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aceguy Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 179) |
posted April 22, 2000 12:23 AM
 
ok guys i know i am going to sound like a bitch but i have to get this off my chest. theres this girl in my life who i love more than anything in the world. we were together for only six months, but that six months felt like a lifetime, i really did fall in love and love her till this day. ok i am 19 years old and most of you guys and gals might laugh at me for not trying to score as many chicks as possible at my age especially, its just , i dont know why i only want her, i need her. we broke up over a year ago, but have remained freinds, we have had our fights of course bc i care for her so much. i did eveything for her. i became so tight with her family to, i have lost so much. now she is seeing this other guy, oh shit does that piss me fuckin off!!!!, i dont think my cycle is helping either, im raging as we speak. i just talked to her, she told me they hung out,sick thoughts ran through my head and i put a whole in my mirror and a nice gash on my hand. i mean all i try to do is impress her so maybe one day she will come back, thats y my freinds say im on roids to impress her, to tell you the truth maybe i am. i know she still cares bc she tells me she does, then why arent we together. she still in high school, i know that whole deal gottaq be popular and shit so ill go out with mr baseball, he actually sucks she says so herself. anyway after all i have done it really seems i have accomplished nothing, im nothing to her, im dead in her eyes. i used to get her a rose every time i saw her damn!! and a teddy bear, shit what was i thinking??, is there anything i can do, im at my witts end, im cracking up!!! i need her even if we are young i love her. sorry for all the sappy shit but i needed to talk to someone, why not my bros and gals huh, once again sorry for my rambbling and any suggestions would be apprciated!!! IP: Logged |
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Chris0096 Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 13) |
posted April 22, 2000 01:32 AM
I've been in your situation before. The best thing you can do is get a hot girl and have sex with her. I doesn't even really matter if you like the girl, just have sex with her. You'll spend less time thinking about your ex and more time on other women, that a good thing and the first step to recovery. I will give you more confidence, help you realize that there are many women out there, plus it will make your ex jealous. Don't question it, Just DO IT! Trust me I've been there many times. IP: Logged |
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Capt'n_Crunch Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 141) |
posted April 22, 2000 09:03 AM
Hey bro no need to be sorry, we are like a family here and we should always help each other out...I know what its like bro I have been there..I cant write about everything, otherwise I would have a book. I was in a pretty similiar position my senior year of high school...I dont know what to tell you other than try to get over it. dont think about her, try to keep yourself busy and hang out with your friends ALOT (do things that you love to do and make you happy). I know its hard, it feels like someone ripped out your heart, diced it up with a knife and threw it in a blender... I spent my entire senior year kinda on and off with his girl and I loved her more than life. She was what life was all about to me. The point is bro, dont live your life for someone else, sometimes things are just not meant to be no matter how bad you want them and fight for them, live for yourself and dont do like my dumbass did and waste a part of your life being angry, hurt, lonely .... life is short you should enjoy it and make the most out of it no matter how old you are Im Sorry if I was kinda ranting on, but I want you to understand my point rather then just my story..take care of yourself bro and let it go IP: Logged |
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cm3504jm Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 18) |
posted April 22, 2000 10:59 AM
Take it from me, I'm 40. Ive seen a lot of things in my life and can remember every day when I was 19. It is totally natural to have your feelings, but let them turn to something else than injuring yourself. Use the hurt to motivate your lifting. In the end, all that really matters to you is you. Women will come and go, but you are stuck with yourself forever-do the things that benefit yourself. Practice patience. I met an old girlfriend at a party last week. Was a real good looking lady. She used and abused my generosity big time. Know what? She now weighs about 250 lbs! Ugly looking thing :-( Living life well is the best revenge(And it also is kinda nice for yourself too). IP: Logged |
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BiffBoom Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 220) |
posted April 22, 2000 11:17 AM
Here's one for you..I'm almost 28 now..but I had this girlfriend in college that I still think about all the time. We broke up almost 6 years ago because she cheated on me and got pregnant..and I couldn't deal with all the crap(her lies). The point being..part of me really misses what could of been. The other part of me finally grew up and realized that I was better off. Don't hurt yourself by punching crap...although I do enjoy punching my Sensei once and a while. This is how you "get even" if you must....Become a better person..do well in school..make lots of money...find yourself some true friends who will stick with you for life. If she's with a jerk...it will only make her regret what she could of had. If you look like a jerk..it will only make her feel better about braking up. I was fooling around with my laptop in January when I found her homepage. She and her husband just had a baby in January. Seeing the picture really hurt me...but here's the good thing....She lives with an abusive husband..who was too fucking stupid to pass his Highway Patrol exams..who now lives in a small house..and she is still a dysfunctional whore who has a very ugly past. And I lucked out by finding a better girl. Use that anger to lift more weight!!! [This message has been edited by BiffBoom (edited April 22, 2000).] IP: Logged |
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kosfer Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 163) |
posted April 22, 2000 11:39 AM
I agree that the best thing to do is start seing someone else. It has worked perfect for me. Now another thing you could do is ignore her. Think about it. Right now she knows she can have you ANY TIME she wants. Big mistake! Let her realise that its over for you ( although its going to be far from the truth ) and you're over her completely. I'm not saying cut loose just play it off cool. Start telling her how crazy you are about this other girl and how your life has changed. Don't expect to fall for it right away but in time it will get her. Women are very insecure and that's going to be strike one. Other strikes will follow and guess to whom she is going to run to when things go shity..... IP: Logged |
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Christy Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 40) |
posted April 22, 2000 11:56 AM
I have to agree with Kosfer! I bet you're still calling her, right? ...probably talk to her everyday. Even if you don't want to date anyone else right now you have to start going out with you friends and keep yourself busy...most of all stop calling her. Being with your friends will help keep your mind occupied and off of her. It's true....if she knows that you are miserable with out her and sitting home every night she knows she will always be able to get you back at the drop of a hat. When she sees you're enjoying yourself and meeting knew people she may second guess her decision. If it was meant to be it will be, she's still young and at that stage where she wants to see whats out there. I'm almost twenty eight now but a few years back my boyfriend broke up with me and I kept calling him and telling him how much I missed him and he would blow me off. I finally decided to move on and went out with my friends all the time and started to have fun again. When the my phone calls stopped, I noticed his phone # on my caller ID at all hours of the night...a week later we were back together!
