kids.. used to be mormon.. he feels like his whole life was a waste.. he's never had a girlfriend.
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sounds like me in 10 years. Tell future me past me says 'Hi'.
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Alas, I have finally found someone online more pessimistic then I, my search is over....;)
 
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[email protected] said:
I don't care what anyone says Lestat. Time DOES NOT heal all wounds. It only makes the pain more bearable.
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I sure hope the majority is right on this one.. and not you.
 
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Lestat said:
also, i've been amazed at the depth and articulate nature of your
emails. holy shit. you can write too!
_________
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dude.. are you kidding me? i didn't read through this whole thread.. don't feel like it.. but you're telling me she fucking ended the damn email with "you can write too!".. ???
 
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nugga said:
dude.. are you kidding me? i didn't read through this whole thread.. don't feel like it.. but you're telling me she fucking ended the damn email with "you can write too!".. ???
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yeah. i guess she thought a compliment would somehow make me feel a little better.
 
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Lestat said:
Talk about a shitty fucking feeling..... now I understand why that dude with the wife that left him for some other dude is all over the boards posting... you feel like you just need some release...

My ex.. who broke up with me Saturday night.. sent me this today via email when I asked how she was feeling about things, etc.

_______
Based on the the way i feel and how i was feeling towards the end, i
do feel that our time together is behind us now. I cant say anything
is for sure or forever, but that is what i feel and what my heart and
gut are telling me at this point. I dont like writing the answer to
this becuase it gives you the ability to read and re-read and maybe
reinterpret every word, but its too hard for me to keep having these
talks with you in person.

Maybe it doesn't matter to you, maybe it does, but i cherish you as a
person and that is something that i know will be true forever. if i
am lucky enough to be able to call you a friend i would feel truly
fortunate.

Brian, it kills me everytime i think of you hurting but i know you are
the strongest and best suited to deal with what comes your way and i
know 100% for sure that you will find happiness.

also, i've been amazed at the depth and articulate nature of your
emails. holy shit. you can write too!
_________
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Sorry man. Love is a dangerous game. You'll bounce back.
 
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Threads like this make me love you all.

Sometimes EF seems like a bunch of insensitive clods, it's nice to know that every now and then, we can be supportive of each other. :heart:
 
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Seashell said:
Threads like this make me love you all.

Sometimes EF seems like a bunch of insensitive clods, it's nice to know that every now and then, we can be supportive of each other. :heart:
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Shut up!

:)
 
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