Well, I'm a mess. let's start off at that. I haven't slept in 2 weeks, and I have to force myself to eat during the day. I've lost 10lbs in a week and 1/2... and not the healthy way (on a side note, I just started going to the gym, and I'm absolutely LOVING it).
We've been living together for almost a year now... since June of '05. It's been a weird situation from the beginning, and I probably should have left a long time ago. But regardless, I'm here now.
I'll try to make this as short as possible, I don't want to bore you to death with the stupid details.
But, we've been having problems recently, a lot. He's confined himself to the couch for the last 3 weeks or so. and about 2 weeks ago, asked me to start looking for my own apartment. I've been head over heels in love with him since day one. I really thought he was the right one. It's just that unexplainable connection you get with someone. We started as friends, and it just went from there, and has felt right the entire way. Well, anyway, it's been bad a lot lately, and apparantly he doesn't feel the same way anymore So, I told him I'd leave for a week or so, to get myself together, give him time to himself to calm down and think about it without me being there, etc. Give us both time to just really look at the situation and decide if it was really just a hopeless case.
I don't have a car right now, because it's broken, but should be fixed later this week, that's when I was going to leave for a bit, maybe go back to my parents' in NY, or stay at a friends around here in PA for a bit. Well, I made him promise me, and swear to me, that he wouldn't bring another girl home, or go to a girls place, etc. (It's been brought up before, etc). He agreed.
Well, he was gone all day today running errands... for 4 hours. Now, I know he's a busy boy running his own business... but no one takes 4 hours to run errands. for the year I've been here, he never runs errands for more than 1 and 1/2 hrs... MAX! So, I'm no fool, I know he's been talking to my "friend", let's call her Cheryl. No big deal, he's allowed to have girl friends. But they've been talking a lot... not a normal amount. I'm no fool, I know he likes her, whether he admits it or not, I know. I guess it's that woman instinct that we're all plagued with. lol Well, my friend comes to pick me up to go to the gym, and I make an excuse that I want to go change out of these sweatpants into another pair, and if he could swing by my apartment.
I get home, open the door, and walk into the living room. I see a blue sweater, I hear a phone beeping... missed calls... a purse... i look to my right down the hall... I see socks... girl shoes... that AREN'T mine... pants... I walk into OUR bedroom... and I see him cuddled up in bed trying to hide her under the blankets. I rip them off... she jumps up with her saggy boobs and jiggly belly, and says, OH! like she was surprised to see me in my own home
I flipped out. yelled at her to leave and get the fuck dressed and if I ever see her again, I'll kill her. I slap him across the face, and he gets pissed at me!!! He has the AUDACITY to get mad at ME! when he's banging a "friend" of mine in the bed I shared with him for a year, in the sheets that I bought US for christmas!
Needless to say, I blew up, screamed at him, cried, broke down, started shaking, and he was just yelling at me for a while, then just started repeating he was sorry. I wish I could believe him. I let myself love him more than I've ever loved anyone before in my life. I dated my ex for 3 years and we had talked about getting married, and I didn't love him NEARLY as much as this. I moved my life here from NY to be with him... he's the main reason I stayed here. We both work for ourselves, but we have joint ventures quite often (he runs a car performance shop, I buy and sell sports cars, I contract him to fix them, etc). And I just don't know what to do from here. I don't know if I can deal with this.
I stripped the sheets and pillow cases off the bed, and threw them in the truck. I'm probably going to burn them tomorrow. I made him buy me all new ones (and a sushi dinner that I probably won't be able to eat). At least he had the foresight to go out and buy a 12 pack of trojans
I just really don't know what to do now. I'm a total mess, I'm still shaking and sick to my stomach. I don't have many friends around here, the only friends I have... are really his friends, or friends of his friends. She was pretty much the only girl around here that I knew, aside from his friends girlfriend. I just really need to vent or something. I'm a wreck
-Em
We've been living together for almost a year now... since June of '05. It's been a weird situation from the beginning, and I probably should have left a long time ago. But regardless, I'm here now.
I'll try to make this as short as possible, I don't want to bore you to death with the stupid details.
But, we've been having problems recently, a lot. He's confined himself to the couch for the last 3 weeks or so. and about 2 weeks ago, asked me to start looking for my own apartment. I've been head over heels in love with him since day one. I really thought he was the right one. It's just that unexplainable connection you get with someone. We started as friends, and it just went from there, and has felt right the entire way. Well, anyway, it's been bad a lot lately, and apparantly he doesn't feel the same way anymore So, I told him I'd leave for a week or so, to get myself together, give him time to himself to calm down and think about it without me being there, etc. Give us both time to just really look at the situation and decide if it was really just a hopeless case.
I don't have a car right now, because it's broken, but should be fixed later this week, that's when I was going to leave for a bit, maybe go back to my parents' in NY, or stay at a friends around here in PA for a bit. Well, I made him promise me, and swear to me, that he wouldn't bring another girl home, or go to a girls place, etc. (It's been brought up before, etc). He agreed.
Well, he was gone all day today running errands... for 4 hours. Now, I know he's a busy boy running his own business... but no one takes 4 hours to run errands. for the year I've been here, he never runs errands for more than 1 and 1/2 hrs... MAX! So, I'm no fool, I know he's been talking to my "friend", let's call her Cheryl. No big deal, he's allowed to have girl friends. But they've been talking a lot... not a normal amount. I'm no fool, I know he likes her, whether he admits it or not, I know. I guess it's that woman instinct that we're all plagued with. lol Well, my friend comes to pick me up to go to the gym, and I make an excuse that I want to go change out of these sweatpants into another pair, and if he could swing by my apartment.
I get home, open the door, and walk into the living room. I see a blue sweater, I hear a phone beeping... missed calls... a purse... i look to my right down the hall... I see socks... girl shoes... that AREN'T mine... pants... I walk into OUR bedroom... and I see him cuddled up in bed trying to hide her under the blankets. I rip them off... she jumps up with her saggy boobs and jiggly belly, and says, OH! like she was surprised to see me in my own home
I flipped out. yelled at her to leave and get the fuck dressed and if I ever see her again, I'll kill her. I slap him across the face, and he gets pissed at me!!! He has the AUDACITY to get mad at ME! when he's banging a "friend" of mine in the bed I shared with him for a year, in the sheets that I bought US for christmas!
Needless to say, I blew up, screamed at him, cried, broke down, started shaking, and he was just yelling at me for a while, then just started repeating he was sorry. I wish I could believe him. I let myself love him more than I've ever loved anyone before in my life. I dated my ex for 3 years and we had talked about getting married, and I didn't love him NEARLY as much as this. I moved my life here from NY to be with him... he's the main reason I stayed here. We both work for ourselves, but we have joint ventures quite often (he runs a car performance shop, I buy and sell sports cars, I contract him to fix them, etc). And I just don't know what to do from here. I don't know if I can deal with this.
I stripped the sheets and pillow cases off the bed, and threw them in the truck. I'm probably going to burn them tomorrow. I made him buy me all new ones (and a sushi dinner that I probably won't be able to eat). At least he had the foresight to go out and buy a 12 pack of trojans
I just really don't know what to do now. I'm a total mess, I'm still shaking and sick to my stomach. I don't have many friends around here, the only friends I have... are really his friends, or friends of his friends. She was pretty much the only girl around here that I knew, aside from his friends girlfriend. I just really need to vent or something. I'm a wreck
-Em