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Cleaner Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 104) |
posted April 22, 2000 12:09 PM
First off man I feel for you because I have been lucky enough to share my life with my high school sweet heart. I can say I got around enough before we hooked up that doesn't bother me. Ok, first shit that sucks, is she still in school and your not - correct? Summer is almost here and alot of shit will change then. When she breaks the ties to school, things will be very different. I would have to say if this is the girl for you and you know it. You gotta to get up and go for it. Second chance in life are rare. I would also say that you two should be going off to college and that is going to mess thing up. My wife and I both took a year off and stayed at home and got an apartment. From there we went to local colleges so as we would stay together. If you let here go off to college say goodbye and we both know it. You are one of those points in life where change will create life changes. I will say this - there is someone out there just for you. I do believe in soulmates. The other thing I would say is that thing don't happen to you they happen for you. You need to sit down and figure out how important this is for you and what you are will to do for it. Only then can you deal with it. Don't let here jerk around your life and your other goals. IE - something has lead you to AS and it wasn't her! Set up your firewalls and go after it or cut the shit out totally. Its not fair to yourself to go back and deal with your emotion every time you see her. If you can not readly turn her back to you , then move on. Alot of fish in the sea. IP: Logged |
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studcj Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 733) |
posted April 22, 2000 06:34 PM
Shit, I know what ya mean. I just acted like I didn't give a shit about her anymore, and now I actually don't give a shit about her anymore. She is with her little fag boyfriend, and I am gettin alot of honeys that are 1000000x's better looking than she is. Time will heal it. Just start to detach yourself little by little. ------------------ IP: Logged |
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BIG RICK ROCK Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 223) |
posted April 22, 2000 10:48 PM
HEY ACEGUY YOU'VE GOT MAIL DUDE. HEY I'VE BEEN THERE BEFORE I'M HERE FOR YOU BRO! IP: Logged |
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bigsexy Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 105) |
posted April 24, 2000 02:08 AM
go to college, become a doctor, then drive by her trailer in your new bmw laughing your ass off seriously, i have been in your situation more than once, and my best advice is put all of your energy into bettering yourself both mentally and physically and get your confidence skyrocketing, because good confident girls are attracted to guys that are confident in themselves, give yourself a few months and you will be laughing at all of this (trust me on this one bro) IP: Logged |
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Joseph_stalin Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 581) |
posted April 24, 2000 05:43 AM
itll take a few years until you get the ability to see this in perspective. After you get out of college and have more control over your life & choices you might see things different. but that will be years from now. i would go to a town you have never been to before and try to meet someone there. doesn't have to be a love interest, just someone to talk too. do that a few times preferably with different towns and that should help a little. maybe IP: Logged |
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300 kleen Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 444) |
posted April 27, 2000 08:33 PM
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bozak Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 36) |
posted April 27, 2000 08:52 PM
Listen man. There is only one thing to do. Realize that it is over...for now. That means move on with your life. It is hard to do. She is attempting to move on with hers and that is why she is going out with other guys. She is also having her cake and eating it to by still talking to you. When you fight outside of a relationship its like you never got out of it to begin with. Start going out and make yourself happy. Don't worry about telling her or making sure she sees you. Trust me she will know. Make yourself the center of your life again, NOT someone you broke up with a year ago. Sorry this shit is so long, but I went through this over a year ago with a girl I was with for 7 years. I let her go and check out the other chumps for a while, and I played when I felt like it. Guess who I am with today, and guess who did all of the apologizing. NOT ME, BABY!! Laughter is the best medicine. If you rage, don't destroy shit, go running or something productive. Don't lift cause you'll pull something. IP: Logged |
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Neiko Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 59) |
posted April 28, 2000 01:52 PM
Look at it this way your young and so is she move on. Remember the movie the Bronx Tale, There was a guy in there that said you are aloud 3 great women in your life so maybe she is the first, you still have 2 more. Anyway what I'm trying to say is women are like busses their is another one every 20 minutes. You'll get through it Its just one of those many poingiant moments in your life that make you a better man!!!!! IP: Logged |
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big_bad_buff Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 367) |
posted April 28, 2000 03:59 PM
man that sucks. that sounds like one of my friend, he got played alot because he spent all his money on women, bought them somthing everytime they saw eachother. ( you can't do that all the time ) just be cool about it. i'v been going through some shit with my GF. belive me i wouldn't cheat on my gf, but the problems we have always start from her, so i just don't care anymore. you'll get over it bro, just keep your head up. IP: Logged |
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