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Amateur Bodybuilder 
Posts: 262 |
Im on the puter and I get an IM from my father in law , which is not uncommom..so he's asking me ?'s and all..then he tells me that his wife (my mother inlaw) is extremely jealous of me and that she gets mad when he talks to me...Im am shocked at that!!! So I tell him well, I cant understand being that he is 35 yrs older than me and blah, blah, blah... Well he said something and I put "fuck you" and then i put "just kidding" and he replies "stop kidding"....OH MY GOD..what in the hell did that mean????? Then he tells me how I always shock him with how pretty I am and on and on....Im dying over here!!!! Had to tell someone....My hubby would die ( this is his step dad, not real dad!!!!) What do yall think????     | ||
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Freak 
Posts: 1967 |
ohhhhh noooo. wow, thats a toughy. im sure your hubby would flip if he knew that. i know i would. well telling your husband would be the right thing to do. i think. if you kept it a secret it can haunt you later, or just plain bother you from then on. at least if your husband confronts him, you will get an apology or you wont see the guy again. wow, thats a tough situation. sorry to see you in it. ps..on the lighter side..when i first started reading this post, i didnt pay attention to who wrote it, and assumed this was a guy. it wasnt until i got to the word husband that i wasnt in creepyville. good luck ------------------ | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder 
Posts: 564 |
speaking for most of the guys on the board; we need to see some pics of you first before we can help out. | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 101 |
I think hes a perv! ........ and she wont show yall pics cuz she has a very jealous husband!....... i know this cuz thats my sis!  | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 175 |
The guy has issues, you know what the right thing to do is. Don't reply to him and only have contact when your husband is present. Don't tell your husband either, it will only cause harm to an already strained relationship. | ||
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Guru 
Posts: 2715 |
Ya'll getting freaky down there in bayou country! LMAO!!! That's too fucked up, tell him to keep his wethered, dried up old saggy ass dick to himself. ------------------ | ||
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Guru
Posts: 2597 |
you need to stop IMing with him  | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 262 |
I dont think you need pictures to tell me whether or not my father in law is a perv...Maybe I took it the wrong way?? My husband would KILL him!! They have had a very rocky relationship and I dont want to cause any problems in the family...This is just too damn wierd!! | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder 
Posts: 1461 |
ok, 1st off hes jaked in the head. 2, try to handle this yourself. maybe you should distance yourself from him, avoid these little conversations or at least avoid them go'n where they when yall were on IM. You know how to do that, all women do. Remember, it takes two. He'll know by your responses, body language, etc., etc. that you dont want him to play with you like that. | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
Posts: 1461 |
ok, 1st off hes jaked in the head. 2, try to handle this yourself. maybe you should distance yourself from him, avoid these little conversations or at least avoid them go'n where they when yall were on IM. You know how to do that, all women do. Remember, it takes two. He'll know by your responses, body language, etc., etc. that you dont want him to play with you like that. If that dont work, tell your hubby. Unless your dig'n the attention, then your jaked in the head. | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 88 |
I believe you father-in-law has crossed the lines of common decency. I am sorry, but that kind of crap is just not right. Where in the hell was this guy brought up? A little common sense would indciate that one should not act in such a manner. If I were you, I would choose a time when the two of you can talk in confidence and let him know exactly how his actions make you feel. Unless you let him know of your disapproval, he may continue to act in a such manner feeling that his comments are well received. Just my 2 cents. ------------------ | ||
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Guru
Posts: 2597 |
just stop talking (iming) him...if he asks why you won't tlk to him...tell him you don't want his wife upset like that, or you've been busy....do "the blow off" | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
Posts: 739 |
big question is would he act on it? if so then he is dicking over the hubby's mom... the hubby, and the entire family. now, i am sorry about this part luv2workout, but.... ARE YOU NAIVE? i mean, it has to be somewhat obvious when he talks to you that he has a "crush" or the mom wouldnt think anything of it. do you get along with the mom? my friends girlfriend, the mother of his baby, did this to me... very bad situation, i said how i wasnt interested and maybe said 5 words to her since | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
Posts: 1149 |
I would reccomend cutting off the email relationship with no explanation...just cut. To go further is to invite trouble. | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder
