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Amateur Bodybuilder 
Posts: 115 |
I met this girl about a month ago on the internet. I was thinking maybe a couple of dates and some sex and that would be it, so when her overweight body came strolling into the restaurant, I didn't just walk out or anything. I mean, I am a guy, and well, you know... Well, turns out that we have lots in common, and we have a great time together, and she is trying to get in shape. I mean she is really trying. I told her the other day that I couldn't choose her for my mate because she was overweight. She was really pissed but I had to tell her the truth. I work so hard on myself and physical appearance is one of my values and I am just not attracted to her body. She is working out for herself, lifting weights three times a week, doing cardio, changing her diet, and taking yoga classes. I didn't have to help her with anything. She already looks more healthy. She thinks of little nice things to do for me and it is really touching. I like her but I am embarassed as shit to date an overweight woman. I don't know what to do here. I just can't seem to suck it up. It could take her years to get in shape. This is a real dilemma for me.    | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder 
Posts: 394 |
You shouldn't be embarrassed. Thats something with you you need to deal with. I can understand the lack of attraction problem...you need to have physical attration...I don't care how nice a person is or how well you get along...there has got to be something...however I do think a person becomes more attractive in your head with those qualities and the more you get to know them.....  There is no shame in your game | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder 
Posts: 682 |
How much overweight are we talking here? 20, 30, 50 lbs? Do the elephants throw peanuts at her when she goes to the zoo? | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder
Posts: 416 |
no, man, don't do it!!!!!!!!!! really, NEVER date someone who you are not totally attracted to. they might have the "potential" to change, but you might be disappointed. it would also be very frustrating for her. just find someone else. here's an example of something that happened to me. i have a very strong fixation on blondes, i mean, i am totally obsessed with girls with long, blonde hair. my last girlfriend was not blonde but i dated her anyway because i really liked her. well, i ended up really hurting her self esteem because she knew she wasn't what i was really attracted to. she also started working out and quit smoking, but always resented the fact that i wanted her to change so much. i will never go into a relationship again expecting to change the person. i want to find someone who i think is perfect the way they are, and you should too. | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 139 |
Hang on to her miles, Once she loses all that weight she will bang your brains out!  | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 115 |
She says her current program will loose 5 pounds a month, and in a year she would be down to 20% body fat. So that makes her, lets see, more than 60 pounds overweight. I think that qualifies for peanuts at the zoo. She is so weak she can't even do 1 girl type push up. What I want to do is tie her ass to a cardio bike and give her an IV drip of T3 and clen. | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder
Posts: 360 |
Life is too short to date fat women. Move on there is only another billion+ chicks in the world. If you never meet another (doubt it) fate could bring you two back together. What the hell are you doing meeting hogs on the net. Do you really think hotties need to advertise to get a man? | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 115 |
O god. I am stuck in an office building all day long and some weekends, and between all of the training and the yoga that I do, I hardly ever get to go out. And when I do get some time off I am usually exhausted and need to sleep. So my options are severly limited and what I can do on my computer is an advantage. I think you are right. Life is too short. It's going to really hurt her. | ||
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Guru 
Posts: 2780 |
You guys are scaring me. Hey, 10 or 20 pounds is one thing but 60 good god she must way as much as me. If you are not attracted to her get out, it won't be fair to either of you. chesty | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 246 |
lol that was funny mp5. yeah seriously don't waste your time. if you're not completely attracted to her you're just gonna lead her on if you don't cut it off. are you willing to date this girl for a year until it finally pays off? fuck that...you don't need to waste your time. get something you're happy with right now and hit that shit. ------------------ | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 230 |
fat girls are like mopeds..fun to ride until your friends see you ------------------ knowledge = power | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 62 |
LOL at dynoalbino ------------------ | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 52 |
ONE THING DNP!! SERIOUSLY... MAN, LOOK AT MARLA DUNCAN. I WOULD INVEST IN THIS CHICK... A LITTLE DNP...WELL... AT LEAT CLEN, THEN MAYBE A LITTLE DECA TO BUILD SOME MUSCLE TO HELP BURN THE FAT... IF YOU LIKE HERE... AND THINK SHE IS PRETTY...AT LEAST HER FACE... INVEST.. JUST DO NOT PUSH TOO HARD...OR SHE WILL LEAVE YOU AFTER SHE LOOKS GOOD. ------------------ | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 232 |
Miles, Make her your project. Sort of like Bob Villa fixing up old houses. You can mold her into the type of woman that you want. She obviously must be attractive (minus all the fat) for you to even ask this question. Good Luck. ------------------ | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder
Posts: 334 |
Unless you think she's got the potential to be very attractive and/or you REALLY like her.....just tell her to start running and don't come back till you're skinny! |
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