Just my opinion but damn...1400mg or over a week is quite alot. Im not going to preach about you being 21 or whatever but if your going to do it try a lower dosage first. My first cycle was 500mg sust and did just fine.
I had the same problem when using the barbell bench. A buddy of mine told me to use DB to bench with and it took a lot of stress off my shoulders. Worked pretty well for me.
Sorry to here of your families situation, I have to agree with the "you can't help someone who doesn't want it." advice. But if you truly think the lives of those children are in danger then talk to your state DHS (Department of human services) or what ever child welfare dept. you have in your...