Posts: 308 |
I wouldn't tell your husband first. I would first be very forceful and blunt with your father in law. Tell him this is ABSOLUTELY not going to happen, that the thought disgusts you and that it is highly inappropriate that he talk to you that way. Remind him that you are family and tell him that he must NEVER again speak to you in this manner and that if he does, you will tell his wife and your husband. Then if he does it again follow up and deliver on your threat. ------------------ | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 153 |
I think you're reading WAY too much into this. We've all typed things fast, and they didn't come out the other side the way we meant. | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 262 |
Well to be quite honest, my hubby's joked around saying "I think R#$G has a crush on you" but in my mind, I'm always like "Im so sure--he's 30something years older than me and I WOULD NEVER ever give him the time of day(in that way)... Many years ago my mother-in-law told me that her husband always thought I was so pretty, but I just took it as a compliment I have been feeling a little bit of "wierdness" lately when Im around them and my relationship w/my m-i-l has definately changed..but I knew that I had not done anything to cause it ( I never thought that this was the reason) He recently bought a computer and I have been the one to help him w/all of his questions and so on..He's been calling me everyday w/some type of computer problem(never thought twice about it - Im a total Idiot!) I always try to see the good in people I guess, and It always gets me in trouble!! | ||
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Guru
Posts: 2597 |
Trying to see the good in people is not what gets you in trouble...its when you see the bad, and don't change your actions....thats when you get in trouble... | ||
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Moderator
Posts: 2504 |
HOLY FLURGING SHNIT! Now I have seen Luv's pics and if I wasn't married I doink her m'self! Having said that, That is too wierd! I am all about kidding around and having a good time. Anyone who knows me even a little knows this ,HOWEVER, even though I am a bit more laxed than the average uptight puritan who hasn't EVER had sex with the exception of THAT ONE TIME on her wedding nite and even then IT WAS THROUGH A SHEET - there is still a modicum of decorum that I DEMAND BE UPHELD! PERIOD! Whenever, the other party gets a little carried away, or the joke goes too far I simply straighten them out by saying, "HEY! wife and mother of four here!".....and that is usually enough to send them the message that they have crossed a line. But one would think that your own father-in-law whether blood related (to your hubby) or not would KNOW how far a joke should go. I am not saying that he WOULD ACT improperly given the oportunity - HOWEVER - WOULD YOU REALLY WANT TO FIND OUT? I say, cut the IM chats (no need to piss mother-in-law off any further) and if you feel the need to discuss it further with him, I'm sure the opportunity will present itself, just let him know in no uncertain terms that though you like to kid his comments made you very uncomfortable NEVERMIND how this is upsetting your mother-in-law....HIS WIFE.....and how this WOULD GREATLY affect YOUR MARRIAGE because I think YOUR husband might even be MORE UPSET than his mother. It's just not right, no matter how you slice it. Honestly, I would think about how I would broche the topic w/hubby. It isn't right to omit this "minor" detail, but he also has to realize that you didn't ASK for it, either.....good luck. The price you pay for being bright, funny AND AMAZINGLY ATTRACTIVE! ------------------ | ||
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Freak
Posts: 1742 |
Now would be a good time to start practicing for a career in blackmail. | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
Posts: 738 |
Well, email him back explaining that if he meant "stop kidding" as in dont use that language in email, then its probably ok, then explain that if he meant it as in "stop kidding I really want to fuck", then youve got a problem and probably need to stop associating with him whenever possible without your husband around. ------------------ | ||
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Guru
Posts: 2597 |
ah...I wouldn't do what superdave suggests...cause if you wrong you will feel very akward ...and if your right its even worse......so just stop interacting with him....it will only be slightly akward, but it will be done | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 212 |
Save all the emails he is writing you for one---Dont go down the road of talking about his wife in any way---Dont talk to him anymore and if he asks why then just tell him that he made you uncomfortable. SAVE HIS EMAILS----He is fucked but you have the responsibility not him----of taking care of this! Dont worry about his feelings ---Fuck him---Blow him off and if he keeps up with it then tell your husband---But not until you made the effort of stopping this.(or you will be dealing with the questions of leading him on and all the bullshit that follows)I know you will say I am not leading him on but if he feels comfortible enough to tell you these things then lines have already been crossed---Look at your actions and then take care of his---- |
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