Question for the ladies, definition of a MAN?

[H-isBack]

hey girls, ive got a question How would you define what makes a man a MAN? what are the defining characteristics that makes a MAN? Should he be more like the hunter gatherer . all muscle and no brain, some muscle and intelligent, or neither, what would you want, what would be your expectations in lifes ups and downs?

H

 

[FigureSkater]

Nobody wants to date a Ken Doll. A good body is nice, but he has to have a brain up there, as well as a personality.

 

[Sassy69]

Needs to be intelligent, responsible, sense of humor, sense of self, awareness of othes, respect for others and himself, love of his mother/father, be able to communicate. Physically speaking, must respect his own body, (for me) must have some shape & discipline in his maintenance of his body, habits & hygiene. As far as ups & downs, be able to discuss issues, share in decisions, be open to interesting / creative solutions, agree to disagree when appropriate & not carry grudges. Revel in the good times, appreciate & learn from the bad times and remember them relative to the good times.

Also helps if he has a job, meets his obligations, has his own house (i.e. doesn't live w/ parents or weird pothead friend from college) has his own car w/ air conditioning (i.e. doesn't want to drive mine). Also appreciated if he keeps a well-maintained lawn "down below".

 

[jenscats5]

Needs to be intelligent, responsible, sense of humor, sense of self, awareness of othes, respect for others and himself, love of his mother/father, be able to communicate. Physically speaking, must respect his own body, (for me) must have some shape & discipline in his maintenance of his body, habits & hygiene. As far as ups & downs, be able to discuss issues, share in decisions, be open to interesting / creative solutions, agree to disagree when appropriate & not carry grudges. Revel in the good times, appreciate & learn from the bad times and remember them relative to the good times.

Also helps if he has a job, meets his obligations, has his own house (i.e. doesn't live w/ parents or weird pothead friend from college) has his own car w/ air conditioning (i.e. doesn't want to drive mine). Also appreciated if he keeps a well-maintained lawn "down below".

What she said..... and able to carry a convo./debate without feeling threatened -- I like some intelligent conversation.... respect for my animals

 

[Sassy69]

respect for my animals

If you dont' respect the pussy, forget it!




(I'm referring to my fat loveable cat you know...)

 

[jenscats5]

If you dont' respect the pussy, forget it!




(I'm referring to my fat loveable cat you know...)

I looooove my cats.... I once told T that he needs to make a better effort to get along with Lindsay. She was here first you know..... LOL

 

[H-isBack]

You know most guys are assholes, i know that, im a guy, but if you take a look at this, my buddy has a neighbour whos verbaly abused his wife, in fact he shouted out the window at her that he was going to slap her, my bud is not a fighter, in fact i offered to slap his neighbour, but its situations like this that i think "what is expected off you, what is expected of a MAN in this situation?" my bud couldnt handle this guy physically but he was going ahead anyway, i stopped him - he would have gotten himself killed, he blurted out later that he was scared his wife thought he was a coward, his wife would have probably kicked this guys ass, but he is now worried about the fact that his wife may have lost respect for him. These are the kinds of situations where a thinking man stops and says , hey what are the consequences of this, but what do others expect??

H

PS anyone know shez

 

[jenscats5]

You know most guys are assholes, i know that, im a guy, but if you take a look at this, my buddy has a neighbour whos verbaly abused his wife, in fact he shouted out the window at her that he was going to slap her, my bud is not a fighter, in fact i offered to slap his neighbour, but its situations like this that i think "what is expected off you, what is expected of a MAN in this situation?" my bud couldnt handle this guy physically but he was going ahead anyway, i stopped him - he would have gotten himself killed, he blurted out later that he was scared his wife thought he was a coward, his wife would have probably kicked this guys ass, but he is now worried about the fact that his wife may have lost respect for him. These are the kinds of situations where a thinking man stops and says , hey what are the consequences of this, but what do others expect??

H

PS anyone know shez

Sooooo, what's your question?? Physical/Domestic abuse is never acceptable and jumping in & hitting the abuser could only escalate the situation.... ie he gets beat down & takes it out on his wife.... Hitting this abuser is not a solution...

 

[Sassy69]

Listen, first of all people mistake use of violence for strength, leadership, respect. My comment is that if the guy is a such a wuss that he basically has to throw a tantrum and threaten violence because he has no control of himself, then he needs to step back & take a look at himself. Part of being a "man" or just a responsible person is being able to control the urge to just get pissed -- that's the simplest, most basic, primal response. If he's got the balls to get beyond the hissyfit and deal w/ the problem then he won't be reduced to about the equivalent of throwing a tantrum in the toy section at Target, but also threatening violence that he could conceivably inflict, and since he did it in public, easily end up in jail & become someone else's bitch. Then he'll learn that he isnt' the biggest meanie on the block.

 

[H-isBack]

Listen, first of all people mistake use of violence for strength, leadership, respect. My comment is that if the guy is a such a wuss that he basically has to throw a tantrum and threaten violence because he has no control of himself, then he needs to step back & take a look at himself. Part of being a "man" or just a responsible person is being able to control the urge to just get pissed -- that's the simplest, most basic, primal response. If he's got the balls to get beyond the hissyfit and deal w/ the problem then he won't be reduced to about the equivalent of throwing a tantrum in the toy section at Target, but also threatening violence that he could conceivably inflict, and since he did it in public, easily end up in jail & become someone else's bitch. Then he'll learn that he isnt' the biggest meanie on the block.

Thanks sassy i appreciate that, its given me some food for thought, and ill think about this and try and relay it to my bud, thank you.

H