newgirl-chargeback
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Flexygrl -- I totally agree with EVERTYTHING SPATTS has said. (except one thing - -I never trained BEFORE having my son however was always conscious of how I looked).
It does change things if YOU allow it to be the only thing in your life. Too many people define themselves by either WHAT they do to earn a living or define themselves SOLELY by being a parent. If you believe that you are more dimensional than that, you shall be. As Spatts said, it is all about attitude.
As for money, vacations, etc.....as with any big commitment or decision, if you so want it, it does all work out if you do the work or necessary planning to make it work. You CAN have it all...work, baby, relationship and SELF. Working is tough -- and if you don't want to work and be a mom that is fine -- if you are concerned HOW you will manage maintaining work -- it really becomes all about a schedule and discipline (just like training).
I used to want TONS of children. I have my son, got divorced and then luckily met the man of my dreams and my partner for life. Should be fortunate enough to become a mother again, then great.....seeing that smile you talked about from the men as they look at their children is extremely heartwarming...and being mother while hard work is absoluately incredible.
I feel like I am a better mother having to juggle it all. My son learns alot of instrinsic life lessons from our need and desire to have it all. And, the time I do spend with him is much more quality time than I could have imagined. I am much more focused on him than I think I would be if I was home all the time.
Good luck to you......and your husband and your yet to be conceived child -- sounds like he/she will be very fortunate to have such a thoughtful mother.
Sorry if this post sounds a little fragmented -- I just woke up from a three hour nap that was supposed to be just a snooze for 15 minutes. (damn leg training!)
It does change things if YOU allow it to be the only thing in your life. Too many people define themselves by either WHAT they do to earn a living or define themselves SOLELY by being a parent. If you believe that you are more dimensional than that, you shall be. As Spatts said, it is all about attitude.
As for money, vacations, etc.....as with any big commitment or decision, if you so want it, it does all work out if you do the work or necessary planning to make it work. You CAN have it all...work, baby, relationship and SELF. Working is tough -- and if you don't want to work and be a mom that is fine -- if you are concerned HOW you will manage maintaining work -- it really becomes all about a schedule and discipline (just like training).
I used to want TONS of children. I have my son, got divorced and then luckily met the man of my dreams and my partner for life. Should be fortunate enough to become a mother again, then great.....seeing that smile you talked about from the men as they look at their children is extremely heartwarming...and being mother while hard work is absoluately incredible.
I feel like I am a better mother having to juggle it all. My son learns alot of instrinsic life lessons from our need and desire to have it all. And, the time I do spend with him is much more quality time than I could have imagined. I am much more focused on him than I think I would be if I was home all the time.
Good luck to you......and your husband and your yet to be conceived child -- sounds like he/she will be very fortunate to have such a thoughtful mother.
Sorry if this post sounds a little fragmented -- I just woke up from a three hour nap that was supposed to be just a snooze for 15 minutes. (damn leg training!)