posted June 28, 2000 11:08 AM         

Now, if after that you conclude that she does not have a boyfriend and she is still saying no to you, then she doesn't want to upset you by giving you the heisman. Woman fucking do that shit! They just can't come clean and say: "no, I am not interested...you're not good looking enough and aren't rich". So if she does have a man, you're screwed and if she doensn't have a man your screwed because she then isn't interested. Maybe she can't decide but even that sucks 'cause I wouldn't want to be with a woman who didn't know whether or not she's interested. When I first asked my girl out she said no (after blushing and doing everything to avoid the question) because of her man, but she would always avoid his name in conversations with me so I knew I had a chance. ...and the rest is history.

ps. I am not a home wrecker...but she was too DAMN hot not to hit on.

posted June 28, 2000 12:11 PM         

1) "NO" really means "maybe, you just have not given me a good enough reason yet"

2) "MAYBE" or "I WILL THINK ABOUT IT" means "no"

However I have seen a "deal closed" after a no or a maybe, but you have to find out what is making them hesitate and overcome that objection.

If you do not really know if she has a boyfriend and you are not in a bar, you may be rushing her. Obviously you do not know even the basics about her. Adults have often had a few bad experiences and sometimes people are cautious. She may feel she does not know each other well enough. The best way to control sales and dates is to ASK ALOT OF QUESTIONS - most sales people and guys trying to scam a girl TALK TOO MUCH. Information is ammo plain and simple. If you do not even know if there is a guy in the scene you do not have enough ammo to impress her for anything long term. If you are just looking to get laid forget info - it is like looking for a quick sale - and the key to that is #1 numbers (having another prospect if someone says no) #2 asking for the sale right off the bat and then ask alot of people (see #1) until you get a yes. But if you are looking for a girlfriend (more than just a one time thing) , get some info. Without it you are eventually going to self destruct. Imagine not knowing she hates Italian food and you take her to an Italian restaurant on the first date.....

If you talk to a girl about yourself, she will think you are boring. Talk about her and she will think you are THE MOST wonderful person to have a conversation with. Girls (and anyone) love to talk about themselves...PERIOD. At work ask her some questions about herself. Ask at non threatening times when everything is relaxed - not when she is in a hurry or preoccupied. It may be that she has already decided your not her type... but maybe not. Listen alot more then you talk is a good way to close any sale. people will often talk themselves into BIG things.