Have you been intimate with second gentleman? Or is this a crush?

CAPT. ~ THAT IS WHAT I AM WONDERING, I WAS SEPARATED FROM THE ONE FOR 3 MONTHS AND ALL I DID WAS THINK ABOUT HIM, WHILE I WAS WITH THE 2ND GUY. WELL, I WENT BACK TO THE OLD ONE AND NOW THE 2ND GUY IS PLEDING HIS LOVE TO ME, AND IT IS HURTING ME, TO SEE HIM HURT LIKE THIS, I THINK IF HE (2ND ONE) JUST MOVED ON, AND LEFT ME ALONE I MIGHT BE FINE WITH NUMBER ONE GUY, WHO THE HELL KNOWS THOUGH, I AM RAMBLING HERE, GOOD GOD!
I HAVE NEVER IN MY LIFE BEEN SO FREAKING CONFUSED, I REALLY HATE "LOVE"!!!

I NEVER HAD TO DEAL WITH THIS BS BEFORE SO WHY NOW???? HMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM???????

Is this why you were praying for GOD's advice for a few weeks ago...

What did you do with that pile of women?

i think its ok to question things, you have to. if you just blew one off without question then you may regret making such a fast swift decision without giving it proper contemplation.

my question for you is this... wanna hook up sometime? haha, kidding... actually its this...didnt you come on the board a few months back and say how great this guy was, and then like 3 days later say you didnt even know him? that was you if i recall... he bought flowers and was super man and then just a few days later you were done...

I dated a guy for 4.5 years...we were best friends, liked doing all the same stuff together, had common interest, sex was ok, but nothing earth shattering....marriage and crap never came up becuase we had the philosophy of "our day in the sun will last as long as its meant to and not a moment longer"....to make a long story shorter, my dad died, my mom had to sell the business, I was out of a job since I worked for my parents, and mom kicked me out of the house becuase she was selling it....needless to say I was pretty fucked up...the BF turned into this remote guy who didnt seem to care about this stuff. (We moved intogether)
Anyway, about a year after this mess, I was playing a gig (at the time I was solo with my acoustic) and an acqaintance of mine says a guys he knows needed a singer.....by this time, even though we lived together, me and the BF were strangers....we didnt really fight, just were both wrapped up in our own crap....going downhill at a good clip.

so, I audition, and me and the guitar player hit it off. He seemed to listen, blah blah, and next to my remote BF seemed like the bomb....I repeat, I DID NOT screw around, but I sure wanted to.
So, I did some soul searching and figured that if I wanted to bang someone else, then I wasnt meant to be with the person I wanted to screw around on. So, I stopped beating the dead horse, and the relationship was over....

I dont regret the end of the relationship because now, 5 years later we are both happy with other people and are best buddies again, which is the way it shouldve never gotten past....now we advise each other on our relationships...its cool.
The other guy wound up being a first class loser...I always felt I deserved it for dumping my buddy, but theres no point in staying with someone if you dont want to be faithful.

Rent the movie The Bridges of Madison County and you will see the scenario of such possible little triangles.

Or perhaps you just need to cut the attention you are obviously enjoying from guy #2 and send him on his way, that would be best for him. Let him find someoneelse that can accept his affections.

Iron God, NO WAY would I ever pray to God about something pety like MEN! So you are wrong! Face it , YOu will never figure me out! Which is a good thing. Be glad that FC is nothing like me.

MB, Actually, the one reason I doubt the relationship between me and this guy is because he has a child, and I never want CHILDREN, ever! And we have done many things with his child, but I have felt inside me, that that just isnt me, I can't help being selfish on feeling this way. I have been like this for too many years. But everything else about the "superman" is perfect! So why did I make him move out?

Kat, Thanks for your story,gave me something to think about.
Havoc, I am very close to smoking with ya!

And, no the 2nd guy has ever gave me any reason to doubt his feelings for me, he said same as the first guy, " i am everything and more he looked and wanted in a woman, to live his life with" I thik whoever said that " I might be in love with one of the 2 guys may be right, and I am just scared of really falling so I am pushing the 2nd guy, the one i want to be with away.

There is nothing like being married(or with) to the right person. There is nothing better than a familiar touch when you need it.

The trade-off is the loss of those electric moments when you come across someone new who peaks your interest.

Let's be honest, a compliment from your sig. other usually does not blow up the ego like the same compliment from someone who is flirting with you.

That is the deal - Familiarity vs. Curiousity

There is no contest. Familiarity all the way.

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Every morning in Africa, a gazelle wakes up. It realizes that it must run faster than the fastest lion or it will be killed.
Every morning in Africa, a lion wakes up. It realizes that it must run faster than the slowest gazelle, or it will starve to death.

The moral?

For you Dlady, choose what your heart says, who truly makes you happy out love and really look at their heart and soul. Do not be superficial. Look at why a person does something and not what he does. Be careful of you hurt too, dragging this on can really destroy the person you do not choose. Anyways enough said, I am just babaling here.
Mad

YOU DO NOT WANT A CHILD, EVER!!! HE HAS ONE..

Let me just ask you girl, does one of these guys give you a feeling inside that the other doesn't....do you feel something when he touches you and looks in your eyes? I know this shiat sounds gay...and i am the LASt person who would normally be talking smack like this...but what do they make you feel like, how do they make you feel about yourself? Havoc may be right....neither of them may be right for you....like i think Kat said, if you are thinking about being with someone else then the person you are with, must not be meant for you?

Good luck girl whatever you decide...