A 14 month old kid! Jesus fucking christ i wouldnt wish this shit on my worst enemy. All the things i figured would suck about it are 10x as bad as i could have ever dreamed of. Nothing good about it. NOTHING, NOTHING, NOTHING. I AM SLEEPING IN THE FUCKING LIVING ROOM JUST TO TRY AND GET SOME FUCKING SLEEP WITHOUT HEARING A SCREAMING KID AT 2 IN THE MORNING. See you MOFOs when I get out of the padded room i am heading for.

THANKS FOR THE E-MAIL.

So much respect on my part - now look you pain in the ass. I'm 32 and I talk weekly with my wife about it. You don't wanta be me and not able to find a place in your life for one.
I'll borrow yours anytime - I feel 5 years younger after about 4 hours with a 3 year old. What a great way they look at the world.

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Every morning in Africa, a gazelle wakes up. It realizes that it must run faster than the fastest lion or it will be killed.
Every morning in Africa, a lion wakes up. It realizes that it must run faster than the slowest gazelle, or it will starve to death.

The moral?

peace moe

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"pain is something the average person spends a lifetime trying to avoid"
"pain is something that we elite seek out and thrive on"

"modus operandi"

I am not ready to be a dad, and I sure as hell know you aren't so think about where you want to be in the next year or so.

however, if I had a biological child of my own, I would love him or her to death, I think you would have different feelings if the child is biologically yours, and also, its obvious you are not attached to it because you haven't raised it for that long. Just think about what you want to do about the situation. This girl has put a huge burden on you, you can make the choices in your own life.

peace.

Parenting is harder than any of us could've EVER DREAMED and whether the child is your natural child or not, is irrelevant. I can not begin to imagine how I might feel about any one of my daughters when they have hurt me in ways that I could've NEVER FATHOMED if they were not my own flesh and blood! The difference between you guys and me is that I CAN NEVER WALK AWAY. If I fail my children as a parent, then why should I continue to draw breath? They did not ask to be born. I BROUGH THEM HERE OF MY OWN FREE WILL.

On a nearly daily basis they bring me to my knees and remind me of just how small and insignificant an adult, I truly am. I often feel that I am a substandard mother and they deserve so much more than I can give. That they deserve someone more patient, more knowledgeable, someone w/better solutions to life's problems, etc......yet at the end of the day when I am in tears, begging for their forgiveness for my frailties and short-comings they forgive me, comfort me, and love me just the same........ UNCONDITIONAL LOVE - VALUABLE LESSON AND PRECIOUS GIFT INDEED. I only pray that I will be able to rise to the occasion as they grow into adults to furnish them the same. How odd that they have schooled me SO MUCH MORE than I them?

Think about it. I know it is a lot, but try and put yourself IN THERE shoes. Perhaps their behaviour might seem more understandable if you look at your situation through their eyes. It is hard for them at this age. They want to do more than their body's are capable of allowing them (fine motor skills, language, etc) and this is very frustrating for them. Also, the fear of loss must be great indeed! Children NEED stability. They must find the "grownup situations" around them incredibly confusing. They will need EXTRA kindness and patience from those primary adult role models that they are surrounded by. I know this is easier said than done. But remember, every adult was once a child.

And I know this is going to sound REALLY hokey, but have you all considered parenting workshops?

Don't lose faith....I feel for you both.

Also, I happen to agree that kids suck, but then I'm not having any, and I choose not to be around any.

Mine is now 10 years old and she is a daddy's girl for sure. That first year was hell and but I would not trade it for anything. When she looks up with those little blue eyes and needs something or just says "Dad" I love you .....everything just melts away.

I do understand what you are going through, try to hang tough if you really love them.

And for those whose children went to sleep every night and have never experienced it let me tell you it can make you one cranky SOB. Find a little me time and get away if just for a jog or anything.

good luck

ralphe

I don't believe for a minute that there is a more important role in this world.
All you gotta hear is "Uncle Phil Rules" one time and your changed forever.
I'm scared for the first time in my life that I'll never have any. Its not a big deal but I have always thought I would make a good father. I have always know that my wife didn't want any so it not a big deal. I just want all of you that have them and want them to really understand the gift. I am jealous of what you have.

It gets better, and in spite of your tone, I'm pretty sure you're good to the kid and this is just your place to blow off steam.

You really can't blame the kid for crying -he's gotta be confused with the constant moving and different people going in and out of his life.

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"I'm just a Prisoner--in a Kings disguise"

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"GET HUGE AND DROP BOMBS"